Author guarded Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 i know its my fault for being in this 'predicament' (if you can even call it that) but i cant seem to get past this was that a really stupid move on my part?
Author guarded Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Well i couldn't help myself... i just had to walk past the shop with 2 of my guy friends. I said hi when i saw him and on our way out i joked and said 'bye snob' and gave him a half hug. He hugged back but the thing is he seemed all stiff and somewhat nervous/awkward... why is that? i asked him if he was ok and he's like 'yeeaahhh' wtf? i dont get it? why is he all weird? i mean i greet all my friends that way and hug them like i did with him (seeing as we're supposed to be friends).. i feel like i made a complete ass of myself! like a complete idiot for even bothering
xpaperxcutx Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 How about stop teasing him and forcing his hand? What you're merely doing is fishing and playing with his head. If you like him, want to date, I suggest you start you start some heavy mending on your interactions and actually initiate some sort of date. A guy can only be pushed so far before he really walks away.
my body is a cage Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 So, last spring, I met this boy and we hit it off really well. After school, he came to visit me for 5 days for my birthday. We had a great time and I really fell for him. Then I left for Europe, and he said he was going to come visit me. He didn't, which I expected, and when I came back he started all this drama about how he come because it would have been too serious, and how he is a piece of **** and can't have anything serious with anyone... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t242494/ Well, a lot of time has passed since then and I still feel terrible about the situation. After that, I came back to school and we hooked up once. Things were nebulous... then his ex girlfriend (whom his relationship with was a "trainwreck" committed suicide). It was too much for me to handle, so I took a semester off. Now I'm back at school and I have to see him all the time and its really hard for me. I reached out to him and messaged him saying I wish we still talked/ saying he could talk to me if he wanted to after he wrote something on his facebook about being depressed, and he wrote back that he appreciated it and would like to get coffee sometime. Since then, we've texted a little... I drunkenly texted him once "I still think you're really cute" and got a "we should get coffee very soon" back, but he hasn't followed through. I guess I want some sort of resolution. I wish I could stop caring, but I can't get over the connection we had when we were together- I haven't found it with anyone else. I feel really lonely and miss it. Futhermore, I feel like I don't deserve to be loved by him or anyone. I feel rejected by him, and that he must not be attracted to me and that I will never find the person for me. I don't know what to do to feel this way. Should I pursue the coffee thing and try to forget my insecurities? I am having a really hard time letting this go.
Author guarded Posted February 16, 2011 Author Posted February 16, 2011 How about stop teasing him and forcing his hand? What you're merely doing is fishing and playing with his head. If you like him, want to date, I suggest you start you start some heavy mending on your interactions and actually initiate some sort of date. A guy can only be pushed so far before he really walks away. I thought that 'fishing' was the only way to find out if the feeling/interest is mutual... so, should i just go for it? or wait it out just a little longer? is it really up to me now or do you guys think that he'll still get in touch? i just don't know how to go about it, it just seems like we both cant figure each other out what can i do to fix things??
Author guarded Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 so its been 3 weeks since his last msg (which i didnt reply to) and about 2 weeks since i last saw him (when i went past the shop he works at with my friends).... im missing him like crazy and his random messages. i want to msg him but i just dont want to seem desperate by initiating. im really confused.. i like him but i dont know how i truly feel im tempted to msg but im trying so hard not to so im resorting to posting here......... am i supposed to just let this go? or should i hold on? and does anyone have any ideas as to why he seemed nervous and stiff when i hugged him? you know like friends do when they see each other? i really dont get why he acts all nervous around me and seems to struggle putting words together but he's different with the girls he works with and his other 'girl' friends? whats with that?
Author guarded Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 why cant i get past this? im frustrated, so much so i cant even get through uni work :( someone please kick some sense into me! should i msg? or should i wait it out? heeeeeeeellllllllpppppppp
Author guarded Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 its almost been 2 months since we last spoke and i thought i could hold myself together but obviously not im missing him badly but i can't bring myself to tell him.... does this lack of contact mean that there's no chance of us getting in touch again? i dont know why our communication just stopped so suddenly. i was ok for the first few weeks but now that its almost been 2 months, the reality of it all just hit me. i know this might sound really stupid but im finding myself slip into some kind of depression is that normal??? i miss him even more when i see him from time to time going past my place on his way to work should i let go? or should i try and contact him? is there just no chance of hearing from him at all?
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