Truly Lost Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 I want to thank all the people who have responded to my posts in the past and for all the people who have shared their stories here on LS. It's been really eye opening and a relief that I'm not alone in my thoughts, especially now that I've been lingering in the cruel world of dating for the past 2 years now. Everytime I got in a LTR with someone, I didn't forget, but placed far back in my mind the horrible disappointments I went through before I got to that one person. Sadly I am single once more and would like to again find someone to share my life with....for a long time hopefully. That's what's incredibly hard about dating. You meet someone and don't hit it off...disappointment;.....you meet someone and it works out great....you have sex too soon....it ends.....disappointment;.....you meet someone again....things are going well...something weird happens...you never speak again....disappointment;...you meet someone and take too long to show your true emotions, because you are trying to take things slow and you get dumped...disappointment;.....you meet someone and they take too long to get close to you and you end up dumping them...only to ponder if you made a mistake, but it's too late....disappointment;....the list goes on and on and on. I've learned that you can't always read people and patience isn't everything. Sometimes it ends for no apparent reason, likely because it just wasn't meant to work. People can be really mean when it comes to telling you how they feel, or how they want their meeting with you to continue. Some people are really decent and tell you upfront. Those people I still will remain friends with, but that is far and few between. Some people bail without explination, which is extremely cruel and almost always pushes you closer to losing faith that you can or will ever find a true, honest, and real person. There are cowards out there...a whole lot of them. They are more abundant than the decent people that tell you directly what's up. It's just easier to turn the other cheek and walk away, but they would scream "bloody murder" if something like that were to happen to them. Funny...right? So far, if I'm dating someone and it's only been a couple weeks and things start to look bad...I usually will anticipate that the relationship is going to fail. Not because I want it to, but no LTR I ever had fizzled out that quickly. If you have to struggle to make it work...it isn't going to. It's worth addressing once, but after that....if you two don't make amends quickly...it's best to let it go. The timing isn't right or someone isn't being completely honest. It's too easy to get clouded when you meet someone and want it to work when it isn't. So I hope you guys don't mind if I post questions about my concerns in the future. Just now I'm thinking clearly, since I'm not currently involved with anyone, but it's so easy to lose perspective. Does anyone agree with me on this?
Seamless74 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 life = suffering the choice you have is to either suffer alone or suffer with somebody, Anything more than that is just trying to be a superlifer..
jean-luc sisko Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Be yourself. This is the key to dating.
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