Mrlonelyone Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 The ideal and idea of a dating relationship we have is of two people somewhat bonded with the overall social picture not playing a role. I don't know about that. Speaking about relationships in general and not my issues in particular.... It has been my experience that social support of some kind is needed for most relationships to succeed on a long term basis. By that I mean approval of the coupling, material support, and moral support for the coupling. Most pairings it seems are not going to be strong enough to last without said support. With the social pressures working to push the couple to gether, naturally that can endure more than one in which forces work to pull the couple apart. Some couples get to hear whispers of what's he/she doing with him/her. Such and such is a big odd ball. He/she can do better. etc etc. Then some people would suggest to one or the other why dont you date mr/ms X.? actively trying to break the coupling up. Where as other pairings get to hear Their so cute together. etc and people around them try to help the pair to persist. i.e. making it easy for them to see eachother ... actively helping the couple deal with disputes and counciling them etc. I am wrong?
january2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Nope, you're not wrong. Not in my experience. If family, friends, the community and the wider environment, don't support the relationship then they create potential areas of conflict and challenge. On the other hand, there are always heart-warming anecdotal stories of how some couples overcame all the odds to stay together. I like those stories.
zengirl Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I don't know if social support is needed, but if social forces are actively against it, it is going to be more difficult.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I think that when people in couples spend all their free time together and never do anything with friends and other people, it's not healthy or sustainable. In fact, I think being totally wrapped up in nothing but the relationship is one of the biggest mistakes people make. It's good to give yourself the chance to miss the other person, and them you.
aerogurl87 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I think it depends on the people involved in the relationship. I've been in two relationships where almost all outside sources (ex. parents, friends, etc.) tried to break up me and my partner. In both instances the pressure from them to end things made me want to be with both guys even more. But it is nice hearing that you and you're partner make a cute couple and look/mesh well together.
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