nikos21 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 (edited) Hi. I will try to keep it short. I met my ex in summer 2009, when she was on holidays, and we kept being in LDR for 4 months. The things were amazing, but she broke up with me because there were not any common plans to live close to each other in the future. I met her again last summer.. and we ended again together after some days. Because of work and studies, I am planning to move to her country in less than 2 years. However 2 years its a long time. Things were going great, but because of a misunderstanding I broke up with her about 3 months ago. Unfortunately we had a little fight and she didn't want to begin again.. (nothing really bad said though) I miss her. Since I met her there hasn't been a day I havent thought about her... I never met another girl like her, never felt for someone like that. It was the same for her, I was also her first boyfriend. Right now we still are facebook friends. She keeps some video's of us still at her page, along with some photos. And she keeps "like"ing my posts. However she wont talk to me. I think she believes its really over, because probably she doesn't think I will go at her country obviously, and if she talked to me she couldn't move on. 2 Years its a long time, and meanwhile, we will see other people obviously. But I will be there to continue my studies, and after for work. Do you think she keeps a window open, when we live near? we are 21, and we never shared a bad moment when we were together. It was always amazing, but when we were away it went bad, because we couldn't meet often. Edited December 28, 2010 by nikos21
Karma20 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I had a LDR and they hard to maintain. It takes a lot of work on both parts. Two years is a long time and feelings can change even if you were living in the same place. Try not to read into anything she does. In two years you will have your answer as to whether or not you guys have a chance.
aerogurl87 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Two years is a long time but if she truly loves you and you truly love her, it'll work itself out in the end. The odds are slim because everything changes with time, but things can work themselves out if you two really want to be together.
folieadeux Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 There seems to be a lot of back and forth with your relationship. When you're physically together, everything's good. When you're not, you break up. It doesn't sound like an LDR would work in this situation. Two years is a long time to commit to someone you're just FB friends with at best at this point. Only time will tell what the future holds for you both together when that time comes to pass, however I would in no way put my life on hold for her in the meantime.
Author nikos21 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 There seems to be a lot of back and forth with your relationship. When you're physically together, everything's good. When you're not, you break up. It doesn't sound like an LDR would work in this situation. Two years is a long time to commit to someone you're just FB friends with at best at this point. Only time will tell what the future holds for you both together when that time comes to pass, however I would in no way put my life on hold for her in the meantime. Definately I wont put my life on hold. And probably by then the feelings will be gone and only some memories will remain. Even now, I dont even want to be with her with the distance. I guess we shall see after this time has passed. I try to be possitive. But do you think there can be a chance even with most feelings gone, starting from begining again (because we still like each other for example)? I ask mostly because nobody of the people I Know has ever been in a situation like this..! Thanks!:laugh:
folieadeux Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Definately I wont put my life on hold. And probably by then the feelings will be gone and only some memories will remain. Even now, I dont even want to be with her with the distance. I guess we shall see after this time has passed. I try to be possitive. But do you think there can be a chance even with most feelings gone, starting from begining again (because we still like each other for example)? I ask mostly because nobody of the people I Know has ever been in a situation like this..! Thanks!:laugh: I honestly think the chances are slim to none. Not because of the distance, but because of where you both are in your lives right now. In two year's time, you'll more than likely both be with other people and, like you said, this will just be a memory.
aerogurl87 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Definately I wont put my life on hold. And probably by then the feelings will be gone and only some memories will remain. Even now, I dont even want to be with her with the distance. I guess we shall see after this time has passed. I try to be possitive. But do you think there can be a chance even with most feelings gone, starting from begining again (because we still like each other for example)? I ask mostly because nobody of the people I Know has ever been in a situation like this..! Thanks!:laugh: It could happen, I mean my ex boyfriend still loves me almost a year and a half after we broke up and we've spoken on the phone like 3 times total during that time, went NC for about 4 months, and the rest of the time has been limited contact while we've both dated other people. So I guess it just depends on the people involved and how much you really love each other. I don't believe true love ever really dies, it just lies dormant if it's not nurtured on a daily basis. But once something reignites it, it can be just as strong as it ever was.
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