NeNinja Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Our breakup is a little over two weeks old and I've been NC for ten days. I feel like I'm doing well, improving myself, and at times I even think that maybe I don't miss her as much as I just miss our routie and having someone around. I'm not for sure on that one...there are little things we did and thoughts that still hit me like a sucker punch. But that's not the point of this post: I feel like I've been fairly successful in this breakup. I haven't embarassed myself. Even when I did apologize and ask for a second chance I left with my head up and a kiss on my cheek (and a "Not today" .) But...I've still made a mistake someone else might be able to benefit from. Over Christmas break I met up with a mutual friend (a guy, one half of our best 'couple' friends). I didn't ask about her and we treated the evening as business as usual. We had to avoid his fincee who was with my ex girlfriend. Unfortunately, later in the evening he did as about her and our relationship...and I said too much. I didn't gush about my loneliness. I didn't ask him to get involved or beg him to tell me what he and his fiancee knew. I told him I was doing well, keeping busy, and generally positive stuff. I would have been fine there but between the alcohol and the ego I fired a parting shot: "I wanted a relationship...she wanted a Taylor Swift song." I honestly don't know why I said it and didn't think much of it other than it was slightly catchy/clever. Early in our relationship I went out to karaoke with some girl-friends and sang 'Our Song' just for fun. She was jealous/impressed and on several occassions made me promise to do it again for her. (I didn't.) After our worst fight/breakup I came back 45 minutes later to find her laying on her bed singing along to 'White Horse.' This whole situation was so ridiculous/embarassing/adorable that the fight and the breakup ended instantly. It's what she listened to her in her car and I took her to a concert for her birthday...but other than that T. Swift didn't have a lot of bearing on our relationship. So why did I say it? It just kinda slipped out and now I'm worried its going to get back to her. My friend thought it was fantastic and poignant thing to say so I'm sure he told his fiance. I didn't mean anything horrible by it but out of context does it sound bad? This breakup has been incredibly respectful and civil as far as I'm concerned and would hate to change the dynamic with some off handed comment. I'm not asking for advice. I know to maintain NC. I know to focus on me. Don't talk trash behind your exes back. It'll just give you one more thing to worry about when you don't need the stress. ...and leave Taylor Swift out of it.
january2010 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 A link to your latest thread: Fix this email
Woggle Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 At least you don't have to date a woman that listens to Taylor Swift.
WTRanger Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 You haven't embarrassed yourself? It has been civil? Getting a girl to finally text you back, "Please stop trying" doesn't sound all too civil. Re-read some of your threads 6 months from now and see if you still feel that way. Of course what you said is going to get back to her. But seeing as she wants nothing to do with you, I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you are not looking for advice, don't post threads in an advice forum.
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