ICE911 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Hi, Long story short... Been dating this new girl for almost a month now. She has alot of emotional baggage and apparently I have made her realise how guarded she really is. I was just asking questions about her previous marriage and former relationships to understand some stuff and learn about her. This has caught her so off guard to a point where I have stirred up way to many unpleasant memories for her and now she thinks its not fair to drag me into something when she clearly has issues to deal with. She said we are not necessarily done but needs time to think. Her best friend told me some stuff about my gf to help me understand her better and that she has not had an easy life. I am tempted to contact the gf best friend to maybe help the gf realise that I deserve a chance. Need advice..... should I contact her best friend should i wait for gf or soon to be ex gf to contact me
ecm Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. You shouldn't contact her best friend. If she's feeling pressure and you contact her best friend, she'll run faster and further. Give her space. Just a reminder: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. capiche?
Star Gazer Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 FWIW, whenever I'm asked about past relationships, I kinda feel like I'm being unfairly evaluated/judged. For this reason, I prefer to voluntarily share my experiences when I'm ready. Any chance the way you presented your questions may have made her feel the same way?
youngskywalker Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Don't contact her friend unless you know her personally, i.e. already friends with her and can trust her.
Author ICE911 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 FWIW, whenever I'm asked about past relationships, I kinda feel like I'm being unfairly evaluated/judged. For this reason, I prefer to voluntarily share my experiences when I'm ready. Any chance the way you presented your questions may have made her feel the same way? ___________________________________________________________________ My questions just kind of unfolded after she told me what she can't put up with in terms of a relationship based on pevious experiences. Therefore, naturally a few questions on my part came out. Apparently I hit way to close to home. I feel like ****, but how can I be faulted for hitting subjects to close to home. I am not a mind reader.
creighton0123 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 It sounds like your girlfriend needs some sessions with a therapist/counselor to talk through some emotional issues from her past.
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