Hades Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Wow, Hades, thanks for your prompt response. Yes, you're right, everything that she says will hurt, and thanks for being honest with me. My emotions are running high right now. So, do you think that she's just being nice? Nothing to get angry about? Everything is taken literal after a break up and so personal. I think the intial break up was immature. The email was a "nice" gesture but she seemed a little bitter. I think she is TRYING. She didn't have to send an email. However, I think that is usually to make themselves feel better. Not so much about you. There's nothing further to talk about with her, right? Go COMPLETE nc from this point forward. I have a feeling you would be the type to send a birthday message or something of that sort because you appear to be a generous, giving person. DO NOT DO THIS. Make it a clean break and focus on your healing. My ex and I have been nc for two weeks. During this time he sent a few messages (bible verses and such that really got under my skin because I think it's an attempt to get a reaction.) including one for Christmas and New Years. Although it would seem like the mature thing to respond, I didn't for MY OWN sanity. It doesn't mean I love him any less or that I am immature. I want to focus on healing. I would be a little bothered. Nothing to get angry about. The highs and lows and sorting through your emotions is part of the break up process. BUT, filter through them yourself ... avoid contacting her to vent.
Author tatteredwings Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Hades, again thank you for your sharing your thoughts and for your advice. I'm definitely going no contact here. Thanks again for your support.
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