Kyle787 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 There was this really cute girl (junior) I decided to talk to in the hall after class Thursday(I am a senior). Everything went well, lots of smiling and laughing for about 5 minutes then I asked for her number and she was hesitant saying "well I don't even really know you, what is your last name?" and I answered and replied with a "well..." hinting that I would like to get to know her. She gave it to me and put her first name and last initial. (If that means anything) I was so confident I even surprised myself. I texted her early yesterday, xmas eve and never heard back. I just put "Hey there. It's mike from yesterday. Just wanted to say hi" My friends suggested that she is being cautious and didn't answer because either a she doesn't really know me or she was busy. She seemed like that kind of person. I decided to go for the number because I saw her 3 weeks ago and I was too nervous to talk to her then never saw her since. If only I could explain all of this. I feel i could have been a bit intimidating or pushy at first but I don't think it is appropriate to call it off yet. What should i do? Text her again tomorrow night with a "hey how was your christmas?" Or wait all the way until next Monday to see if I could talk in person Or both or even look for her on facebook im open to any suggestions
january2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 To be fair, your text didn't really warrant a response. You probably expected her to say, "hi" back or at least some kind of acknowledgement, out of common courtesy. But sometimes, people don't take that extra step. She may well be nervous and doesn't know what to text back. Or she could be cautious, as you said. Perhaps give it a few days and then text her asking about her Christmas. Normally, I'd suggest asking her out on a date face-to-face but based on her reaction when you asked for her number, I think that asking her out on a date may be too big a leap until you get to know her better.
Author Kyle787 Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 To be fair, your text didn't really warrant a response. You probably expected her to say, "hi" back or at least some kind of acknowledgement, out of common courtesy. But sometimes, people don't take that extra step. She may well be nervous and doesn't know what to text back. Or she could be cautious, as you said. Perhaps give it a few days and then text her asking about her Christmas. Normally, I'd suggest asking her out on a date face-to-face but based on her reaction when you asked for her number, I think that asking her out on a date may be too big a leap until you get to know her better. Thanks for the insight!
youngskywalker Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Don't text again until after you see her. If still no response then you have to stop texting her. The next time you see her start talking to her. If you're getting a good vibe then ask her out. It sounds like she is a little cautious and will most likely say no but that is perfectly fine. She'll then know you're interested and it will display confidence on your part. Then, keep some light contact with her, show interest, flirt a little, text sparingly. Eventually you'll ask her out again and she'll say yes. Just be careful you don't get friend zoned doing this. When you feel like she is more comfortable and trusts you a little, ask her out again. Don't wait too long. You want to ask her out the second time before you become "friends". Got it?
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