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Not a long time ago I have posted my story with my ex bf...it was basically about how we were together for a year, and once we got separated by our education in different countries, he found another girl...we broke up and are in NC mode for already 2 weeks...:/

yesterday I tried hooking up with another guy (since I know he is now hooking up on a winter holliday with his new gf), and I failed...I actually felt pretty miserable cause I thought I was doing well and I started forgetting my ex.....but once I was with another guy, Gosh it came back..all the feelings, emotions, everything I felt for my ex..Now I rlly know the meaning of the words "I wish you were here"....I run all the words he told me through my head over and over again...

Today his mom called me and told me how sad she was that we broke up..I burst into tears and told her how much i missed him and how ****ty I feel right now...she told me she doesnt like his new gf, and that she is very hysterical..she told me she still thinks that he loves me, but maybe she said that just to make me feel better.....ehh.....and I know why I feel so crappy - because its Christmas, new year's eve and plus my birthday tommorow, for which I dont think he will even send me a congrats message, cause he didnt do it for Christmas...at least its not that hard for me anymore to keep the NC mode :(

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I'm sorry I have no title :(. You do have a title tough. It's "I'm the girl whose going to stick to NC and come out of this with my head held high, because I deserve better and it's his loss.". That's your new title from now on!

 

I'm sorry about the hooking up part, but you're probably just not ready yet.

 

Merry Late Christmas and Happy Early Birthday or Happy Birthday. Not sure which one to use, lol.

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Thank you for congrats :p its tommorow :)

 

I'll just try to not to think of him, read some book, or do whatever, even though it will be hard especially that i wished so much to be next to him for my b-day :(

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I'm sorry I have no title :(. You do have a title tough. It's "I'm the girl whose going to stick to NC and come out of this with my head held high, because I deserve better and it's his loss.". That's your new title from now on!

 

I couldn't agree more. He chose to walk away. Not you, so now, you take the time to dust yourself off, keep busy with friends and family, and do something for yourself that makes you happy! When an ex of mine walked out, I put sticky notes all over my bathroom mirror. I would write all the positive things about myself and having the opportunity to meet someone who was even better suited for me. It was a daily reminder while I'd be getting ready that I deserved better and am worthy of so much more.

 

You mention reading a book...one book I'm reading that my therapist suggested to me is "mars and Venus on a date: a guide to navigating the 5 stages of dating". It has helped me to understand a few things about past relationships, my current situation. If you like those kind if books I recommend it with 2 big thumbs up.

 

Happy birthday! Hope it's a wonderful day!

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Yeah happy B-day to you, we send you love for the year to come!

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(Early) Happy Birthday, if it makes you feel any better I'll take a moment out of my day tomorrow to think about this on your Birthday.

 

My ex left me and moved home because of her family, and because we weren't getting along well. Instead of trying to patch things up, she found someone else. It's hard not to try and blame yourself, but you can't.

 

Ultimately that decision is theirs. Nothing we can do.

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Thank you for congrats :p its tommorow :)

 

I'll just try to not to think of him, read some book, or do whatever, even though it will be hard especially that i wished so much to be next to him for my b-day :(

Yea, I wished for the same thing. She dumped me 2 weeks before my b-day. Not a word from her. Oh well. You'll be fine.

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