StarryEyes86 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Here's the background story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t257258/ Now he's been texting me around 11pm-12am about 2-3 times a week. And they are all short texts (Hi, Hey, How are you). I'm tired of him texting me and it seems he doesn't get the hint from my non-responsiveness for the last 2 weeks. I want him to leave me alone and stop contacting me, especially that late at night. I have no interest in going on a date with him ever again, he hasn't attempted to make things up to me either. It's like he acknowledged what he did but doesn't care about me wasting time in my day waiting around for him (technically for 15 minutes). What bugged me even more was that he didn't even have the courtesy to respond to my text asking him where he was and then texts me 5 hours later saying, "Hey what's up". I thought my silence would be enough of a hint but I guess not.
DuskCrush Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 This guy is weird! Who texts someone you barely know at that hour?! Hmmm sounds like you might have to do something because he might keep on texting you. Give it two more weeks...he just might get the hint by then.
cutiecall Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 That is weird. He stands you up and then keeps texting you. Maybe he is hoping you will invite him over for a booty call. I had a guy ask me out and then would cancel and then ask me out again. This actually happened 3 times and then I told him not to contact me anymore. I shouldn't have given him that many chances but it is a long story. Men do weird things!
cutiecall Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 He will also send me random texts like Merry Christmas, etc.
musemaj11 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 You know what? These men had it happen to them by other women. Now they are taking it out on you as a revenge. Yea it sucks to be you.
daphne Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 The guy sounds like a nutjob. I don't think he's going to go away willingly since he's been doing it for a few weeks already. It might be time to let him know you're not interested firmly, with no wiggle room. I know how annoying it can be when a guy's persistent that you want to go away. Very uncomfortable.
ecm Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I don't know about other carriers, but I know you can block numbers from contacting you on Verizon. What a f*ck-stick.
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Unfortunately T-Mobile doesn't have anything that cool...yet. I'll give it another week before I say something to him...it's more annoying than anything and it makes me go, "WTF? You stood me up and then keep texting me like it never happened?" I don't get it.
Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I don't understand why you don't take 3 seconds and just text him: "Please stop texting me." Problem solved!
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 I don't understand why you don't take 3 seconds and just text him: "Please stop texting me." Problem solved! Mainly because I don't want to spend ANY energy on this guy. It's not my fault he doesn't take a hint. I've rejected guys who couldn't take a hint via text before and it has never worked for me. Which is why I prefer NC as much as possible and if he responded emotionally/douchebagily...I don't the energy to deal with that. I couldn't care less about this guy so much that I hate to even bother texting him back. And most of the time I'm sleeping when he texts me, and I wake up, read it and move on with my day. So it hasn't really disrupting my normal life.
sigurpol Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 So obnoxious. Earlier this year, I was dating a girl who was very hot and cold and eventually just stopped talking to me at one point without discussing a breakup or anything of the sort. Then, weeks later I would get texts at 12-3AM that just said, "hey". This went on for months and I never responded. Eventually it stopped! I know it's annoying and half-assed (and that's being generous) on their part, but thankfully it's just "hey" or "hi's". Not drawn out or anything of the sort. If you can put up with it (I eventually found mine to be entertaining and take bets with my friends as to what day of the week this girl would text me), just let him keep wasting his time. Or, of course, just tell him, "Stop.It."
Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Mainly because I don't want to spend ANY energy on this guy. You've started two threads about him, that's energy. You could stop wasting your time and energy just by nipping it in the bud. Unless you secretly like the attention...
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 You've started two threads about him, that's energy. You could stop wasting your time and energy just by nipping it in the bud. Unless you secretly like the attention... I'm apathetic to it. I didn't want to give HIM that energy is the best way to describe it. But I don't secretly like that kind of attention, especially since I've paid the consequences during my life from guys like that, and my experience has always told to just go with NC. I would go on and say "How dare you" and all that ****, but I don't care. UPDATE: I did just text him like Star Gazer recommended. Now he's sending me 3-4 page texts about how sorry he is, wants me to give him another chance, explaining why he stood me up, etc.. So yeah...great advice Star Gazer...now I've apparently sent him over the edge. I'm calling T-Mobile right now to find out any way to block this psycho's number. This was exactly what I was trying to avoid...
Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Oh sure, now it's all my fault. Send another: "I asked you nicely to stop texting me. Do I need to file a restraining order?"
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 No it's not your fault...but you accusing me of liking the attention and your know it all attitude just made me want to prove a point that I didn't like the creepy attention (sorry that really got me) and I decided to take your advice and just text the guy. I'm just really on edge right now . **** it...I'm not texting this psycho back.
ecm Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 how about letting him text you a few more times, then texting back "I just got this phone and this new number today. Who is this?" or "Im sorry you'd like me to give you a second chance, but I just got my new phone today...for my 13th birthday. Do I know you?" or "Since you are a phd candidate, I'll assume you understand the definition of waiver. You, by being a d-bag, have waived your right to any further response" or "a restraining order won't look so good on your record, Mr PHD" this could be fun.
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Hahahaha thanks for the ideas, ecm. I did the whole, "a restraining order won't look so good on your record, Mr PHD" and I haven't heard from him since.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 some guys are slower than others. eventually your nonresponsiveness'll sink in. stay NC. worry if it persists for more than a month.
ecm Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Hahahaha thanks for the ideas, ecm. I did the whole, "a restraining order won't look so good on your record, Mr PHD" and I haven't heard from him since. Ha! I love it! Please give updates bc I'd likw to know how it goes/ if it worked for real!! Good luck. What a chooch.
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