beatlejuice Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 This makes no sense to me, so I'm looking for some perspective on it. My boyfriend of a few weeks hasn't called me in a week. One day last week we were supposed to hang out, but he never called to confirm...I called him a few times that night to see if we were still on, and he never answered or called back. This is a big peeve in my book. Whether it's dating, friends or family, I'd like to know plans in a little advance and not be left hanging, wondering what's going on. So a day or two later, he texted me but did not mention anything about that. This is at Christmas, and he asked about hanging out then & I said I was busy with my family. I was pretty upset about him continuing not to call, too. Now, still no calls, but some texts including tonight him asking me to move in with him! I said that I wasn't ready for that yet and something like 'dont be afraid to call, it's easier to talk this out on the phone' and he replied that he really wants to move, then asked about New Years. Note, he was calling a lot before last week. It was a very sudden stop. Texting does not equal a relationship in my book, especially when it's usually just a line or two a day. How can you expect someone to move in with you when you hardly even talk to them? What on earth does this mean?
january2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 You're not happy with his level of contact and his reliability in returning calls. He's also moving too fast by wanting to move in together after only a few weeks. Even if there's something major going on behind the scenes such as issues with his living situation, this is a lot to ask so early on in a relationship. I think you know that already. You can either ask him directly what's going on and see if what he says seems reasonable or you can cut him loose so that he can deal with whatever is going on without dragging you into it.
creighton0123 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Major red flag issues going on. He stood you up. He is not respectful of your time. He ignored you, and then he jumped the gun? You should jump ship. After dating for a few weeks, this behavior of his is disrespectful, immature, and downright crazy.
Author beatlejuice Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Thank you. I just messaged him that I'm confused by his not wanting to talk but wanting to move in, and again that it's way too soon for that. I'm done with this.
sugarmomma Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 (edited) Stop responding to his texts and he's only left with the option to call you. Remember we teach people how to treat us based on what we accept and don't accept from them. He sounds like a real loser wanting to move in after a few weeks and ignores you. I would delete and block his ass. He sees that you are willing to settle for his crumbs after he ignores your calls yet you return his texts. Please stop. Edited December 29, 2010 by sugarmomma
sigurpol Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 His standards are full of holes. Not talking for a week (I don't even do that with my friends), yet wanting to move in? Through texting? Lazy. Get rid of him.
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