bl22 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Hey guys well this is the first time Ill be spendin christmas miserable. I was doing well until I saw her facebook picture of her with the guy she left me for looking happy as hell up close to him. A knife right through my heart. I cannot get that image out of my head and today is going to be a day full of fake smiles whilst im literally dying inside. She probably wont even spare a 2nd thought for me, I used to think she at least missed me and felt some guilt but now I'm totally not sure. I dont think she will feel guilty until someone does to her what she did for me. Since I was her first relationship, she probably doesnt even realise how bad she ended our relationship, jumping from me to someone else, after all the promises she made me, after all the love we gave each other. Feels like it was yesterday we were celebrating last christmas together. I know it will get better but Im having a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I didnt know people were capable of this nevermind someone I absolutely loved from the bottom of my heart, and she loved me back. Sorry for ranting, its the only place I can actually say what im thinking without spoiling the day.
TaraMaiden Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 How many times do people need to be told? No Facebook, hit delete, un-friend, don't go looking, snooping or poking around! That was really dumb. Now, in this 'season to be jolly', you're jolly well morose. And - I'm really sorry - but this is through no fault of hers. This is all self inflicted. If you're jolly morose, then it's your own jolly fault. Any false bonhomie, is purely and simply you dwelling on it. And if you dwell on it, more fool you. Fancy succumbing to self-inflicted misery! Ok, stop that now, and cheer up.
Leandro Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Don't check on her again!! It will only bring pain. I know how you feel, but there is nothing we can do. Just stick to NC and try to have a good day today.
Author bl22 Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 How many times do people need to be told? No Facebook, hit delete, un-friend, don't go looking, snooping or poking around! That was really dumb. Now, in this 'season to be jolly', you're jolly well morose. And - I'm really sorry - but this is through no fault of hers. This is all self inflicted. If you're jolly morose, then it's your own jolly fault. Any false bonhomie, is purely and simply you dwelling on it. And if you dwell on it, more fool you. Fancy succumbing to self-inflicted misery! Ok, stop that now, and cheer up. Maybe it was my fault, but i wanted to block her and doing that meant finding her fb for the last time. WE had 2 great years together, I would have thought I meant more to her than what I saw on there, she knew it would kill me inside, just as it would have been to her if I had done it before she did. I've deleted FB all together now, too much pain.
J0N Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 You can go into your account settings and block them without looking at her profile. I have found myself thinking about my ex and how she probably has forgotten that I ever existed oh well. I have had many great Christmases, I guess it's my turn to be a little down this year.
cerridwen Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Hey guys I saw her facebook picture of her with the guy she left me for looking happy as hell up close to him...she probably wont even spare a 2nd thought for me, I used to think she at least missed me and felt some guilt but now I'm totally not sure. You can't tell all that from a picture bl22. You have NO idea what she's feeling or thinking. Remember: Facebook is all about giving the impression to others that life is wonderful. You could be falling for the illusion and torturing yourself for no reason. PLEASE READ: An ex left me and got with another woman IMMEDIATELY. I went NC and completely disappeared. They looked blissfully happy. I found out later, she was miserable and eventually broke up with him because he always talked about me. There was NO WAY of telling that this was going down from pictures. He tracked me down years later, professed his love and wanted another chance. I was over him but point is, don't torture yourself.
Author bl22 Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 You can't tell all that from a picture bl22. You have NO idea what she's feeling or thinking. Remember: Facebook is all about giving the impression to others that life is wonderful. You could be falling for the illusion and torturing yourself for no reason. PLEASE READ: An ex left me and got with another woman IMMEDIATELY. I went NC and completely disappeared. They looked blissfully happy. I found out later, she was miserable and eventually broke up with him because he always talked about me. There was NO WAY of telling that this was going down from pictures. He tracked me down years later, professed his love and wanted another chance. I was over him but point is, don't torture yourself. Thanks this makes me feel abit better
Sonolumino Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Since I was her first relationship, she probably doesnt even realise how bad she ended our relationship, jumping from me to someone else, after all the promises she made me, after all the love we gave each other. Feels like it was yesterday we were celebrating last christmas together. I know it will get better but Im having a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I didnt know people were capable of this nevermind someone I absolutely loved from the bottom of my heart, and she loved me back. I can 100% relate to this. Some days good, some days bad. I think it's best to stop focusing on trying to be "happy" and just be. Let whatever you feel be alright for the day and let whatever happens happen. Don't however, go out of your way to make yourself miserable and check Facebook, etc.. I swear to you it's not worth it, and I'm speaking from experience. Realize that even though it ended you did mean a lot to her at some point, and you will mean a lot to someone else in the future if you just get your act together. Heartbreak is universally "not a fun time". You're not alone. Keep pushing through. I think it's these experiences we have in our lives where we literally have no control, where we feel powerless, that character is forged. Keep working on yourself, good luck.
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