blacksentra Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 (edited) Me and my ex are kinda on really bad terms now. We got into an argument a couple of weeks ago about her new found open attitude towards dating others. I started the arguement with her because just a few weeks prior she got angry at me because of a number of other women that were interested in me. Regardless, that argument ended with her calling me a stalker and desperate. Well I tried to call her this Christmas just to wish her well and to apologize for my actions; and also to try and put us on good terms again....It didnt go to well. She didnt answer my phone call but proceeded to text me after. When I said I wanted to make amends she said "get a life you desperate boy." and she called me a "psycho stalker". I really was being sincere about trying to make amends. Regardless, she said if I contact her again she's going to call the police on me. That whole situation, really hurt me. My goal for today wasnt to get back with her, but rather to end all the bad blood between us. It just hurt that she had such a callous attitude toward reconciling even our friendship..........but I will also say that her cold hearted responses reminded me of the reasons I'm glad she's gone, even though the loss still hurts. Just had to share Edited December 26, 2010 by blacksentra make additions
ohno89 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Ohhhh I wish I read this before / ON Christmas Day; I couldn't fight the urge... I don't even get why I did it, I didn't even really want to AND I'd told him to stop contacting me and said my goodbyes to him like a week ago.......guess the festive spirit got the better of me..or I was just bored and stupidly felt like opening a can of worms on Christmas! Oh well...it was Christmas...I'm sure we can be forgiven guys, just don't do the same on New Years!
BlindRage Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 (edited) Me and my ex are kinda on really bad terms now. We got into an argument a couple of weeks ago about her new found open attitude towards dating others. I started the arguement with her because just a few weeks prior she got angry at me because of a number of other women that were interested in me. Regardless, that argument ended with her calling me a stalker and desperate. Well I tried to call her this Christmas just to wish her well and to apologize for my actions; and also to try and put us on good terms again....It didnt go to well. She didnt answer my phone call but proceeded to text me after. When I said I wanted to make amends she said "get a life you desperate boy." and she called me a "psycho stalker". I really was being sincere about trying to make amends. Regardless, she said if I contact her again she's going to call the police on me. That whole situation, really hurt me. My goal for today wasnt to get back with her, but rather to end all the bad blood between us. It just hurt that she had such a callous attitude toward reconciling even our friendship..........but I will also say that her cold hearted responses reminded me of the reasons I'm glad she's gone, even though the loss still hurts. Just had to share Oh I hear you, but I did much worst. I started telling her that she's like her family members and her relationships wont last. I also threw in a couple of foul words at her and well she didn't take kindly to that. Long story short: she pretty much told me not to ever contact her and if I do she will change her number she also mentioned how I'm needy and desperate and well yet again said not to contact her. Yesterday I couldn't help it I called her with a blocked number to which she answered but when she heard my voice she told me she was busy. I texted her to sincerely apologize for everything I have said. Its just with her breaking up with me, I became EXTREMELY emotional. I also told her I wish her the best and hope she's happy and a good New Years. She didn't respond to it. I then around 10 gave her another call but this time with the number available. After like 15 seconds of ringing she pressed ignore and I got the VM. I gave up and just started watching Futurama(for some reason it just makes me feel better before this break up I hated that show lol ironic) I then recieved a call from her!!! It was the most shocking thing really, I haven't recieved a call from her since like 4 months or something. Well I answered(after a few rings; I was still in shock) we had an alright conversation, I didn't bring up me loving her or wanting to be with her, which was good because the call when to 20 minutes in total!! At the end, I felt she was sick of talking so I told her "I'll let you go to do your things now.. oh.. and thanks for calling me, bye :)" I'm feeling good right now, I feel she's happy with her life and who she's with so I'm truly happy for her. I'm not planning on breaking NC from now on though. I guess what I'm trying to say is if you ever get the chance to talk to her again. DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT talk about anything regarding your relationship, her relationships, anything personal or even being too friendly. In the end you'll feel better and get satisfaction/closure. I feel like I did. Edited December 26, 2010 by BlindRage
blacksentra Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 @Blindrage........yea I kinda have a feeling that she will contact me eventually (possibly by February)........During our "on and off" phase she had a tendency of contacting me whenever I made progress and started to get over her. However, this time, Idk how receptive I will be towards her........The whole exchange on Christmas left a really bad taste in my mouth. I called her with the sincere intention of ONLY pathing things up between us (not trying to get back together). And her immediate reaction was to call me desperate, a stalker, and threaten to call the police on me? NOT COOL. And to think she said she "loved" me, and we would "always be in each other's lives, in some capacity". I would never do that to someone I loved (platonic or romantic).......The whole episode really showed me her true colors and how much she cares for me.
delajoonal Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Oh I hear you, but I did much worst. I started telling her that she's like her family members and her relationships wont last. I also threw in a couple of foul words at her and well she didn't take kindly to that. Long story short: she pretty much told me not to ever contact her and if I do she will change her number she also mentioned how I'm needy and desperate and well yet again said not to contact her. Yesterday I couldn't help it I called her with a blocked number to which she answered but when she heard my voice she told me she was busy. I texted her to sincerely apologize for everything I have said. Its just with her breaking up with me, I became EXTREMELY emotional. I also told her I wish her the best and hope she's happy and a good New Years. She didn't respond to it. I then around 10 gave her another call but this time with the number available. After like 15 seconds of ringing she pressed ignore and I got the VM. I gave up and just started watching Futurama(for some reason it just makes me feel better before this break up I hated that show lol ironic) I then recieved a call from her!!! It was the most shocking thing really, I haven't recieved a call from her since like 4 months or something. Well I answered(after a few rings; I was still in shock) we had an alright conversation, I didn't bring up me loving her or wanting to be with her, which was good because the call when to 20 minutes in total!! At the end, I felt she was sick of talking so I told her "I'll let you go to do your things now.. oh.. and thanks for calling me, bye :)" I'm feeling good right now, I feel she's happy with her life and who she's with so I'm truly happy for her. I'm not planning on breaking NC from now on though. I guess what I'm trying to say is if you ever get the chance to talk to her again. DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT talk about anything regarding your relationship, her relationships, anything personal or even being too friendly. In the end you'll feel better and get satisfaction/closure. I feel like I did. C, THIS is where LS needs a 'LIKE' button... i am glad u got some 'closure'... we all do and say crazy things in the heat of THAT moment... we r scared, angry and in love and we just do crazy sh*t... i am happy tho , u got what u needed in the end... wish me luck ~wink~
ByMyselfForNow Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 It's been 3 week of NC. I fought the urge to text or call her for Christmas.. even though I kind of wished she would had sent me at least a sms. I know she's at home with her family, probably chatting happily with my replacement. I just wish the hollyday season is over but then I will still have to face her when I get back to work. I hope that till then I'll be a stronger person.
cerridwen Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 He didn't contact me and I have to admit, it was kinda painful. I spent part of today in a funk but never contacted him. I used all your struggles as inspiration to stay strong. Thanks everybody!!
Nothingtolose Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 I also thought he might contact me but he didnt. Shouldnt have expected it, since his birthday was 4 days before xmas and i didnt send him anything, not even a happy birthday text. It still hurts though, cause he's the one who hurt me, and a merry xmas text would have been nice.
BlindRage Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Well I texted my ex and she didn't sound happy from her response. I hope it isn't a problem between her and the person she left me for because that would suck. It'll be like I got dumped in vain, I hope she at least likes that person and they stay together. It seemed like we were having an OK text conversation and then she told me of a place she's been going to and in a just friendly manner I asked if she has been getting "hit on". She just replied with "uh, no" and then I texted her again and she hasn't responded. I guess I also asked her that to show some sort of romantic relationship detachment so she can see I'm fine with her being with others and it won't "hurt" me. Since she hasn't replied to me I assume either she's annoyed by me, didn't like my question, or is talking to the person she's with(I hope she is because I want her to be happy and I hope that person puts a smile on her face). I just texted her goodnight and hope whatever is making her unhappy changes soon.. I recommend her to drink tea that will probably help her relax. I kinda want my friend back. Before us being together she was my best-friend I want to be able to have that back. I don't want to be with her anymore. She is a really nice person and regardless of anything that happened I always enjoyed her company as strictly platonic. It's funny how I wish she and the person she's with work everything out (if they are having problems that is).. I never in a million years thought I would say that.
hitbyatruck Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 Fighting the urge was beside the point for me seeing as I had to see Ms. Ex 4 times in the past 4 days. Pick up boy, drop off, pick up, drop off. If I'm lucky I won't hear from her again until pm NYE as I have offered to spend it with our boy rather than going out partying. She'll contact me for some reason or other though. No such thing as NC or LC here. Daily txt or phone contact from her regarding something about our son is the norm - usually to tell me about something clever he has done, which is great but if she's so concerned about filling me in about our child's progress, then maybe she should have thought twice about having an affair with my mate, pissing off with him, coming back for a couple of months (why did I let her?), f**king him up in the meantime (which I must admit I enjoyed), then deciding to go back to him and move in together. If I could avoid speaking to her, let alone seeing her EVER again I would. Oh, and if I don't respond to her texts or screen her calls I get angrily accused of ignoring her. P.I.T.A!
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