moodoo Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 So long story short, this is the most gorgeous girl ive ever dated, in law school, just perfect. How I messed things up:I lied to this girl about something major and I admit it was my fault but we were together on and off for like 6 months and then after big breakup we didn't speak for 4 months(August-December) and last week a mutual friend told her I was gonna be in vegas and she was gonna be there too, so she added me on facebook. From there we joked,chatted, and texted like we didnt miss a beat.....anyways we've been texting back and forth for a few days, she doesnt have a bf or anything and actually said something like, " I dont have a guy in my life" on the phone .....but why would she text me when she told me she hated me and wanted me out of her life in august.....is this one of those, if you let it go and it returns its yours??? or whats up do I have any chance at getting her back, this is seriously my dream woman. Help me through this PLEASE!
joeLove Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Interesting ... My situation is not very different from yours at all ... But, yours has progressed much faster and it seems to me that, she is the one doing plenty of work to get you back. I absolutely believe, you have a shot. I would even say that based on the things she has initiated, you are more than 3/4 way in (or should i use the word slam dunk here?) ... Just make sure you don't mess this one up ... Good luck ...
ecm Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 She's putting it out there, for sure! I think if she weren't interested she would have even made up a guy she is dating or something so you wouldn't bother her Good luck! Play it cool. I'm excited for you!
Author moodoo Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 so how would you suggest i go about things? do i apologize? do i say lets start over? she ended up not going to vegas bc she was really sick but we still texted everyday and she called me once while sick and told me all about the problems she was having with her roommate, and even asked if i had new years plans and if it was something fun she wanted to come.....seriously really weird to me bc last time we talked she made it clear she hated me for being a liar and she never wanted to talk to me again. I emailed her twice in those 4 months and the only response I got was " I gave you alot of chances now accept the consequences of your actions".....needless to say im shocked we're even amicable today
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 pretend the past incident NEVER happened. you're doing just fine; and she's putting in her share of effort here too, pal. my recommendation is to focus on having a lot of fun during new years, bring her along for the ride and let the chips fall where they may. the only thing you should be trying to do is make sure the good times continue to roll on -- the rest will take care of itself. she'll jump your bones, I bet.
ecm Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 pretend the past incident NEVER happened. you're doing just fine; and she's putting in her share of effort here too, pal. my recommendation is to focus on having a lot of fun during new years, bring her along for the ride and let the chips fall where they may. the only thing you should be trying to do is make sure the good times continue to roll on -- the rest will take care of itself. she'll jump your bones, I bet. yep, yep! You've already apologized. You can prove that you've changed instead of talk about it.
Author moodoo Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 so just completely ignore the past? you dont think thats a bad idea and if something happens between us will she just bring it up in the future?
Eddie Edirol Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 so just completely ignore the past? you dont think thats a bad idea and if something happens between us will she just bring it up in the future? YES! Completely ignore the past. if she is looking to try you out again, she obviously has forgiven you and has hope that you wont repeat the problem. No need to bring things down by bringing it up(tee hee). So dont mention it until she does. Just be more fun that you used to be, more mature, more interesting, more exciting. I would be cautious, hopefully she isnt trying to hook you in just to play with you. But she said she was available, it might be a hint, it might be a tease. But tread lightly, dont push anything, be happy and interesting and let her work on trying to get you, because youre way too awesome now. ya feel me?
Author moodoo Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 ok well thats great you think she wants me too bc im crazy about her actually last night i guess was the first time she saw my facebook in months and she literally commented on like 9 of my pictures saying funny little things trying to be cute.....I really think she wants me back but how can I know without blowing it when she only wants to be friends??? Actually today she texted me to see if i was gonna make it to new years, but im gonna be outta town and already had made plans weeks ago before she came back into my life
Karma20 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Until she says she wants you back, don't jump the gun on anything. Don't bring up the past, don't bring up you guys. You broke her trust and she's probably testing the waters and feeling things out. Just go with the flow right now.
Author moodoo Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 i hear you....i cant explain it im not a kid im 26 years old but she went through and tagged herself in a few of our old photos together that she had untagged when she started dating this other guy after me.....and now if you look on her profile her recent activity is literally commenting on like 9 of my pictures and tagging herself in a few.....I know it sounds childish bc its facebook but seriously it had me just wondering wtf ya know?
Karma20 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 i hear you....i cant explain it im not a kid im 26 years old but she went through and tagged herself in a few of our old photos together that she had untagged when she started dating this other guy after me.....and now if you look on her profile her recent activity is literally commenting on like 9 of my pictures and tagging herself in a few.....I know it sounds childish bc its facebook but seriously it had me just wondering wtf ya know? I hear you. Trust me if it was me i'd be planning our wedding right now if my ex did what your ex is doing. Getting an ex back is more then them just reaching out, you have to move at their pace. Yes it sounds promising but I don't want you get overly excited and let your emotions lead you do something that could ruin your chance. I'm happy for you not all of us are luckly enough to get another chance.
DuskCrush Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 you shouldn't be worrying if she is interested...she is....but it's her level of interest that is questionable. I say just work on reconnecting with her. Treat it like she's a new girl. Don't Bring Anything Up Right Now. Good Luck
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