muteshake Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 We broke up in September, he cheated on me for a number of times. I left him because I am so fed up with all the lies and stuff. we were engaged, bought a house together. His mom called me yst, since the designer for the house is my ex-colleague, i normally do all the communication for them. I have always been texting his mom, for other random stuffs that still links us, like job or where to get a haircut, after all I am pretty close to his mom, since she is so sweet and nice to me. I have NC to ex ever since the break up, i block him on everything. Most of our friends are mutual but I chose to NC to all of them (I was like this for my last break up 4 years ago, and I am going to do it again.) Last night, I called his non answering phone (of course), and I cant help to think that he must be hanging out with some girls and ****, and I text him with a tone saying "i will ask the designer to contact u asap, good luck for your exam." he then replies "no thank you, i don't need any help from you forever" he sound pissed on the phone and i was trying to act like i don't give a ****. there has been a huge shift for my personality since the break, i have to cry a lot everyday, when i get up, during the class, in the library, before i fall asleep. i don't want to know anything about him, i actually don't think about him as much, but i guess it's the unconscious memory of him that triggers me. i have absolute no expectation or anything from him, i don't picture a future for both of us, but it is so hard. i am not trying intentionally to hurt him or anything, but according to his mom i think i did hurt him. but it is hard for him as it is for me. all i want now is to get the design for the house to be done (since i promise his mom for it) and NC forever. why is it so hard.
january2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I'm sorry you're hurting but I suggest cutting that last piece of string tying you to him. Give his mum the contact details for your ex-colleague. Tell her that you hope she understands but it's probably best that they talk directly rather than have you acting as the go-between. Then step away from the situation and walk away.
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