Shannyn8877 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Here is a brief summary (hopefully) of my situation. My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years. From the beginning we discussed how we were in the relationship for the long haul since we would be spending so much time/money investing in each other. We discussed marriage and the future constantly. A week before he was about to move out to where I live (mind you he left his job where he is, found a job in my state and was moving in with a mutual friend) we were having an arguement. Not something big or worth breaking up over. However my ex decides he needs to think and cuts off communication with me for a few days and when we finally talk again he breaks up with me because he does not "feel the passion or spark anymore" and we just "aren't on the same page with things". Prior to this (about 2 weeks before) I drove 8 hours to spend Thanksgiving with him and his family and everything was fine. He showed me the same love he always has and nothing seemed different. When I ask him about it he says the spark was still there. Is this cold feet? How can you change emotion that quick? Go from one week prior telling me "I love you so so much" to all of a sudden the spark is gone. He made contact first, asking me if I could talk. We talked for almost an hour.. conversation just like when we were dating minus the "I love yous" and "I miss yous". He talked with me like he did not just break my heart. He told me there were many times he wanted to make contact with me but didn't because he didn't know what I needed to "get over him". My feelings are he loves himself too much and ran from the serious commitment. At this point it seems like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Any input would help... I am so confused. I think as a woman I seek closure and he can not give it to me.. Even when we talked he still could only give me "I don't know".
january2010 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 I think you already know his position and what you need to do. Go NC. Otherwise you will be drawn into his toing and froing and you know you don't need or want that.
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