isitme1 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 I keep telling myself to come to the realization that is over...she broke w/you! She doesn't want to be with you!! What are you doing to yourself??!!! I am more upset w/myself about talking to her via text...I just need to stop doing this to myself because I go back to square 1!! I got on here to search for advice and to see how people are handling their situations...I do the opposite...its not fair to all the good people that I seek help from...for tat I am sorry...I am a slow learner...there are some good references on here that recommend people reading...The guide to being dumped!! That is really a great piece to read and if you need help please follow it...I am like everyone else on here...scared about the person forgetting you, trying to figure things out on why it ended, the other person factor, and of course hoping to reconcile. I am also upset w/myself that I am not depending on my Faith in which I should...I want the instant gratification that everything is going to be alright just like everyone else...ITS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!It really sucks to go through this because all you want to do is call your ex and hope they say everything is going to be alright...They are not going to say that...They will feel sorry for you and give them more conviction and better understanding why they are out of your life! you will also keep burying yourself a deeper hole in which there is not getting out of...So please do what you can and take it from me...do not contact your EX...it makes things worse...if its meant to be it will be...I need to practice what I preach but its damn hard to do!!!!!! Now to figure out what I should do now to find my closure...
Dorian85 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 hey there A lot of what you said was very true. There is a reason why people encourage N.C....because if you STICK TO IT..it actually does work. But, sticking to it can be extremely hard...especially over the recent holidays that have past (X-mas) and the ones coming up (new years). with that being said, I would encourage EVERYONE who has recently...and not so recently, broken it off with someone to stay strong over the next week. The temptation is sure to be there to reach out to your ex, even if its for something as innocent as a "happy new years" txt or email....Just think about what you will be doing to your own self improvement if you do this. N.C works! it really does. But it also takes some self growth as well. N.C doesn't just work on its own...you need that time for personal reflection and to become a better person FOR YOU! Not anyone else. So use N.C as a reason to look out for yourself and try to move on with your life free of any bad memories. Happy holidays everyone!
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