MJ2 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 How long Is too long to wait for a first kiss? I've been seeing him for less than a month. He spent Christmas at my familys and spent all day Xmas eve putting together my twins Santa gifts. He told me he has strong feelings for me but he's worried I don't feel the same way towards him. I told him I just needed to take things slow for now. I've known him for 10 years and he was the first guy I slept with. 2yrs later, i ended it and we went our own ways. I didn't want to be in a serious relationship my last year of high school. Now here we are yrs later in each others lives again and I don't want to lose him or push him away. I wasn't planning on kissing him until NYE but maybe I should surprise him with it on our date next week. Ive always been very guarded with my heart and emotions with men. I want to be affection et with him and fall in love again. I just don't want to end up hurt this time. How should I carry on with this situation?
Feelin Frisky Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Grab him, pucker up, tilt head a little and move forward. Close eyes is optional. Done.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 if you wait any longer he will bail. he's a grown man, he knows when a woman is bieng apprehensive. You have to give him something to show youre interested. You dont have to fall in love right away, just kiss the damn guy!
daphne Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 I don't know. Normally I'd say just kiss him already but since NYE is only a few days away, why not wait? You've waited this long why not make it memorable? Nothing wrong with going slow. He seems to really like you. Make sure you let him know you really like him, consistently and he'll stick around if his intentions are good.
GooseChaser Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 As long as you guys have definite plans for New Year's Eve, you should be fine saving the first kiss until then. It would be odd for him to make plans for that night and then bail out of nowhere. It's only a week away. Whenever you decide is the right time, though, it would be good to go for it soon. If you save it for NYE, be sure to show him you care in other ways on your next date so he has no need to worry!
Author MJ2 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 We've already made plans to spend NYE together and in a playful way, he said I better AT lEAST get a little peck. I'm sure he's annoyed that it hasnt happened yet, but this summer he went back to his ex after taking me out a few times. So I'm kinda skeptical now bc he broke up with her a month ago. A few weeks ago, he told me the only reason he took her back was because he didn't think he had a shot with me. I want to know for certain that his ex is history before I open up any more doors... Kissing, fooling around, sex ect. When I told him, he claimed to understanded. when I was leaving his house late last night he seemed a little frustrated that nothing physical happened. When I got to his place to watch a movie, he had flowers for me, my favorite candy(peppermint candycanes), and he had fixed my favorite meal. If his feelings for me are true, he won't rush me right? Im kind of feeling pressured to make a commitment. I haven't been n a relationship since my ex fiancé and I broke up about a year and 1/2 ago.
GooseChaser Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 (edited) Ooh, well, when guys invite a woman over to their place, they usually expect that physical things will happen. If you don't want that right now, you might want to avoid dates at his place so he doesn't get the wrong idea and then get frustrated when it doesn't happen. There are plenty of other fun places you can go until the big 2011 celebration! Edited December 27, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Eddie Edirol Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 We've already made plans to spend NYE together and in a playful way, he said I better AT lEAST get a little peck. I'm sure he's annoyed that it hasnt happened yet, but this summer he went back to his ex after taking me out a few times. So I'm kinda skeptical now bc he broke up with her a month ago. A few weeks ago, he told me the only reason he took her back was because he didn't think he had a shot with me. I want to know for certain that his ex is history before I open up any more doors... Kissing, fooling around, sex ect. When I told him, he claimed to understanded. when I was leaving his house late last night he seemed a little frustrated that nothing physical happened. When I got to his place to watch a movie, he had flowers for me, my favorite candy(peppermint candycanes), and he had fixed my favorite meal. If his feelings for me are true, he won't rush me right? Im kind of feeling pressured to make a commitment. I haven't been n a relationship since my ex fiancé and I broke up about a year and 1/2 ago. You dont have to make a commitment, This isnt a big deal. He's not asking for your hand in marriage, he just wants a sign that youre interested. Youre interested, so just kiss the guy. You dont have to wear your heart on your sleeve for a kiss.
creighton0123 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 " he said I better AT lEAST get a little peck. I'm sure he's annoyed that it hasnt happened yet, but this summer he went back to his ex after taking me out a few times. So I'm kinda skeptical now bc he broke up with her a month ago." If he hints at this again, let him know that he can expect more than that. I've always found that you can't know how interested you are in someone until the first kiss, and it is better to get that out of the way and either end it, or make time for the second... and third... and... you get the drift. Let him know that you're being irrationally sentimental and want your first kiss to be a full-on making out when the ball drops. He'll love it.
Lorelei69 Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Well, I certainly don't have all the answers. But for me....I don't like to plan that kind of thing. I hate coming home at the end of a first date and feeling like I have to kiss a guy just because it's the end of a date. As far as I'm concerned....when I feel compelled to kiss a man - I do! Whether that is on the first date or the fifth....or never. I have to feel it. What's great is that when you 'fall into' a first kiss with someone because you just can't resist any longer....it's amazing! So I say don't try and plan it. Just let it happen if/when it's meant to happen. Whatever you decide....all the best!
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