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mgene15 Established Member

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fight the urge and tempation to contact your ex on Christmas! to be honest I'm havin a battle I haven't felt since the first day of NC. and I gave my phone to my cousin to keep for the whole day tomorrow.. some of you might get this urge out of nowhere, please do yourself a huge favor, because It will probably pop up "wonder what she's up to on christmas" or "is she thinking about me this christmas?"... may god bless all of you

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I'm fighting that urge here. The thing is I know right now she either with that person or talking to them. I also know she is not thinking about me. I still would love to hear her voice. I love her voice.

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J0N Established Member

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I have a slight urge, but everytime I get them I just think to myself "What good will this do?" I am all for being nice and cheerful on Christmas but she turned her back on me, so definitely not contacting her.

 

Merry Christmas!

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I'm just hoping she will reach out to me, so I can ignore her.

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I'm just hoping she will reach out to me, so I can ignore her.

 

I'm thinking the same thing. I wish that he at least send me a text saying Merry Christmas, so I can ignore it. Maybe that's a bad thing to think but he broke my heart so bad, lied, manipulate me and now is contacting me like nothing really happen. I don't want to sound like a bad person, but sometimes I wish that he could feel the pain that I feel. Maybe he is feeling it, but I can assure you that it isn't close to what I have felt this last months.

vandelay Established Member

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Too late, already sent an email. :(

 

You fool!

 

jk...;)

Margot Member

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Too late, already sent an email. :(

 

Don't worry we all have been there some time. That's why I haven't open my e-mail today. I don't want see an e-mail from him because it maybe tempted me to contact him or I don't want to feel the disappointment that he hasn't written me. Either way is not easy but we are trying to deal with our breakups one step at a time.

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I'm just hoping she will reach out to me, so I can ignore her.

 

Yeah, I liked that so much at the beggining of NC but I always felt like a damn puppet that she wanted to play with between 2 f*ck with her new man.

 

Homebrew guides helped me a lot starting to get over this and still help me today.

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I don't really want to talk to her, I'd rather talk to someone else.. but there is no one else right now.

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i was going to say "merry christmas" or something to her but i don't think i will. i'm so angry at her for being unreasonable and putting me through hell for the last 4 months that i don't think i can be nice to her again if she tried to contact me. she can blame for not treating her as well as i should but i honestly don't believe its all my fault, not anymore. and i would never put her through the hell is putting me through right now.

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Thanks for the thread mgene. Was feeling kinda lame for struggling this much today.

Fortunately (and unfortunately) I've got you all for company :)

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I almost did yesterday. Thank goodness I didn't. I've already broken NC so many times, not txting him was my Christmas present to myself!

 

Also, they're probably expecting us to text, email, or call. I know mine is probably thinking I'm to weak to get through a normal day, I can't possibly get through Christmas.:D

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The slooooooowerrrrrrrr this day drags the angrier Iam getting! I thought she might send me "some kind" of text but she hasnt. Only thing that makes me feel better is to KNOW for a fact she has a least once (probably more) today thought to herself, "I wonder if he will text me?"

 

Now that it is dark I have this overwhelming desire to drive to her moms where she is spending Christmas and park my car down the block and get a glimpse of her......I think Im going crazy! This sucks cuz Iam a good catch and her silence is deafening!! Beginning to think my plan is going to backfire on me.

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The slooooooowerrrrrrrr this day drags the angrier Iam getting! I thought she might send me "some kind" of text but she hasnt. Only thing that makes me feel better is to KNOW for a fact she has a least once (probably more) today thought to herself, "I wonder if he will text me?"

 

Now that it is dark I have this overwhelming desire to drive to her moms where she is spending Christmas and park my car down the block and get a glimpse of her......I think Im going crazy! This sucks cuz Iam a good catch and her silence is deafening!! Beginning to think my plan is going to backfire on me.

 

Dont drive down to spy on her, not a good idea.

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fight the urge and tempation to contact your ex on Christmas! to be honest I'm havin a battle I haven't felt since the first day of NC. and I gave my phone to my cousin to keep for the whole day tomorrow.. some of you might get this urge out of nowhere, please do yourself a huge favor, because It will probably pop up "wonder what she's up to on christmas" or "is she thinking about me this christmas?"... may god bless all of you

 

 

You can do it mgene! I haven't at all had an urge to contact, thank goodness. Just getting harsh harsh flashbacks...the new gifts and family that's been over is keeping me occupied.

delajoonal Established Member

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OP...

thank you for this great thread/topic...

 

i am sure most of u know by now,

i broke up with xbf and was doing well with NC, he contacted me via email on a day i was so weak...another story, and i stupidly responded.

 

and now he has left numerous vmails..

i have NOT responded, so i am at about 4 days of NC...again.

 

the thing is this:

after i responded to his email, he wrote back...

 

and ooooooo, i am seething inside!

 

i have SO MUCH i want to say back to THAT effing email he wrote...

now it was NOT a bad email, just so much in it that i want to respond too, u know?

 

and i am pacing again, not sleeping well, not eating right, well, until last night, i made myself a good meal for xmas eve..anyway...C, i can't concentrate either..again!

 

now even tho his email was not bad to me...there was just so much i want to say back and i can't now..i can't break the new NC..i absolutely refuse!!!

 

i have written out in my journal the email i want to send to him...and THAT usuallly works...BUT is is NOT working, theraputially, this time..argh!

 

any suggestions???

 

please??

 

sorry OP, i hope i didnt' take over your thread...

but it is a good one and well, i felt safe here in hopes that someone will get what i am going thru?

 

thanx so much...

 

and again, i wish we could all be here under different circumstances:o

 

but also, since we can't, so glad we ALL have each other;)

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p.s. did i mention i broke up with him...and i miss him so much..this NC is killing me.! but i can't go back to the same ol' crap, u know? things have to change:o

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I'm thinking the same thing. I wish that he at least send me a text saying Merry Christmas, so I can ignore it. Maybe that's a bad thing to think but he broke my heart so bad, lied, manipulate me and now is contacting me like nothing really happen. I don't want to sound like a bad person, but sometimes I wish that he could feel the pain that I feel. Maybe he is feeling it, but I can assure you that it isn't close to what I have felt this last months.

 

Amen! I'm in this same boat!

J0N Established Member

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I haven't heard a peep from my ex. To be honest I really wasn't expecting too, I guess it still kinda bothers me that after everything I did for her she could just turn her back on me. It definitely hurts but I am going to find a girl who actually appreciates (&doesn't take for granted) a guy like me. I hope everyone is having a good Christmas!

delajoonal Established Member

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The slooooooowerrrrrrrr this day drags the angrier Iam getting! I thought she might send me "some kind" of text but she hasnt. Only thing that makes me feel better is to KNOW for a fact she has a least once (probably more) today thought to herself, "I wonder if he will text me?"

 

Now that it is dark I have this overwhelming desire to drive to her moms where she is spending Christmas and park my car down the block and get a glimpse of her......I think Im going crazy! This sucks cuz Iam a good catch and her silence is deafening!! Beginning to think my plan is going to backfire on me.

 

 

i am right where u r...

oh, he finally emailed...now i am just staring at it...Have NOT opened it tho...geesh!

i feel like i did in high school....oh this LOVE is a MF'r!!

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I had the text written out. I was so close. Then I deleted it. Best decision of the day. I got to see some relatives that I haven't seen in 4 years, so I had lots to talk about to distract me from the situation. After a few hours I didn't even think about it anymore. Good job everyone!

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mgene15 Established Member

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yep, I didn't end up contacting her... I gave my phone to my cousin and am glad..I got contacted by her today via phone call... didn't answer tho..

delajoonal Established Member

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KUDOS!!!

 

so proud of you all for keeping the NC on this huge holiday!

 

seriously...no one can KNOW how hard this is..unless they are going thru it ...

 

and boy, we R all going thru it, huh:o

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I got a xmas message after not hearing from her since the break up (3weeks)...ignored it an i feel really good knowing that she was wondering if i would reply. I messaged all our mutual friends including her best friend...am i evil?

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