really1 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 He got him condoms from Christmas! I got a picture text and I thought my bf was just being funny and he writes that his dad gave it to him. We are both in our 20s. Wtf. We've been dating 9 months. I don't know how to handle this or how to even respond. Christ.... how am I supposed to react?? Last time I stayed there my bf had to call his dad to ask him to pick up something and his dad thought we just needed more time to have sex. Now this with the condoms is crossing the line.. what do I do?
TaraMaiden Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Practice safe sex....? What's the big deal? At least his dad is an upfront, modern-thinking guy - who not only has no wish to become a granddad yet, but is also looking out for you two, to make sure you have no "unexpected visitors" which will - trust me, at this young stage of your lives - really mess things up! I think you're being a bit prudish, frankly. Sex is completely normal. How do you think your BF got here? His dad had sex. He probably still has sex. And he knows his son has sex. So I'd look upon his gift as a compliment, and not as 'crossing the line'....
Eddie Edirol Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Its not corssing the line, and its not all about you. His dad doesnt want him to knock you up, thats all. It says nothing or has anything to do with you. If you werent planning to have sex with him, then you have nothing to be concerned about. Your only concern is if you are allergic to latex. Tell his dad to exchange them for lambskin.
Author really1 Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 No offense people, but how is it being helpful by calling me prudish and that it's "not all about me"? You view things more "modern" or "with the times" concerning sex, but I'm more conservative and private about my sex life. His father doing that for my bf, who is 25, just doesn't seem right to me.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 What do you do? Write your senator. Seriously, take a chill pill. I think your b/f probably shouldn't shared this info with you but maybe he did because he thinks you're grown up enough to laugh it off. Are you? If you ask me, it IS kinda creepy to have to deal with though. I didn't like my dad saying anything about my sex. One time when I was a teen I was making some eggs. I cracked one and got some egg white on my pants near my groin. My father quickly quipped that I looked like I did something I shouldn't have. He thought it was funny--I didn't. He's supposed to be a prude just like my mother.
Author really1 Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 What do you do? Write your senator. Maybe I should haha. I just don't like it.. my parents stay out of my sex life and I feel like his dad should stay out of his. It's not that I'm mature enough to deal with it, I just don't think it's appropriate. I just need to vent I think. That freaked me out.
TaraMaiden Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 No offense people, but how is it being helpful by calling me prudish and that it's "not all about me"? You view things more "modern" or "with the times" concerning sex, but I'm more conservative and private about my sex life. His father doing that for my bf, who is 25, just doesn't seem right to me. Yes we get that. But that doesn't make you right, and us wrong. You posted asking for advice on what to do, and we told you. Chill. If you're big enough and old enough to be having sex, and you're not married, then you need possibly to give your attitude an overview and maybe take a fresh look. Being private about your sex life doesn't mean (to others) that you don't have a sex life. It just means you're not as forthcoming about sex as others are, but again, there's no right or wrong. But if you really feel matters about your sex life should be private - why post the question? I'm extremely open and frank about sex. Being involved in couples Counselling transforms you into a somewhat unshockable individual.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Maybe I should haha. I just don't like it.. my parents stay out of my sex life and I feel like his dad should stay out of his. It's not that I'm mature enough to deal with it, I just don't think it's appropriate. I just need to vent I think. That freaked me out. I can dig it. It's creepy to me too. Even though I'm a cous hound now, I'm still the prude my mom influenced early on. Parents should be prim.
musemaj11 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Sounds like a cool dad to me. He n his son must be really close. I wish my dad were like that.
creighton0123 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 It's actually not crossing the line at all. His dad is making sure that his son is having safer sex... you should be glad. It sounds like your boyfriend's dad is aware and concerned about his son's well being. That says quite a bit about the man your boyfriend will turn out to be. You scold us for being more mature, adult, and modern about sex because you're conservative, and then say something like "I just don't like it.. my parents stay out of my sex life and I feel like his dad should stay out of his. It's not that I'm mature enough to deal with it, I just don't think it's appropriate. " That's very hypocritical. I read two immature responses here: 1. Yours at the idea of your boyfriend's father buying him condoms to make sure his son is having safer sex and will not have a child before he is ready or any diseases that may not go away. 2. Your boyfriends for telling you (via picture?) that his father got him condoms. Tell me this. If your boyfriend sent the picture and said "Look what I got myself for Christmas" what would your response be? You shouldn't place any negative or positive weight on the fact that his father bought them. If a parent knows his or her child is sexually active, they should make sure they're practicing safer sex. Things would be MUCH better if parents took a more mature role in all aspects of their children's lives, including sex.
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