Meira Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Ok. I met this guy in a summer program. We didn't get along well in the beginning and slowly we became closer and closer, knowing we have much in common. We then had a great first date, we kissed and even made out a bit. And after that, we kept talking to each other and he invited me to go over to his place on a second date. i was kind of scared, because everything was going really fast (and i knew he would leave the country in a week's time) i had doubts in him. he cancelled the date, not picking up my call/texting me back for almost a week (even though i told him that i did want to see him, i felt regret )anyway, before he left the country, i texted him a goodbye text; and he called me when he was on the plane, saying that he would miss me... and let him know when i'm in the same country as he does. (he is now in country A, and i will be there in 3 week's time, and he knew this) i thought the call was like an official end.. but after a few days i realized that it was not. and i couldn't help but wrote him an email explaining the situation. he didn't reply me back.. and i could only read his news on his facebook page from time to time. (though he doesn't update it much) i have been following this 'no contact' rule for a few months, (he doesn't know if i read his fb, right? ) but just a few days again, when i was reading his twitter.. I ACCIDENTALLY CLICKED "follow". though i clicked unfollow and deactivated my a/c immediately... i think he knows that it was me.... so my months of effort of playing it cool and pretending nothing happened was wasted by just a click. no lies. but i do really want to see if this relationship works or not. he is definitely one of the best guys i have met so far.. especially he knows i will be physically very close to him and i'm aware of it as well. sounds like i screwed it up again, what should i do??
BlindRage Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 (edited) Ok. I met this guy in a summer program. We didn't get along well in the beginning and slowly we became closer and closer, knowing we have much in common. We then had a great first date, we kissed and even made out a bit. And after that, we kept talking to each other and he invited me to go over to his place on a second date. i was kind of scared, because everything was going really fast (and i knew he would leave the country in a week's time) i had doubts in him. he cancelled the date, not picking up my call/texting me back for almost a week (even though i told him that i did want to see him, i felt regret )anyway, before he left the country, i texted him a goodbye text; and he called me when he was on the plane, saying that he would miss me... and let him know when i'm in the same country as he does. (he is now in country A, and i will be there in 3 week's time, and he knew this) i thought the call was like an official end.. but after a few days i realized that it was not. and i couldn't help but wrote him an email explaining the situation. he didn't reply me back.. and i could only read his news on his facebook page from time to time. (though he doesn't update it much) i have been following this 'no contact' rule for a few months, (he doesn't know if i read his fb, right? ) but just a few days again, when i was reading his twitter.. I ACCIDENTALLY CLICKED "follow". though i clicked unfollow and deactivated my a/c immediately... i think he knows that it was me.... so my months of effort of playing it cool and pretending nothing happened was wasted by just a click. no lies. but i do really want to see if this relationship works or not. he is definitely one of the best guys i have met so far.. especially he knows i will be physically very close to him and i'm aware of it as well. sounds like i screwed it up again, what should i do?? See it in the bright side. You barely knew this guy. That sounds more like a summer romance(a short summer romance) that you shouldn't really look too much into. I know I'll come off sounding like a jerk for saying this but believe me what you and that guy had going on was NOTHING. Don't beat yourself up over it. Why is it hard to not contact him? Well if you're feeling this bad about not speaking to him and having known him for not very long at all..actually... he did you a favor by ignoring your calls/text/emails. Imagine if you guys actually had a real relationship that lasted a couple of years. I think you would be suicidal right now (judging from your post). Be grateful. Find yourself a nice guy that will treat you right; honestly, it only seems that the interest he had in you was nothing other than getting physical [if you know what I mean]. There are plenty of guys looking for a nice girl. I'm sure you do not like my reply but just I am telling you how I see it. Sometimes you need to hear the honest truth that you yourself know from someone else so you can open your eyes. It kinda seems your stalking him too. He is not showing any sign of interest in you, let it go, if a guy wanted you believe me you would know. He's not worth it. Hope in the long run I helped. Edited December 27, 2010 by BlindRage
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