Lucky555 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Well the guy I'm seeing isn't exactly "connecting" himself to me. I talked to him all this past week short messages or a conversation and he always replies. Now I stopped contacting him now that we have set a date to be together for new years but he was not definite on his answer to be with each other. I feel like our relationship should be progressing to another level after already sleeping together. We should be closer and in more contact I would think! I have not spoken to him in three days like he has not even bothered o contact me. Not even a simple hi. I'm feeling like mayne this is "disconnection" even though I told him if he didn't want to get together for new years I would understand. I'm just feeling frustrated again. It's like I'm not worried about breaking up I just don't want to waste time. Like for instance if he and I are together why doesn't he change his relationship status on fb? It's a big deal we alll know this. No this leads me to think HE is not serious about me. Also if we are sleeping together and exclusive what I a exclusive booty call! I'm just not feeling like he wants a "relationship". It seems like it's very casual to me like "whenever". People who want love want to be with eachother and see each other weekly don't they!!!! Yes it's the holidays but even with his lack of confirmation to spend new years together is enough to be like what?! We have not seen eachother in over a week and he we don't see eahother this ewe it will be two weeks ....also his lack of contact worries me that I really could be wasting my time because i have put in effort and I'm not reviving it back. So what do I need to do? Should I just wait for him To contact me about new years? Since I had been keeping in contact with him and initiated the idea? I have not been contacted by him and really at this point I need effort. It bothers me to think that he may be just keeping me around for now... I have been out and I met some pretty attractive people that I click with in particular one guy last night while I was shopping. But then I remember I'm in an exclusive relationship!! But I'm not even hearing from my guy and I feel single only because I'm getting no effort from my guy!!I have no reason to think he is cheating I just feel like I need to know why he wants to be with me. Obviously the lack of effort is not fair to me. I have made effort and if he doesn't want to consider me seriously then I don't see the point in being exclusively with him. The fact is a handsome stranger was giving me signs he was interested and I was smitten because he had such a gorgeous smile and I felt like I wanted to get to know h better. Why was I not listening to my guys great voice on a phone or talking with him? Because he isn't making effort. :/ Otherwise if I felt secure with my guy I don't think I would have felt like I did last night. I am faithful so nothing happened it was a conversation with a hot guy. Ugh what to do !!
Kowaco Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 I'm guessing it's just a sexual relationship. If you two are only having short quick notes I think he's keeping his options open. How long have you two been dating?
Author Lucky555 Posted December 28, 2010 Author Posted December 28, 2010 I'm guessing it's just a sexual relationship. If you two are only having short quick notes I think he's keeping his options open. How long have you two been dating? We have known eachother for threw years. We were friends first and went out casually during this time just for dinner nothing really more. However he has been pursuing me for months. I have had a talk with him about what I want and that's a relationship. Now we have been exclusive since the beginning of this month. He and I have only seen eachother twice. To me for a new relationship this is very seldom!! I know he has work but I'm just feeling like he is not making time for a relationship as in at least calling me or making more of an effort. I know we know eachother quite well but the fact is I don't want to be hanging on to something if it's not there. The fact that he didn't make concrete plans for new years sets off an alarm in my head. I'm back in a confused state of what I need to do. I feel like he just doesn't make an effort now that we have slot together. I don't mind if he says I'm not what he is looking for but I rather know now than waste time. But he has been busy with the holiday as I have. However I contacted him all last week like a short message or we had long conversations. Imitated by me. Now it's in his court the ball so to speak and it's like he's just sittin on it. By the way he didn't get me anything for Christmas even though we are exclusive. I am kind of shocked but I figured it's ok since the relationship is new but now maybe he is just trying to keep me around. I really don't want to contact him since I have already. So the next step? If I do see him what do I say? I don't want to sound like a nag but I really feel like he is acting weird.. Last time he wad acting distant like this he said he wasn't sure because of us sleeping together he wanted to know if it was good for me I didn't go into detail but easier his mind that I'm good with it. However now there is no reason why he can't make an effort. :/
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