Said I wished our time together never happened. Did I mess up any 2nd chance?

[jayv0401]

Hey guys, I went through a really short term relationship (so short as that it was probably a fling) with a girl. Two months ago, she dumped me after a few weeks, but afterwards I always felt we had some lingering feelings. She's been with someone else right now, but she still views us as 'friends.' Maybe because I've been really nice and helpful towards her.

 

I want to give it another shot, but right before instituting No Contact a few days ago, I implied that our time together was not supposed to happen, and that I had f***ed up in getting into anything with her. She has tried to contact me about pragmatic matters, but I havent and wont text back. We did have some fun and good times together, and she definitely knows that I cared for her a lot at one point...this might sound silly but does what I said to her somehow nullify NC (NC won't work anymore)? I'm more curious, what could she be thinking or her reaction be to what I said and my NC?

[BlackZeppelin]

A few days after saying you want nothing to do with her huh?

Give her and yourself some time to think about what you really want, then start chipping away at the iceblock that is NC.

[jayv0401]

I hope that didn't come across as "have nothing to do with her"? I was trying to convey that I had made a mistake in letting the relationship happened...

 

And I pretty much implied that I was not gonna contact her for a while. Me and my damn implications. So if I communicate with her again in the near future, this might de-credit myself and hurt any future NC move.....

Edited December 28, 2010 by jayv0401

[delajoonal]

I hope that didn't come across as "have nothing to do with her"? I was trying to convey that I had made a mistake in letting the relationship happened...

 

And I pretty much implied that I was not gonna contact her for a while. Me and my damn implications. So if I communicate with her again in the near future, this might de-credit myself and hurt any future NC move.....

 

 

ok, so...what exactly did u say?

 

what tone was it?

 

A) did u say it like u wish u had not ever had a R with her, cause u think u r better off as friends?

 

or

 

B) u wish u had not had a R with her because u are basically 'in love' with her and IT/R, effed u up and now u can't talk to her cause IT hurts too much???

 

or

 

C) u wished u had never met her in your life, pERIOD!

 

cause speaking as a woman, those all mean something dif..and the tone of your voice, and how u hung up etc...???

 

ok...so...post back, when u can...we can get thru this..OK..

 

no worries...u will be ok;)

[jayv0401]

We chatted on the web, and I think I was cordial during the conversation. We started off talking about everyday things, your typical boring what's up, what're doing topics. Then I slowly transitioned into us since we haven't really talked about the event.

 

I told her that I should have not let the relationship go any further, I should have halted it, and that I made a mistake. However, to be sincere with you guys, I feel that a huge part of what happened was in her because she messed up numerous times, and she should know it. And to be true to myself, I should have seen that at the time, I could have acted differently to protect the relationship. But for the web conversation, I just wanted things to end rather cordially before my initiating NC.

 

I hope this explains things more clearly.