none12345 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Hi there,i have some problems i hope you can help me with. Recently i have been feeling a little down and i feel worthless. I just feel as there is nothing good in my life and every morning i feel like there is no reason to wake up or for me to look forward to in the day. Here is a little background information about me. I am a university student and i am in my 3rd year. I am a criminology major and my career goal is to become a police officer one day. This is something i know i want to do for sure,so i am working hard towards it. I had a few jobs as a security gaurd to gain experience in the law enforcement field, yet somehow i feel like im behind in the game and that it will be a long time before i achieve my career goals. I also have another passion and its music. I play various instruments, the guitar and piano, i write my own music and i just pretty much love music. However, when i listen to musicians on the radio or talented people on youtube, i begin to feel like even though my music is 'decent', i am no where near as good as those people, actually my stuff isnt even considered 'good' and i lose motivation to play my music for a while. Its not like i havent worked hard because i did, i took lessons, i practice yet i have not improved much to be considered good or even alright. Finally, my social life is practically non-existant. The only social time i ever spend is with my family (parents and sister, sometimes cousins). I have no friends of my own. Especially with the holidays, i feel so alone. Its always been hard for me to make friends and i dont know why. I have one good friend that i call him 'brother' but we dont even hang out much and i dont even get invited to any parties they have. Other people who i talk to are people i met online and they live too far to hang out. Im almost home every friday/saturday/sunday night. Its really hard and i just dont know what to do anymore. I feel really down. Sorry i rambled on for 5 long paragraphs. I just dont know what to do anymore. Thanks for taking the time to read my post. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
knaveman Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I'm going through a bit of season depression right now too. It's the first time in a very long time that I've been even remotely depressed. It still sucks. There is no magic advice to make you feel better, no one thing to do. All you can do is wait and it will pass. That's the beauty of impermanence, nothing stays the way it is for long. While you wait try to find the things that do make you happy right now, in the midst of depression, and spend some time with them. There is a little ray of sunshine somewhere, even on the darkest days, they're just harder to find sometimes. Once you feel better you will see that your education and employment are on the right track, it just takes time. You'll get where you're going eventually. If you want to get there sooner you may have to work harder. Same goes for music, if you want to be better stop comparing yourself to everyone else and just focus on practicing. The saying is true, practice makes perfect. You get out what you put in and that goes for everything. As far as your social life, don't do anything about it until the depression passes. Trying to be social right now will only blow up in your face. Trust me, I've tried. Other than that, go for a long walk. Exercise is a great anti-depressant.
Karma20 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 The hoildays can be really hard for people. You could maybe join a church group or volunteer somewhere or join a gym and maybe you could meet people that way. My friend just got a divorce and wanted to be alone so she went to the same bar a lot by herself and she actually met some good friends that way.
Gold Pile Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Life is a series of ups and downs, the trick is not to anything drastic when you're down. When you're in uniform, you'll have a number of "cop groupies" to keep you company.
jean-luc sisko Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I would suggest thinking more positively, and developing a plan for your life, in the short-run at least. make an appointment with a therapist regarding your depression, and join clubs/groups to develop friendships.
Author none12345 Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Thank you all for replying. I think its a case of the winter blues but at the same time there are some merit to what i say. I get the same advice from everyone to join clubs/events and etc and clearly it is not working so im just searching for a different answer.
Surrealist Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Just a couple of questions about the music you write and play... Do you play the music with a band? Play it on your own? What instruments, if any, do you use? You cannot expect overnight success. Look up popular bands and you can learn about some of the struggles they went through before they found their tune and niche. Things didn't just fall in the laps for a lot of groups. One of my favorite groups is KISS and they struggled for years. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. Keep going you might just hit a target that may get something. Btw are you Australian?
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