ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 so i had been seeing a single dad for 2 months. met the child he even had me reading to him in bed. a couple of times we made plans and he cancelled on the day by text (does anyone think that's rude)? one day we made plans to go to museum and dinner with child it was my b'day but i didnt tell him it was as he has noooooooo money (i said my b'day was a few months away early in the piece as i didnt want him to feel obligated). but he found out it was my b'day on facebook i explained why etc. this day though he never phoned to tell me what time to go over for the museum so i had to call him after hours of waiting he mentioned about my b'day and then i asked why he hadnt called to tell me what time? he said i just assumed you would show up between 1 and 3? like hello i dont just show up at someone's place unannounced. he then tells me he has left his wallet in his work car and has no money, so i have to pay for museum and dinner. he only works 2 days a week on minimum wage. when i see him im on time restrictison i.e. we go to movies and he has to leave early to go to family etc. weeks go on and he we make a few plans then he a few times he cancels by text on that day due to being ill or mum being over etc. he never invites me to his family gatherings or friends parties. but all the time he texts seeing how i am etc. i have also slept with him. weekend before last he rings me saturday about catching up the next day he say's he can only see me until 3.30. he sends a few texts that night then the next day i get a text at 9am saying 'sorry dont feel like catching up today i need time to myself today' so i call him an hour later he doesnt answer. so i text and ask is everything ok' he replies 'yes everything ok just need time to myself' im sick of all this so i ask 'is everything ok with you & me' he never replies. the next day im on facebook and notice he has added some young hot chick. i leave it a few days and then call from work he picks up phone and hangs up without me even saying anything, next thing im blocked on his facebook. whats happened?
joeLove Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 You have been dumped ... Don't worry, he is not worth your time and your $$$ (all that texting u do cost money, i guess). Just move on ... there's better fishes for you in the ocean ...
refurb Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 whats happened? You were too nice, he was a dick. Seriously, move on. RF
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 but why was i dumped and why was he texting me the week before and night before?
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 You were too nice, he was a dick. Seriously, move on. RF too nice how?
Cracker Jack Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Um, he's clearly a jerk. Honestly, just move on and be glad he revealed his true colors early on.
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 why did he one day delete me after i rang and he hung up without me saying hello. then 4 days later he blocks me. straight after i was deleted i sent him a message telling him he was a loser, liar with no money and no job and i feel sorry for his son. he came back 'now i know what you are really like, bye bye' hello, what im really like, arent i the one to know what 'he' is really like?
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 you're asking us because you know you can't ask him. that, in and of itself paraphrases your situation. details don't matter. disagree? then call & ask him yourself. otherwise, grab a handle of vodka, your favorite ice cream and get over it. happy new year.
joeLove Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 He dumped you simply because he wanted to. Sometimes, people are dumped for no logical reason. You can find someone perfect for you and you do everything right ... but, you are not what they are looking for. I agree, the worst thing is, he doesn't really give you an explanation, but he doesn't have to. Learn lessons from this, that you could use in your future relationships ... that s the way you need to look at it. but why was i dumped and why was he texting me the week before and night before?
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 you're asking us because you know you can't ask him. that, in and of itself paraphrases your situation. details don't matter. disagree? then call & ask him yourself. otherwise, grab a handle of vodka, your favorite ice cream and get over it. happy new year. i have been doing lots of the vodka don't worry!!!
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 He dumped you simply because he wanted to. Sometimes, people are dumped for no logical reason. You can find someone perfect for you and you do everything right ... but, you are not what they are looking for. I agree, the worst thing is, he doesn't really give you an explanation, but he doesn't have to. Learn lessons from this, that you could use in your future relationships ... that s the way you need to look at it. hmmm there were red flags, he told early on he has attachment issue's and gets sick of woman easily.
Truly Lost Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Sorry to hear that he took the immature approach to letting you know it's over. I've been there. It's really mean and hurtful and by no means happens by accident. He obviously doesn't hold any kind of respect for you if he is going to treat you in that manner. When dating, if at any time, especially in the beginning, it seems like it's going south.....that's because it is. He sounds like he wasn't worth dating to begin with. He isn't capable of supporting you or enriching your life if he is broke. I'm not saying you should just look for guys with money, but being in a relationship costs money. Anyone who is dating knows that. I think he did you a favor by bowing out.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 i have been doing lots of the vodka don't worry!!! goes great with butter peacan, love. you'll be back to you in a few weeks.
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 i dont think he took the mature approach to anything. he got the child as a product of a casual relationship, he said they didnt even talk just /////. but at least he fought for custody of the child but maybe that was a bad thing considering he bags the mother to the child all the time. plus he told me how woman were trying to pick him a lot and how sometimes he cant be bothered replying to texts and how ppl annoy him.
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 goes great with butter peacan, love. you'll be back to you in a few weeks. cos right now i feel crap, confused and over-analysing.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 cos right now i feel crap, confused and over-analysing. hence the liquor & ice cream. feel free to substitute your comfort food.
refurb Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 too nice how? He was canceling last minute, you cut him slack. Good idea the first time, very generous the second, by the third time, you were letting him walk all over you. You're both looking for two different things. You're looking for a relationship (I think). He's looking for companionship on his terms. I get the feeling he knew this early on, but didn't have enough balls to be honest with you. Once it got to be too much, he decided to just cut you lose (again a dick move). What I think is important is not to let this impact the way YOU think about YOURSELF. Just because this guy is a dick doesn't mean you don't deserve to be treated better. Walk away and find someone who treats you better (shouldn't be too hard). RF
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 He was canceling last minute, you cut him slack. Good idea the first time, very generous the second, by the third time, you were letting him walk all over you. You're both looking for two different things. You're looking for a relationship (I think). He's looking for companionship on his terms. I get the feeling he knew this early on, but didn't have enough balls to be honest with you. Once it got to be too much, he decided to just cut you lose (again a dick move). What I think is important is not to let this impact the way YOU think about YOURSELF. Just because this guy is a dick doesn't mean you don't deserve to be treated better. Walk away and find someone who treats you better (shouldn't be too hard). RF this is why on the third time after him cancelling by text i tried to ring and find out what was going on? he didnt answer. he text him and asked if everything was ok he said it was he needed to be on his own that so i thought stuff it im not going to passive anymore and i asked if everything was ok with me & him. he never replied wouldnt it be easy for him to say by text no its not ok?he told me at the start he was looking for a relationship and also after a while that we were dating?
alexlakeman Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Women do that to us all the time; welcome to the club; better to be the dumper than the dumpee unfortunately. I have to ask... how did he wing it at first to secure you with minimum wage, only working 2 days in the week, etc..?? no money.. heck cofee twice a week is $20.. As for the quick dumping? He might have gotten busted or close to getting busted and had to dump it all fast, block #'s, delete fb... Then, he's over there telling the other woman (or ex gf that came back to him) "I can't get rid of her, I'm sorry, take me back"... lol So how did you guys do it for dates? Don't tell me you paid the first 3-4 dates?
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 Women do that to us all the time; welcome to the club; better to be the dumper than the dumpee unfortunately. I have to ask... how did he wing it at first to secure you with minimum wage, only working 2 days in the week, etc..?? no money.. heck cofee twice a week is $20.. yes i was gullible my friends asked the same thing, he also on benefits. As for the quick dumping? He might have gotten busted or close to getting busted and had to dump it all fast, block #'s, delete fb... Then, he's over there telling the other woman (or ex gf that came back to him) "I can't get rid of her, I'm sorry, take me back"... lol So how did you guys do it for dates? Don't tell me you paid the first 3-4 dates? yes i was gullible my friends asked the same thing, he also on benefits. the first date was drinks he paid for most our first dinner date he paid then he cooked dinner a few times but i always brought chocolate or wine and i also gave gifts to the child i.e. leggo clothes etc. after the date when he 'forgot' to call me he said he had left wallet in car so i had pay on my b'day. the next time i paid for our movie tickets and i had to pay for my own lunch. he told me his brother had died and girlfriend had died of cancer. so this in fact had made him grow up and treat people with respect?
Gypsy_Soul Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 hmmm there were red flags, he told early on he has attachment issue's and gets sick of woman easily. Hi Ozziegal, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Look at the bright side, at least now you don't have to waste your time on such a jerk-off like him. Take this as a lesson learned and next time, when a guy tells you something negative about his character, believe him. Usually people lie and say positive things about their character not negative. Forget this loser and good luck next time.
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 yeah its hard im not in a good way and i dont know why im so upset. when i was at his house he cooked me dinner etc but i did notice he was a bit standoffish in ways. its confusing me why be nice and text and let me meet his son and get into bed with him and read him stories and tell you how much you appreciate the effort you go to with his son and then wanna say bye bye? maybe i did something wrong like rang and text that day to find out what was up?
Truly Lost Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Hmm...that's true. If someone tells you something negative about themselves it usually means they aren't digging the relationship they are having with you. No guy would say something like that to a woman they really liked a lot. Just doesn't happen. He must be trying to turn the table on you and make you the guilty party responsible for the two of you not working out. What a spineless A**h*le!! DUMP HIM!!
Gypsy_Soul Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 yeah its hard im not in a good way and i dont know why im so upset. when i was at his house he cooked me dinner etc but i did notice he was a bit standoffish in ways. its confusing me why be nice and text and let me meet his son and get into bed with him and read him stories and tell you how much you appreciate the effort you go to with his son and then wanna say bye bye? maybe i did something wrong like rang and text that day to find out what was up? I don't think it's anything you did at all. He's a jerk, he told you how he is. Some people don't value emotional connection. Obviously like him, why would he bring someone around his children and then take them away? He doesn't care how you feel or his kids for that matter. He's got issues. He'll do it to the next woman he moat likely dumped you for.
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 Hmm...that's true. If someone tells you something negative about themselves it usually means they aren't digging the relationship they are having with you. No guy would say something like that to a woman they really liked a lot. Just doesn't happen. He must be trying to turn the table on you and make you the guilty party responsible for the two of you not working out. What a spineless A**h*le!! DUMP HIM!! he told me this on our first date and then 2nd date just after he asked me to date him... so no wasn't trying to get rid of me then.
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