I'm in love with this girl but she's got a boyfriend - What do I do?

[Kain Highwind]

OK, I first met this girl about a year and a half ago in one of my classes. We started out as friends but got really close during the summer and... I love her

 

I care about her more than I do about anyone in the world. I'd do anything I could for her. Like, I just thought of her as a friend at first but the more we hung out, the more I realized that I really like her. In the summer, we used to hang out like every other day after she got off work and the days we didn't, we talked on the phone[/url] for hours or texted until we fell sleep. A lot of the time our hanging out was just like watching a movie while laying on my bed but they were some of the happiest times I've had for as long as I can remember.

 

She makes me happier than anyone else in the world and just talking to her on the phone can cheer me up if I'm having a bad day. With my past girls, when I was talking to them, I would just like zone out and be like "when will she quit talking" but with her, I listened to everything she said. I was interested. Just hearing her voice or feeling her like when she hugged me when she left was enough to put me in a good mood for the rest of the day. She's beautiful and even though I've been with girls before, there were days when I thought "eh, she looks... meh" but... I've never thought she looked bad at all. Her eyes are beautiful, she has a cute face, and she's pretty much the prettiest girl I know. She's adorable.

 

I thought we were really close to getting together (she wanted to hang out on my birthday as just us), but school started and we weren't able to hang out much and when I finally tried to make a move, she went on a date with someone else. I asked the day after she did (since it was just a date) but apparently she only dates one person at a time. She got mad because she thought I wasn't respecting her (she apologized right after though) and we took some time apart from each other for about two months.

 

We're talking again but she's got a boyfriend now and it just hurts me so much to know that they're together. I'm friends with two of their best friends and they both say that I'd be better for her and that I'd treat her better, that he's the kind of guy to get with a girl one week and dump her the next for another. I know she really likes him right now but.. I just can't see them lasting long.

 

We haven't hung out and we barely talk anymore but I know she still cares about me some (she got me a birthday present three months after mine) and I still love her. Them being together just hurts me so much...

 

I just feel like she only went to him because he lives closer and had a car. I didn't when we were hanging out and I live about 30 minutes away and he lives about 3. When classes started, we really couldn't hang out just because she went from 5am-6pm nonstop from waking up to getting off work each day. She'd have to go out of her way to come to my house and she always had hw and since he lived really close and could come to her, they could just get closer.

 

I wanna get with her and I truly do think she is the one for me so... What can I do? I don't see them lasting long at all. I broke down crying on and off over the past few days just because I wish I could've been with her for Christmas. I would have given my Christmas up just to be with her and for her to feel the way I do towards her to me

[USMCHokie]

I'm in love with this girl but she's got a boyfriend - What do I do?

 

Find a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend.

 

 

 

 

 

Seriously.

[Kain Highwind]

Find a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend.

 

 

 

 

 

Seriously.

I just don't see them lasting long at all. I know their best friend and he said that her bf is the kind of guy to have a new girl like every other week :/

[Distant78]

OK, I first met this girl about a year and a half ago in one of my classes. We started out as friends but got really close during the summer and... I love her

 

I care about her more than I do about anyone in the world. I'd do anything I could for her. Like, I just thought of her as a friend at first but the more we hung out, the more I realized that I really like her. In the summer, we used to hang out like every other day after she got off work and the days we didn't, we talked on the phone for hours or texted until we fell sleep. A lot of the time our hanging out was just like watching a movie while laying on my bed but they were some of the happiest times I've had for as long as I can remember.

 

She makes me happier than anyone else in the world and just talking to her on the phone can cheer me up if I'm having a bad day. With my past girls, when I was talking to them, I would just like zone out and be like "when will she quit talking" but with her, I listened to everything she said. I was interested. Just hearing her voice or feeling her like when she hugged me when she left was enough to put me in a good mood for the rest of the day. She's beautiful and even though I've been with girls before, there were days when I thought "eh, she looks... meh" but... I've never thought she looked bad at all. Her eyes are beautiful, she has a cute face, and she's pretty much the prettiest girl I know. She's adorable.

 

I thought we were really close to getting together (she wanted to hang out on my birthday as just us), but school started and we weren't able to hang out much and when I finally tried to make a move, she went on a date with someone else. I asked the day after she did (since it was just a date) but apparently she only dates one person at a time. She got mad because she thought I wasn't respecting her (she apologized right after though) and we took some time apart from each other for about two months.

 

We're talking again but she's got a boyfriend now and it just hurts me so much to know that they're together. I'm friends with two of their best friends and they both say that I'd be better for her and that I'd treat her better, that he's the kind of guy to get with a girl one week and dump her the next for another. I know she really likes him right now but.. I just can't see them lasting long.

 

We haven't hung out and we barely talk anymore but I know she still cares about me some (she got me a birthday present three months after mine) and I still love her. Them being together just hurts me so much...

 

I just feel like she only went to him because he lives closer and had a car. I didn't when we were hanging out and I live about 30 minutes away and he lives about 3. When classes started, we really couldn't hang out just because she went from 5am-6pm nonstop from waking up to getting off work each day. She'd have to go out of her way to come to my house and she always had hw and since he lived really close and could come to her, they could just get closer.

 

I wanna get with her and I truly do think she is the one for me so... What can I do? I don't see them lasting long at all. I broke down crying on and off over the past few days just because I wish I could've been with her for Christmas. I would have given my Christmas up just to be with her and for her to feel the way I do towards her to me

 

What can you do? Instead of writing some big story of why you like someone who's moved on and has a boyfriend, just save the tears and move on too. You'll only mess up things by trying to convince her to be with you, instead of her boyfriend. You're acting as if somehow you got betrayed when you guys were never even a couple to begin with. You sound pretty young so I wouldn't worry so much about one girl. There are plenty more fish in the sea for you to catch, you just gotta find them.

[Kain Highwind]

What can you do? Instead of writing some big story of why you like someone who's moved on and has a boyfriend, just save the tears and move on too. You'll only mess up things by trying to convince her to be with you, instead of her boyfriend. You're acting as if somehow you got betrayed when you guys were never even a couple to begin with. You sound pretty young so I wouldn't worry so much about one girl. There are plenty more fish in the sea for you to catch, you just gotta find them.

I'm not gonna go between them. I respect her way too much. I may be wrong but I just can't see them lasting long

 

And we pretty much were a couple because of how close we were, it just wasn't official

[USMCHokie]

I just don't see them lasting long at all. I know their best friend and he said that her bf is the kind of guy to have a new girl like every other week :/

 

Sorry to be so blunt, but what you think regarding them doesn't mean sh*t...and what their friend thinks doesn't mean much of anything either...

 

Put your emotion and energy into someone who is available.

[Kain Highwind]

Sorry to be so blunt, but what you think regarding them doesn't mean sh*t...and what their friend thinks doesn't mean much of anything either...

 

Put your emotion and energy into someone who is available.

I know that but he said he's just seen him do it so many times... I'm not gonna be waiting long but I'm gonna hold out for just a little bit

[Nightsky]

What do you think?

[Kain Highwind]

What do you think?

I was just gonna see if they split up soon and then go from there

 

Probably could have worded the title better >_>

[Nightsky]

You don’t have to be sad. You don’t even have to wait. If they split you’ll know, and if you have a girl friend you won’t care like you do now.

 

There is no reason for you to be so emotionally invested in whether or not she dates you. Do you agree with this?

[USMCHokie]

There is a pretty important assumption that you're making here...that even if they do breakup, that she'll want to date you right away...or at all...

 

One of the things that jumps out at me is that with all the time you'd spent together that one summer, you weren't already dating...that's a classic case of friendzone...was there a reason why you two didn't start dating then...? It's possible that she wasn't truly interested and just enjoyed the attention you were giving her without the pressure of sex and/or a relationship...

[Kain Highwind]

There is a pretty important assumption that you're making here...that even if they do breakup, that she'll want to date you right away...or at all...

 

One of the things that jumps out at me is that with all the time you'd spent together that one summer, you weren't already dating...that's a classic case of friendzone...was there a reason why you two didn't start dating then...? It's possible that she wasn't truly interested and just enjoyed the attention you were giving her without the pressure of sex and/or a relationship...

Well, I waited too long to make a move. I never asked her out on a date or made one >_>

 

I could tell that she more than likely was interested though. For my birthday, we were gonna hang out and she kept on making a point of it being "just us" and stuff like that. I brought up my friend wanting to come and she was like really insistent on us being alone. We never hung out because she got sick and then classes started and we never got a chance again :/

[Kain Highwind]

You don’t have to be sad. You don’t even have to wait. If they split you’ll know, and if you have a girl friend you won’t care like you do now.

 

There is no reason for you to be so emotionally invested in whether or not she dates you. Do you agree with this?

I've tried other girls but.. It just hasn't been there

 

I know about oneitis and its a load of crap but... I seriously do think that she may be the one for me

[Nightsky]

You’ll be attractive if you stop being depressed and paralyzed by rejection. By staying single and obsessing you define your worth through her eyes. If you start living life and having fun regaurdless of what an attractive girl thinks you'll have more worth. Don’t you agree?

[Kain Highwind]

You’ll be attractive if you stop being depressed and paralyzed by rejection. By staying single and obsessing you define your worth through her eyes. If you start living life and having fun regaurdless of what an attractive girl thinks you'll have more worth. Don’t you agree?

Well.. I'm really not depressed anymore. I was really upset the past few days but I've pretty much gotten over that

[Nightsky]

Then you are headed in the right direction. You’re going be fine even if she doesn’t go out with you. You’ll see.

[Kain Highwind]

Then you are headed in the right direction. You’re going be fine even if she doesn’t go out with you. You’ll see.

Well if they don't split up or I get turned down, I know I'm gonna be depressed but this was just the fact that she was with him over the holidays

 

I hate to say it but I'm not in the clear yet :/

[bellexxx]

wish my ex was like u... at least ur not a selfish little f***

anyway, sorry for that, (i have been very recently cheated on) but keep ur head high, love will find you evetually, maybe not with her, but trust me it will find u!

[Kain Highwind]

wish my ex was like u... at least ur not a selfish little f***

anyway, sorry for that, (i have been very recently cheated on) but keep ur head high, love will find you evetually, maybe not with her, but trust me it will find u!

Thanks

 

I hope and think it will be with her. I can't say I know but I do have a really good feeling

[Kain Highwind]

and just wondering, but would telling her how I feel be a bad idea?

[dont-be-naive]

I just don't see them lasting long at all. I know their best friend and he said that her bf is the kind of guy to have a new girl like every other week :/

 

well if she were to leave him for you, then expect her to better-deal you in the future.

 

I dont know why people think that if they can swoon someone away from someone else that they are immune from the same thing being done to them.

[Distant78]

well if she were to leave him for you, then expect her to better-deal you in the future.

 

I dont know why people think that if they can swoon someone away from someone else that they are immune from the same thing being done to them.

 

Exactly. As if they have some spell upon them.

[Kain Highwind]

well if she were to leave him for you, then expect her to better-deal you in the future.

 

I dont know why people think that if they can swoon someone away from someone else that they are immune from the same thing being done to them.

I doubt she'll leave him for me

 

I do see him leaving for someone else though

[carhill]

What can I do?

 

Get a job and buy a car.

 

Fugettabout ms got a boyfriend. She knows how to find you if she's interested in reciprocating your obvious love, which most assuredly she is aware of. Good luck

[Kain Highwind]

Get a job and buy a car.

 

Fugettabout ms got a boyfriend. She knows how to find you if she's interested in reciprocating your obvious love, which most assuredly she is aware of. Good luck

Got a car, looking for a job lol