bolase Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I met my new flatmate in July, and we became best friends, both in denial about our feelings until October when we got together. He is the most compassionate, caring, funny, lovely man I have ever dated. very different from me in that he is christian and I am athiest..he won't make love or sleep in the same bed as me which has caused me worries (I don't want someone to make out and touch me, then just leave the room every time..) but I like him, so much that I want to learn a thing or two about relationships and not expect it to be anything like my past. He in turn says things would be easier if I was christian, and some part of him would always hold onto a tiny bit of hope that I would become more interested in christianity, but in other ways our values and beliefs line up, and we are AMAZING together, very very natural and I every bit we spend together is full of tenderness and love like I have never felt. (we haven't said I love you, I think it's too early to tell and mean it) I have just left town to go overseas for an internship for a minimum 4 months, probably a year. He has left town too, to take up a job in a different city. 3 weeks ago we had a really intense conversation about staying together or leaving it and seeing if we happen to meet up in the future. He said his leaning was to stay together as he thinks of me as his girlfriend, and I told him I think of him as my boyfriend. Most of the time I am a really practial person and owuld cut and run, but for some reason I feel like being not very practical and holding on. We didn't discuss it again, and now I am wondering what the heck to do. I can see myself marrying him, but I don't know if we will ever live in the same place. It's too soon to know for sure if its a short or long term thing.. ..How am I supposed to move on though, not knowing how we could have ended up? Sure we will both meet people and are both catches (although his beliefs make it slightly harder for him to find girlfriends), however my mother (who does not love the fact he is christian as our household is non-religious) told me that he will be hit on lots, as a young male in his profession. Thanks mom! Way to make me happy..though she is being cruel to be kind I guess. Any advice on what to do? Keep calm and keep in touch? We are exchanging very sweet messages, and I miss him.
shayan Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Picture both situations in your mind. you letting him go and moving on, and you staying in a long distance relationship with him, which situation brings you more peace, more content. go with what feels right, your heart never lies. You can do all the rationalizing you want but love works on a very simple scale.
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