cutiecall Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Hi, What was I thinking? In March of this past year I ended an engagement. In June I met a guy I really liked immediately. We spent an amazing 2 weeks together and at the end of that we had sex. It felt right and I thought it was ok even though it happened quickly. Our chemistry was off the charts. Well, pretty quickly after that everything went downhill. Something happened at a party that I got upset about and I left it without telling him and it got worse from there. He pulled away and I freaked out. So since then I have only seen him twice- wow! And we have texted alot. I thought about him everyday though and wanted to see him everyday. Just a few days ago I couldn't take it anymore and told him we shouldn't text anymore because I never see him and when I do ask him to do something he says no. I know it is ridiculous. No I'm definately not doing that again. I'm wondering why the hell did I do that? Why did I spend so much time on someone that obviously wasn't that interested. It is ridiculous. I'm glad I'm getting a grip again but I hope I never do that again.
DuskCrush Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Well seeing that you've only met him twice since June...it seems pretty safe to say that you should move on from this non-situation. Don't beat yourself up about it...sometimes it takes a while to see that someone isn't interested or to accept that he's no longer an option. Feelings change. You had a broken engagement this year--give yourself a break...
Karma20 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Rebound relationships don't work. Just because you ended things doesn't mean you were ready for anything. If you had met him further down the road you probably wouldn't have freaked out on him.
Author cutiecall Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Thanks for the comments! I appreciate it. Yes, I do think things might have been different if I met him at a different time but then maybe not. I guess I will never know. I'm starting to feel better about this situation. A new guy I'm dating just text me and asked me out for next week after I get back from out of town. Yeah
ecm Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I think many of us go through that same chasing game. If you ended it, you might not have cared. It sucks that our emotions cause us to act certain ways that aren't always easy to control. I think sometimes fear of abandonment (especially after a broken engagement) makes you feel like you want them just because THEY are leaving. Sucks. I might be wrong in your situation, but I've experienced this a lot. It's almost like the person who gets fired who has to say "no, I quit".
Author cutiecall Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 yes ecm emotions can definately be hard to control when it comes to relationships and men. I find that overall I'm a pretty easy going, flexible person. With relationships with guys though it seems to be different. I guess there is alot more emotions involved. I can see why some people never want to get close to people. It is easier and you stay in control of your emotions.
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