Vickstar Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Im 23 and my ex bf is 28, we were together for 9 months and he dumped me 3 months ago cos i had money problems and he was bored of us not going out and doing much. I admit my faults and the money problem is all sorted now, but i still cant understand why he dumped me, surely if someone loved you they would stick by you during the tough times, i always stuck by him when he was down. I treated him extremely well and i would say im different to alot of girls, im not clingy, i was never jealous of him talking to girls, i get on really well with his friends, i loved and cared for him, never shouted at him when we had arguements (which was rarely) and i was very laid back. Im not saying i was the best girlfriend ever but i just dont get how someone stops loving you just like that, out of the blue. I accept that hes gone and hes moved on, but do you think one day he will regret his descision? especially when i treated him so well Only spoken to him twice since the break and ive not begged him once to come back, he removed me as a friend on facebook and i havent done a single thing wrong and he must hate me so much not to be my friend.
northern_sky Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Aww. I'm sorry, this really sucks. I went through a similar breakup, where my bf dumped me out of the blue (about 9 months ago now), when things were going wrong in other aspects of my life...even though I feel I was a great gf to him. A lot of people just suck, and part of the downside is trusting and loving is that you will get sucked in by some losers along the way. But it's still worth it, imo. I don't know if your ex will regret it. I understand why thinking he will is important to you. I'm pretty much over my ex, but even now I feel sad when I think that he will probably never regret his choice. The truth is your ex may not. The kind of guy who can cut somebody off so suddenly like that is also probably the sort who avoids revisiting pain or admitting guilt at all costs. But if is any small comfort, he clearly has issues and they will follow him to his next relationship. I think one day it won't matter to you as much whether he regrets it. This will probably be when you are in your next happy relationship, and then you will just laugh at what an idiot he was. Maybe even then there will always be a tiny part of that hopes he regrets it. Sometimes, even when we move on as much as we can from something, there is still a tiny pocket of pain that will be a part of us forever. I guess just accept that that is part of life.
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