maria.r Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 so ENGLISH is my 2nd language so excuse all the misspelling.I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we've had our normal small arguments, nothing too serious and we are very happy. his family never really approved of me because of religion diffirences but neither my boyfriend and i are relagous so it wasnt huge but still hard because i like to be close to family like he is. he recently moved into his own house and is letting his older sister who is 30 live with him because shes gone through a divorce and is going through a hard time SO he says he feels sorry for her. her and i were really good friends before she moved in and until recently where my boyfriends cousin and brother were over and my boyfriend and i had a small disagreement upstairs in our bedroom so in order to cool off i had asked him to go downstairs and give eachother a 10 minute break. so he goes downstairs and all of a sudden i started hearing his sister talking about me arguing with him and no one in their family likes me and im previously divored and have a daughter and how he could do better. well when i heard this i got really upset that shed be so nice to me then go off and be so judgemental and talk behind my back. so when my boyfriend came upstairs i asked him about it and this caused us to get into a big argument because he doesnt want to choose a side which wasnt what i asked him to do in the first place. i simply told him to stand up for me when she was trash mouthing me infront of everyone! so his sister knocks on the door and asks ME to quit being loud and yelling even when it was both of us arguing so i told her to please mind her own bussiness and that i had heard everything it was around 9pm . she smokes pot everynight in the house and i think this is really irrisponsible because the smell bothers me and my boyfriend takes her side. so we go into a verbal argument and she she called me a bunch of dirty names. then a couple of days pass and at this point there is tention between my boyfriend and i because of this issue and because he wouldnt stand up for me so he asked me to come over because he missed me and wants to make it up. i go over and she has her friend over downstairs watching tv so we stay upstairs to avoid an argument, we waited for her to go to bed then we go downstairs to watch a movie. and all of a sudden she calls him upstairs and loudly says I DONT WANT HER HERE1!!!! I DONT WANT THIS GIRL IN THE HOUSE!!! so i just told her to quit being a drama queen and asked her what her problem was. she then told me to shut the f up so by this point ive had enough of her crap so i told her right back and then she comes downstairs and calls me a slut and dirty and nasty ... ive only been with like 3 people all my life so shes just being out of line. i told her she needs to grow up and quit being so immature and this isnt her that im staying in his room and its his HOUSE and avoiding her! so she started pushing me and putting her hands on me and to dfend myself i pushed her back then she started pulling on my hair and we actually got into a physsical fight and my boyfriend was trying to break up the fight but hes holding me back which gave her the oppurtunity to kick me a couple of times but at the end she was the one that was scarred up. SO THEN, she calls her mom and tells her to come over. her mother and i have a good relationship and she is a good woman.she talked to both of us about what happened and she then said that she thought it was because his sister is unhappy ith her life and since im the only one there shes taking it out on me. so she sided with me because she knows her daughter best. my boyfriend left me there turns off his phone because he didnt want to deal with the drama and left me the whole night until i left myself in the morning and i was so disappointed and so upset with him becaus eafter all of this he still says it was both of our faults but i dont see how it can be my fault when she started the whole thing. so my question is do you think i have a right to be upset at both my boyfriend for being unsupportive and abandoning me when i needed him the most and at his sister for starting drama and betraying our friendship. im sorry its so long but i need advice and i know in my heart that im not being treated right. He isnt acting much like a boyfriend by running away.
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