Moving on from a cheating Ex Girlfriend.

[lanky00]

Hi.

 

Well I have tried for months to do my best in moving on from my ex but just can't seem to shake thoughts of her and her new man from my mind. So like so many I've decided to reach out for some advice and help.

Like so many the relationship was great to start with it and as far as I was concerned good until the day she dumped me. Looking back there were red flags and I'm starting to eoner if she has traitas of being a narcissit as almost all of the relationship revolved around her and her decisions. The bit that gets me the most is the fact I was very trusting and none possesive so when she had regular weekly contact with a man in another city who decided to write her a personal (Triathlon) Training event for a big event she has coming up, I now feel maybe I should of been more diplomatic and put my foot down. The guy used to travel down to were we lived as he is a sports technician and she would meet up with him for coffee's and even meet him at the pool to train which again looking back is now a red flag. WE lived apart and would see each other 4 - 5 times a week but now I'm convinced he was staying over the nights I wasn't there. Anyhow to cut along story short I have only seen her once since our breakup and felt alright about things, until I came back to the U.K for christmas and have since found out they are together and it has knocked me for 6.. My body just went into shock mode, it wercked my christmas and although I'm getting better I can't sleep and constantly think about how happy they probably are together and I'm, on my arse.. Not sure if its just heart break or a combination of that and my pride being damaged from being cheated on. All irratinal thoughts take over like he's a better man than me, I'm not enough and just jump from hurt too anger. I really want to see her fail.

 

I'm going a bit now but basically I would any advice you are able to give me as I'm getting a bit bored with it all now and just want to move on.

 

Cheers.

[Distant78]

Hi.

 

Well I have tried for months to do my best in moving on from my ex but just can't seem to shake thoughts of her and her new man from my mind. So like so many I've decided to reach out for some advice and help.

Like so many the relationship was great to start with it and as far as I was concerned good until the day she dumped me. Looking back there were red flags and I'm starting to eoner if she has traitas of being a narcissit as almost all of the relationship revolved around her and her decisions. The bit that gets me the most is the fact I was very trusting and none possesive so when she had regular weekly contact with a man in another city who decided to write her a personal (Triathlon) Training event for a big event she has coming up, I now feel maybe I should of been more diplomatic and put my foot down. The guy used to travel down to were we lived as he is a sports technician and she would meet up with him for coffee's and even meet him at the pool to train which again looking back is now a red flag. WE lived apart and would see each other 4 - 5 times a week but now I'm convinced he was staying over the nights I wasn't there. Anyhow to cut along story short I have only seen her once since our breakup and felt alright about things, until I came back to the U.K for christmas and have since found out they are together and it has knocked me for 6.. My body just went into shock mode, it wercked my christmas and although I'm getting better I can't sleep and constantly think about how happy they probably are together and I'm, on my arse.. Not sure if its just heart break or a combination of that and my pride being damaged from being cheated on. All irratinal thoughts take over like he's a better man than me, I'm not enough and just jump from hurt too anger. I really want to see her fail.

 

I'm going a bit now but basically I would any advice you are able to give me as I'm getting a bit bored with it all now and just want to move on.

 

Cheers.

 

Good you're moving on from a cheater. She doesn't want you and never fully cared about you. It seems you guys haven't been broken up for too long since you can't even sleep at night. I know how that feels. Trust me, once you find other women, you won't even be thinking about the whore.

[paleblue]

Move on and never talk to her again.

 

When the fog clears and you see her for what she is, a cheater, you will realize you are worth more. You are better than that.

[lanky00]

Paleblue & Distant 78. Thanks for your response. Means alot at a time like this and I'm sure your right. Just the time issue as I want to be back to my best and pisses me off I'm reduced to this at the moment..