dmncoldworldgrl87 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 I am so angry with my ex....I feel like he just gave up on our relationship....I wanted to work things out but he goes into NC with me in the beginning of December. I texted him on Christmas wishing him and his family a merry christmas....I really thought he wasn't going to reply but he actually did and said thanks u 2 wishing you the best and to take care......I really don't kno what is going on with him, I wish I just didn't care anymore but I still do... I cannt believe he can just cut me out of his life like that after everything we've been through together...I feel like it was all a lie and that he never loved me in the same way that I loved him....its probably not true and he did love me before everything went to hell but that's just how I feel at this point.....I really wish I could just stop thinking about him and move on but I can't, I still love him and miss him so much and it hurts that he is just living his life like I never even existed....he was my first serious bf and I loved so much, we did everything together and he and I thought we were going to be together forever....now I am alone, I feel rejected, and after a month of being sad and crying I now feel this extreme anger and I dk what to do with it.....I want to call him and curse him out for breaking my heart and ruining my holiday but I kno I have to remain NC with him. I really don't understand why we broke up....he gave me his reasons but I don't think they were that big so that we had to break up over it.....never cheated on him, never argued, it was so out of the blue....its just scary to me how u could telll someone u love them and u want to be with them forever oneday and then all of a sudden ur like I just don't feel the same way anymore and maybe we can be friends....this just really sucks he was my best friend and bf and now I'm like nothing to him anymore....I'm sorry this post is so long I just needed to vent I felt so angry today.....
tobydog Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Hunni, I am so sorry to hear this. It seems to be typical of so many stories, they love you one minute, not the next. Why? Dunno, no answers here I'm afraid. But all I can say is the pain does lessen in time. It really does. And I am angry now with my stbx. I think it's better than the grieving stage too. Keep angry for a bit. It is a bit better and I think it helps you get over it. Take care sweetie and always post here. I was where you were a few months ago and am feeling better a bit.x Deb
LoveBug1989 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 (edited) Almost in the same exact situation as you hun, 2 weeks into it, yes it hurts so bad, I know what you mean about feeling like he gave up on the relationship, like the rug was pulled out from under you, and from all his "I love you"s and hugs and kisses and love to absolutely nothing. Same with you, no arguing, no cheating, just out of the blue. I agree with what you said, that it is scary to think that you can love someone the next and they love you in return but one day all of a sudden it's all over for no reason or for petty reasons...It's like they never existed in the first place, just completely gone. I don't understand and I'm sure you don't either. I'm right there with you girl, and I know that you can get through this pain in time. Best wishes x Edited December 26, 2010 by LoveBug1989
Author dmncoldworldgrl87 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 thnx guys your words mean a lot to me right now and reading all of these posts helps a lot...i know only time will heal my broken heart but its just hard for me right now...i just think the worst part is not knowing what he is doing and if he has started dating...he has a FB but he deleted me as a friend...i looked at it once bigg mistake will never look at it again...too painful to see how happy he is w/o me...i guess i will keep myself busy....i am going on vacation in 2 weeks so hopefully that will help...i just want to forget him already so frustrating!!!
spiderowl Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Really sorry to hear how you are feeling and I know exactly how it feels too. The same thing happened to me and it does seem incomprehensible at the time. Basically, everything hurts. If it's any help, looking back I can see we were not compatible (I sort of knew that deep down anyway but the feelings of attachment were so strong I put it to the back of my mind). If we had stayed together longer, I think I would have broken up with him. He wasn't a nice person really, just pretended to be. I do feel that we are like atoms in a way, attracted to each other and repelled, until one day we are attracted to another and stick. If we are lucky, they stick too! Unfortunately, this isn't always the case and they have a lesser pull and we get hurt. One day, you will find the right guy and you will both stick with each other. This is why you mustn't assume there was anything wrong with you, just that the intensity of attraction was not the same, not that it wasn't there at all. I've thought about this a lot and have resolved that in future I will get to know a guy as a friend and find out what kind of person he is before letting it get to the physical stage. If he's going to split up with me, he can do it before I become too bonded to him. I suspect that if I do manage this, I will find out the true mettle of a guy and may even decide it's not worth taking it further. It's all too easy to get blinded by initial attraction and assume the guy feels the same way when he's probably just having some light-hearted fun at that stage and doesn't feel a bond. Hope this helps a bit, but time will make a difference.
seaworld Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 thnx guys your words mean a lot to me right now and reading all of these posts helps a lot...i know only time will heal my broken heart but its just hard for me right now...i just think the worst part is not knowing what he is doing and if he has started dating...he has a FB but he deleted me as a friend...i looked at it once bigg mistake will never look at it again...too painful to see how happy he is w/o me...i guess i will keep myself busy....i am going on vacation in 2 weeks so hopefully that will help...i just want to forget him already so frustrating!!! Your story sounds so like mine, except I am the guy. She broke up with me, because her reasoning was she didn't see a future and didn't want to prolong it. As soon as she did, she starts going out almost everyday, with new people. 6 wks after our breakup, she met this guy that asked her out, and she has been dating him ever since. I believe they are official bf/gf now, only after 8 wks we broke up. So we broke up on 10/19, she was going to meet me up in person to take care of some final things, and possibly talk, but I woke up emotional one morning, and I texted her, pretty much getting mad at her. Asked her why she gave up on us so easily, and why she couldn't give us another chance. That took me back at least 3 steps backwards. I feel your pain.. just hang in there..
LifeIsGreat Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Anger is a natural emotion, and you should not suppress or fight it. Just be careful that you don't let it affect your actions in a negative way. Here's another thought--- anger is an emotion that helps you break the loyalty you once had for someone. Go ahead; feel the anger, be mad at your ex, and let it break your desire to get back together.
Author dmncoldworldgrl87 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 thanks that is good advice...i don't want to lash out at ppl i care about tho...i just want to be angry at him so that i wont be thinking about getting back with him anymore...i might join a gym so i can turn all this angry energy into something positive for myself...i will become fit and release my anger on some punching bags
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