Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Does your husband (or boyfriend/fiance) act like a baby when he is sick? My husband sure does! It's crazy, he acts like he is dying or something. He has been sick for the last week and it has been really hard. Is this just a man thing? I would like to hear from men also, why this behavior occurs?
tinktronik Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 mine acts like a big baby all the time. (I'm out of sorts today) But I am the big whiner when sick. It does not happen too often, I would just let him be a big baby.
Minnie09 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 My ex did the same. In his case, it was merely an attention thing. He would enjoy the extra attention he got out of it. I think it's also a situation in which they can be weak without being judged. Sick=physically weak=letting go of responsibility=handing over to caretaker (wife), and everybody will understand that. Noone will judge him. He can veg out and has a great excuse.
KraftDinner Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Mine is totally like this. OMG. He's crabby, down, pathetic, lies on the couch wrapped in a blanket, whines... over a COLD. When I'm sick, I complain about stuff like a congested head or whatever, but I get on with it. Unless I'm dizzy or feverish, I just do everything I'd normally do.
Art_Critic Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 He just needs to be breast fed .... I'm no baby when I'm sick.. Sicks days away from work in the last 32 years at work are under 6. Unless I'm runing a fever I go to work and don't complain too much..
carhill Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I personally have no clue. Perhaps it's a function of socialization. I can't remember, short of being in the hospital, missing work or school from being sick or injured. Probably the worst was passing out one night in the bathroom while sick with the flu, breaking the toilet tank lid and window with my head, and going to work the next morning like nothing had happened. My boss never knew. Perhaps I was blessed with soft hands and a hard head. FWIW, my mom was an old school, believing in home remedies and toughing it out. That's how I was socialized. Perhaps your H's experience was different. I imagine some is nature and some is nurture. Also, some men put on a front for other men but let their guard down at home with their wives.
tinktronik Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Mine is totally like this. OMG. He's crabby, down, pathetic, lies on the couch wrapped in a blanket, whines... over a COLD. When I'm sick, I complain about stuff like a congested head or whatever, but I get on with it. Unless I'm dizzy or feverish, I just do everything I'd normally do.That's me! The reason I do it is because I just don't feel good. I'm the boss though, so my laptop is work, and I'm always at work based on that assessment.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 Mine is totally like this. OMG. He's crabby, down, pathetic, lies on the couch wrapped in a blanket, whines... over a COLD. When I'm sick, I complain about stuff like a congested head or whatever, but I get on with it. Unless I'm dizzy or feverish, I just do everything I'd normally do. Haha, yep. When I came home last night from work, he was sitting in his chair with a blanket wrapped around his head..he looked like an eskimo! The minute I walked in the door he asked me to make him hot chocolate. Oy. He's stayed home sick a total of 4 days in the past week 1/2. He went to work and then came home sick. Of course he gets unlimited sick days so what does he care. Unless I am deathly ill I go to work and do everything I will normally do. A little sore throat/cough/sniffles don't get me down.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 FWIW, my mom was an old school, believing in home remedies and toughing it out. That's how I was socialized. Perhaps your H's experience was different. I imagine some is nature and some is nurture. Yeah, this may be a possibility. My MIL is very caring and nuturing so I can see her babying him to death when he got sick as a child. So maybe he just transferred that onto me?
Feelin Frisky Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 We just wanna be nursed. Goo-goo gah-gah, nursed. Lean over and give us a pacifier and we'll recover.
young&inlove Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Oh thank god my husband isn’t the only BIG BABY around! He gets a cold, a headache even a "tummy" ache he is a MAJOR PAIN. He complains about everything, calls into work, yet still has his friends come over the same night to "cheer him up". BUTTTTT - When I am not feeling good he does take care of me. I will come home from work and have a clean house, dinner made and everything taken care of. Just because he is a baby doenst mean I hate taking care of him.
denise_xo Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Does your husband (or boyfriend/fiance) act like a baby when he is sick? My husband sure does! It's crazy, he acts like he is dying or something. He has been sick for the last week and it has been really hard. Is this just a man thing? I would like to hear from men also, why this behavior occurs? Totally. I have seen several men like that but my current partner is something completely beyond anything else I've experienced. I dread it every time he hints that he might be getting sick.
anne1707 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Sorry LB but my H does not do the man-flu thing. He refuses to give in to illness and will continue to work etc and not complain either. If he takes to his sick bed then he is definitely in a very bad way.
Els Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Oh dear. I know I'm a huge baby when I'm sick! I know it can be annoying but really, since I doubt he gets sick too often, I would just put up with it on occasion. My bf is the other extreme.. He won't even TELL me that he's sick until I initiate something that he wouldn't want to do while sick (sex, going out, etc). Won't ask me for anything and brushes off most offers. Sometimes I'd rather he allow himself to be a baby for once.
Art_Critic Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 He refuses to give in to illness and will continue to work etc and not complain either. We have a long term employee here that in 29 years of being employed here he has never taken a sick day. He prides himself on that record. So he toughs it out if he is sick.. and goes to work and just closes the door to his office.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 Oy, he is saying how he can't talk to me because his throat is too sore. I'm trying not to give him a hard time because I know he doesn't feel good, but he certainly is milking this! He is being a drama king...
Art_Critic Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Oy, he is saying how he can't talk to me because his throat is too sore. I'm trying not to give him a hard time because I know he doesn't feel good, but he certainly is milking this! He is being a drama king... Has he been to the Dr or Doc in the box or quick clinic at the drug store ?
Els Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Oh c'mon, LB, give the man a break! So he doesn't feel like talking to you when his throat is sore. Makes sense. Unless he's making you make his important phone calls for him or something..
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 Has he been to the Dr or Doc in the box or quick clinic at the drug store ? He went to the doctor yesterday and got some medication. He basically has a bad cold. He said he is starting to feel better but the wining hasn't stopped! Oh c'mon, LB, give the man a break! So he doesn't feel like talking to you when his throat is sore. Makes sense. Unless he's making you make his important phone calls for him or something.. It's the way he said it..haha:laugh: Seriously, I will try to cut him a break. I hope he gets better soon, I'm getting stressed trying to do everything for him, the apt, and work full time. Plus I am having surgery next week. Ugh!
tinktronik Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 He went to the doctor yesterday and got some medication. He basically has a bad cold. He said he is starting to feel better but the wining hasn't stopped! It's the way he said it..haha:laugh: Seriously, I will try to cut him a break. I hope he gets better soon, I'm getting stressed trying to do everything for him, the apt, and work full time. Plus I am having surgery next week. Ugh! Let's hope he does not get 'oh so sick' of caring for you when you are not well after surgery. Seriously, how many times a year could he possibly be sick? Is it really a big deal to have to baby him on those days and clean up after the 2 of you?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 Let's hope he does not get 'oh so sick' of caring for you when you are not well after surgery. Seriously, how many times a year could he possibly be sick? Is it really a big deal to have to baby him on those days and clean up after the 2 of you? That's why he went to the doctor to get meds, so he could get better in time for my surgery next week. Plus my birthday is in 2 days, and I was hoping he would be better so we could go to a romantic dinner. He has actually been sick quite a few times this year, and it's usually for an extended period of time which is weird. Normally when I get sick, it lasts a few days, I take meds and I get over it. But with him, he is usually sick at LEAST a week and calls off work. It's like his immune system isn't strong enough or something. If it was for a few days I could handle it, but he usually gets sick for at least a week or two.
PerpetualMotion Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Oh dear. I know I'm a huge baby when I'm sick! I know it can be annoying but really, since I doubt he gets sick too often, I would just put up with it on occasion. My bf is the other extreme.. He won't even TELL me that he's sick until I initiate something that he wouldn't want to do while sick (sex, going out, etc). Won't ask me for anything and brushes off most offers. Sometimes I'd rather he allow himself to be a baby for once. I'm like your bf. If people notice that I'm not well it's only because I become even quieter than I usually am.
laRubiaBonita Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 my H is like that too. he will camp out on the couch and hog it up, and sometimes he will just whine, but never tell me what is exactly wrong. i tell him if he feels bad he needs to be in bed resting... but no- he has to have an audience (me). and i swear he is a slight hypochondriact... if his throat even tickles he thinks he is getting sick. he got mad at me once a said something like i can always explain everything away; meaning his symptoms (there are usually environmental factors). but he was diagnosed with lyme disease right after we were married- and he was bad shape for months. he is doing better now but still has periods of attacks. imagine having to deal with your sick newly wed husband for a year and a half!!! it is enough to make you think 'what did i sign up for?'
Star Gazer Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I'm not married, but none of my long term BFs acted that way. They found sickness annoying because it prevented them from being 100%, but there was no whining or theatrics like eskimotizing oneself with a blanket. Skiman was particular tough about sickness. He just dealt with it. He would stay home if he was really sick though, but moreso to avoid getting his own employees sick. On the other hand, I rarely get sick. When I do, I get sick-sick and can be quite the baby about it.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 I'm not married, but none of my long term BFs acted that way. They found sickness annoying because it prevented them from being 100%, but there was no whining or theatrics like eskimotizing oneself with a blanket. Haha, yeah and he thinks I'm dramatic. I think it goes back to the fact that his mom probably babied him when he was sick and so he has projected that need onto me. Either that or he's just nuts. I love him though. He can be a bit of a hypochondriac I think also, he had a rash on his back and claimed he had scarlet fever!
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