Guys and girls: are you intimidated by attractive people of the opposite sex?

[mo mo]

Guys: are you unwilling to approach a girl that has supermodel looks?

 

Girls: are you intimidated by handsome and/or athletic men?

[Ross PK]

What do you mean by approaching specifically?

 

I'm shy with anyone.

[mo mo]

What do you mean by approaching specifically?

 

I'm shy with anyone.

 

I mean like, breaking the ice, starting conversations, playful flirting, etc.

[Feelin Frisky]

I suppose I can be intimidated by some women's presence. I use the term presence rather than looks because the look is only part of the equation--it's how she carries herself too. It's not that I feel less than, it's just feeling like hummina hummina...

[Ruby Slippers]

I am happy to talk to unusually attractive men and flirt with them, and the few flings I've had have been with sex bomb guys, but I assume very good-looking men won't be good, faithful partners. In most cases, men are more loyal and committed with women more attractive than themselves. And since I'm no striking beauty, it most likely wouldn't work for me and a gorgeous man long term.

[OceanGirl]

I am a bit intimidated but also not interested. As Ruby said, men with really good looks generally don't make loyal partners - well maybe they do other extremely good looking women. Since I am not extremely good looking, I wouldn't go for them - so much effort in flirting is pointless.

[EricaH329]

Personally, I do find it quite intimidating to be approached by a good looking guy. I don't let it be known, however. Afterwards, I have a mini freak-out attack but I portray myself to be very confident in those situations.

 

But, as a couple of others have said, looks only go so far. If I find the guy to be a complete jerk/idiot, I no longer feel intimidated.

[musemaj11]

When I see an attractive woman, I just assume that chances are that she already has guys lining up and is high maintenance.

 

Personally I prefer women who are around my own level of attractiveness and sometimes even lower because they are more likely to be more appreciative of me.

[USMCHokie]

I immediately friendzone myself. I will also friendzone myself if they are taller than me.

[Cracker Jack]

^What USM said, to an extent.

 

I usually just realize that I likely have no chance, since there are plenty of other men out there who have a much better chance with her than me. If she's even a bit taller or about the same height, I just admire her beauty and leave it at that. Sucks.

[zengirl]

No. I'm not really easily intimidated, and definitely not by looks. However, if a guy is too into his own looks and seems shallow, that's lame.

Edited December 26, 2010 by zengirl

[LondonS]

nah I only ever go for very goodlooking, Tall and sporty men with a good professional career, ( Blonde n blue eyed preferred, its just what I find attractive), although I dated some less handsome men but didnt feel a thing for them whilst they all wanted to carry on dating me...

 

with that said, I should add that I am considered very goodlooking too with keen interest in sports and a high flying career in Investment Banking so I want someone compatible !!

 

may be with time things change and I start thinking more long term and write these men off to slightly less handsome ones, who knows...

[zebracolors]

I am also naturally shy and I hate to say it but I probably am a little more so bashful if I have to talk to a guy that I think is 'attractive' or has physical features that could be recognized as asthetically pleasing. Remember though that will be different for everyone.

 

I thınk what happens is that without our even realizing it, in our minds we are automatically thinking of why we feel ugly or ınadequate after we compare ourself to the person we are looking at.

 

It is different for everyone but I am usually able get over that because the only times it really happens is at work, where I have to talk to strangers. İt does not bother me though. There is someone out there I know who thinks I am beautiful already. Knowing that can make it easier to suppress the shyness a little easier.

[GoodOnPaper]

When I see an attractive woman, I just assume that chances are that she already has guys lining up

 

Ditto. For me, I guess it's part intimidation but at the same time, I find it unseemly to be one of a faceless crowd of guys trying to chat up, flirt with, or get a number from someone very strikingly attractive. I don't feel that I can be one in a million for someone if I'm one of a million . . .

 

However, finding someone that's attractive enough for me to want to pursue while not triggering the above feeling is a VERY fine line to walk -- one that I can't say I successfully navigated . . .

[MyNameIsJonas]

People in my area (DC) generally tend to be very closed off so I normally don't approach unless all of the elements are in place. That being said, I'm normally pretty good at striking up a random conversation, and if she doesn't respond, I figure that it's her and nothing was wrong with me.

 

I've also found that a majority of incredibly good looking single women aren't good for conversation beyond a couple minutes. They keep it going but I get bored quickly.

[taiko]

While there are guys who will aproach anybody that is alive most of us filter out most. It might be not attractive enough, too attractive, race, age, social class, education and on and on and on.

 

In some cases some woman who was filtered out for any reason, including being out of his league in physical attraction, may do something to place herself in the man's give it a try box.

[dressing up]

I immediately friendzone myself. I will also friendzone myself if they are taller than me.

 

This cracks me up.

 

I'm intimidated by attractive men, more so because I don't want them to think I, someone less attractive than them, am interested in them. I hope that makes sense.

[tami-chan]

 

Girls: are you intimidated by handsome and/or athletic men?

 

No. Handsome and athletic men are a dime a dozen. They are not a rarity. I might be intimidated by very powerful men.

[january2010]

Not intimidated but the initial reaction is that I'm mesmerised by both extremely beautiful men and women. With athletic people, I am fascinated by what they can do with their bodies.

 

However, if what comes out of his/her mouth is off-putting, then I must admit that my opinion of them takes a nosedive.

[angielove]

I'm intimidated by attractive men, more so because I don't want them to think I, someone less attractive than them, am interested in them.

 

You took the words straight outta my mouth!

[threebyfate]

Girls: are you intimidated by handsome and/or athletic men?

Not even a little. Everyone's a person.

[tigressA]

I tend to be intimidated by ambitious people, both men and women, but particularly men. I'm not concerned with being highly educated (masters, PhD...) or having a high-powered job/career, and it's definitely not something I want or need out of a partner either, but I inevitably attract men who fit one or both of those criteria. At first I wonder if my lack of career ambition is a dealbreaker for them, but nearly all the time it's turned out that they admire traits in me that they lack. It evens out.

Edited December 26, 2010 by tigressA

[TaraMaiden]

You're all missing something.

 

Attractive people have their own stuff that they're intimidated by....

I have a beautiful friend (and guys, I really do mean beautiful) and she actually dislikes how beautiful she is, because it makes her unapproachable.

The only guys who come onto her are those who want the conquest.

She's extremely intelligent (An astrophysicist, can you believe that...?) and she's intimidated by her own success.

She tells people she works in a research lab....

 

Everybody has insecurities, even Mr "I'm so confident, good looking and hunky".

because attractiveness is entirely skin deep.

 

Look at what lies beyond that.....

 

Remember, when you speak to an attractive person, they drool in their sleep, break wind and crap just the same way you do.

[runner]

i only become somewhat intimidated when i've developed a crush. and it usually isn't by means of physical attractiveness alone.

 

it's funny how that works.

[EasyHeart]

With respect to dating, for me it's just the opposite: I only approach really attractive women. The prettier she is, the more likely I am to approach her. Anything else seems counter-intuitive. And kind of dumb.

 

For me it's mostly about a woman's attitude. Some women give off a sense of "bitchiness" (for lack of a better word) that repels me. It seems to be most common among average-looking women who look like they spend a lot of time on their hair and makeup. Very attractive women, IME, tend to be rather nice. It may have to do with their being confident in their attractiveness. Or it may be that they are just used to being approached, expect it, and know how to handle it. And they usually seem quite flattered.