GoodOnPaper Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 You're all missing something. Attractive people have their own stuff that they're intimidated by.... Maybe . . . but it's not quite the same. The ability to successfully attract members of the opposite sex (assuming one is heterosexual) is as fundamental and primal as it gets. While I have a lot of other things going for me, they don't seem to make up for having been bad at this. Therefore, I have to conclude that if I was good at attracting women, it WOULD make up for a lot of other shortcomings.
Author mo mo Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 You're all missing something. Attractive people have their own stuff that they're intimidated by.... I have a beautiful friend (and guys, I really do mean beautiful) and she actually dislikes how beautiful she is, because it makes her unapproachable. The only guys who come onto her are those who want the conquest. She's extremely intelligent (An astrophysicist, can you believe that...?) and she's intimidated by her own success. She tells people she works in a research lab.... Everybody has insecurities, even Mr "I'm so confident, good looking and hunky". because attractiveness is entirely skin deep. Look at what lies beyond that..... Remember, when you speak to an attractive person, they drool in their sleep, break wind and crap just the same way you do. THANK YOU This is exactly what a lot of people don't understand. They're only human. The fact that they are so attractive means that not many people have the balls to approach them anyways. Sometimes they are actually STARVING for attention. As soon as you put them on a pedestal you set yourself up for failure. Treat them like you would treat anyone else and you're golden.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 THANK YOU This is exactly what a lot of people don't understand. They're only human. The fact that they are so attractive means that not many people have the balls to approach them anyways. Sometimes they are actually STARVING for attention. As soon as you put them on a pedestal you set yourself up for failure. Treat them like you would treat anyone else and you're golden. With respect, I don't think most people who "feel" a little "intimidated" in the presence of beauty apply that much reason to it. They just "feel" in that instant how they feel. Most will reason it out just as you said after the fact but the little impulse will always be there to feel something before it can be reasoned the next time one encounters the "over-powering" beauty. When something startles or threatens us we flinch or brace--we can't know that it's only a harmless dog, a gust of wind which has knocked something over or some other startling sound from a non-malevolent source. Reacting to the presence of a person who registers on the beauty-ometer can be just as spontaneous. We don't know what buttons it's pushing in our emotional control center yet, we just know that it's pressing some of them hard. I don't know how to tell someone to out-think their feelings--many folk generally feel first and reason after the fact.
threebyfate Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Sometimes they are actually STARVING for attention.Eh? Let's get a little more realistic here. If a highly attractive individual is starving for attention, it's because they're narcissistic where greater than average attention isn't enough to fill the emptiness inside, are the overly picky type who whine about a lack of attention or they're putting out some very hostile vibes. And even when beautiful women put out hostile vibes, they're only going to scare away the timid. There are enough men out there that don't fear hostile vibes and they're not all players.
Jannah Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 I have been before. I was in a super market once, and there was a hubba hubba looking man, and I completely froze. Eek!
Author mo mo Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 Eh? Let's get a little more realistic here. If a highly attractive individual is starving for attention, it's because they're narcissistic where greater than average attention isn't enough to fill the emptiness inside, are the overly picky type who whine about a lack of attention or they're putting out some very hostile vibes. And even when beautiful women put out hostile vibes, they're only going to scare away the timid. There are enough men out there that don't fear hostile vibes and they're not all players. What I mean is that if everyone is intimidated by this gorgeous person's presence, they won't have the confidence to approach them, and ultimately the gorgeous person feels like he/she is not being noticed.
112233 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Guys: are you unwilling to approach a girl that has supermodel looks? I don't find that look attractive generally.
SteveC80 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Posts like these show you the average looking person isnt magically thinking their partners great looking,they approach it more along the lines of this persons not good looking enough for me to have no shot therye aveyage enough i might have a shot so ill approach
TaurusTerp Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 People in my area (DC) generally tend to be very closed off so I normally don't approach unless all of the elements are in place. That being said, I'm normally pretty good at striking up a random conversation, and if she doesn't respond, I figure that it's her and nothing was wrong with me. I've also found that a majority of incredibly good looking single women aren't good for conversation beyond a couple minutes. They keep it going but I get bored quickly. Seriously? I was in DC for a year and it was by far the easiest place to meet women. The entire social scene revolves around drinking and happy hours; and certain bars are just absolute meat markets.
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 What I mean is that if everyone is intimidated by this gorgeous person's presence, they won't have the confidence to approach them, and ultimately the gorgeous person feels like he/she is not being noticed.Sorry but I don't buy into this "too gorgeous" or "too anything" to approach b/s. It's simply not true. If someone's not being approached, they're not as gorgeous as they or their friends believe or have a serious attitude problem. If someone's intimidating men, it's not because they're too smart or successful. It's because they have a bad attitude.
tigressA Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Sorry but I don't buy into this "too gorgeous" or "too anything" to approach b/s. It's simply not true. If someone's not being approached, they're not as gorgeous as they or their friends believe or have a serious attitude problem. If someone's intimidating men, it's not because they're too smart or successful. It's because they have a bad attitude. I agree. As I said in my first post in this thread, I sometimes can be intimidated, but it doesn't ever altogether stop me from approaching a guy. It just makes me a little more nervous about it. :laugh:
callingyouuu Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 I find myself more intimidated by strong personalities than faces. I do admit, though, that I'm very quick to judge attractive people in general as shallow and not really worth talking to.
Gypsy_Soul Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Not at all, why should I? They're just people. I know celebrities as well and I only know them because I'm not intimidated by their celebrity status or attractiveness.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 (edited) I'm taking "intimidated" to be somewhat more figurative than literal. Can some women affect me in ways that make me a little nervous inside? Surely. But I don't find this happening as a regular thing. I'd be lying if my reaction to some looks weren't OMFG however. I won't stutter though or cower off. To some I qualify as that hansom imposing man and I can even play into that sometimes--it's just that I didn't grow up feeling that way. I was a fat boy and was made to feel like I was gross and disgusting. I wasn't, I was just an obese child. I eventually turned from chunk to hunk but I still have some part of me with the heart of a chunk. I don't think I'd trade myself for someone who's always been confident in his looks and unchallenged in the weight department--I may have turned out one of the pricks who menaced me or one of the arrogant self-congratulating jerk-offs who put overweight people down here on LS. I'm a compassionate person and I wouldn't have it any other way. Edited December 27, 2010 by Feelin Frisky
jean-luc sisko Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Guys: are you unwilling to approach a girl that has supermodel looks? Girls: are you intimidated by handsome and/or athletic men? I am drawn in, which guy is not? it's human nature. But I never really feel intimidated.
mr.dream merchant Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 If I'm not tied up with anything, or not in a rush, then I'll approach a woman with supermodel looks..their beauty doesn't really phase any further than a "Damn! :O" TaraMaiden mentioned it earlier on in the thread, about generally attractive people actually wanting to be less attractive, that way people won't instantly judge them or be intimidated by them due to their attractiveness. There was a point in time where one felt the same way..
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