NeNinja Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 So I just hacked out a pointless post that ended up mostly being about Taylor Swift. If you read that post then hopefully you haven't lost all faith in my posts and will read this one My ex and I have several mutual friends, some of whom I saw over Christmas. I have no idea how to handle this. There were a few times I wanted to see them but not bump into/talk about/etc. her. I don't want to drag anyone into the drama (which has been almost non-existent so far) or have them feel like they need to pick sides. He has been a rockstar about being diplomatic and staying neutral. His take on it: "I want you both to be happy. It would be awesome if you got back together. If you don't I just want to be able to sit around and hangout like we used to even if she brings her new boyriend and you bring your new girlfriend." How do you deal with mutual friends after a breakup? I want them to be my friends. I want them to be her friends. I don't want it to be weird for anyone.
ShatteredReality Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I read both of them. I did like your quote...LOL it was catchy. The Taylor Swift thing...but anyhow...hanging out with eachother among mutual friends is something that gets easier in time. So long as you keep things amicable...no cheap shots or anything...eventually you'll be fine, even when eachother starts dating other people...it takes time though. The wounds have to heal first...I don't know how long ago you broke up, either I skipped that part or you didn't say it, but it still depends on the individual relationship. I know...not very helpful...but just try to act normal...don't give her too much attention, but don't pretend she isn't there either. You're "friends" now...lol...it's a tough transitionand you have my sympathies.
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