love_actually Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Hello forum! I've been googling my question all night and not finding the answer but other searches kept leading me here. I tend to overthink things. This quiet Christmas Eve isn't helping. So I'll share with you in hopes you can help me out. Here it goes! I had a great first date with a guy last night, Thursday the 23rd. We are both mid-30's. He picked me up and took me to a restaurant that's a favorite for both of us. The conversation flowed easily and there was polite but obvious flirtation by both of us. I was very attracted to him. During the date all signs pointed to sincere and excited interest on both our parts. He joked about a wedding I'm going to in a few months and suggested he be my date. He also inquired what my New Years Eve plans were, and we discussed how we both have nothing to do yet. The idea of seeing each other floated in the air like it was inevitable including him saying towards the end of dinner that he'd had a really great time. His eyes were twinkling. But he's really handsome so maybe they always twinkle. I thought at the time that I was reciprocating all of his comments and positive behaviors. But like I said, I tend to overthink a lot of things. Although we had a great date, I'm worried about what he thought after the very end of the date. I think I may have messed up! When he dropped me off at home, he put the car in park and started taking his seat belt off. I figured he was getting out of the car to say goodbye or walk me to the door, so I hopped out on my side. I was a little nervous and confused if he was walking me to my door or just to the beginning of my walk way. So for the first couple steps away from the car I was sort of walking away from him. I realized he wasn't really following me down my little walkway. He looked a little surprised so I turned around and quickly went back to him. He then gave me a big hug and kissed me on the cheek as the hug began. I returned the kiss on the cheek during the hug. We also exchanged some nice comments during the hug but I don't remember what we said. I think we both said something like how we had a good time. It's driving me nuts that I can't remember. I was nervous so who knows what came out. I do know that we didn't say anything about seeing each other again. I know I'm overthinking but please hang in there with me. As we were pulling apart from the hug, he was still sort of hanging on to me. I panicked a little bit because I thought he was going to kiss me. Don't get me wrong! I wanted him to kiss me but I didn't want him to, if that makes sense. I was just so nervous all of a sudden. I haven't felt that way in a long time and probably seemed a little bit of a spaz. Anyway, I kinda gently pushed off him a little bit with my hands on his chest. It wasn't a forceful push but enough to move away from him. During the push I noticed he had very nice pecs. As we separated I jokingly reached back out and grabbed one and told him he had a nice chest. He joked back that he felt molested. Again, his eyes twinkled. We laughed and I walked up my walkway to my door. I looked back and he was standing there smiling. He waited for me to get in the door before he got back in his car. He also asked if I was okay, which I kinda take now as wondering whether I wanted him to come in. I said I was good and he said goodnight then got in his car and drove off. He left early this morning to go visit his family for Christmas. He comes back Sunday night but then leaves on another trip Monday but comes back Friday morning, New Years Eve. This morning I sent him a text wishing him a safe trip and thanking him again for dinner and telling him I had a great time. He responded fairly quickly by saying you're welcome and to enjoy my time with my family today. I'm afraid that our little exchange when we said goodbye may have given him the idea that I'm not as interested as I really am! Especially the thing where I kinda pushed off of him. I feel like an outsider may have thought I was eager to get out of there and almost tried to run away from him. I didn't linger and wait around to be kissed or asked out like I would have thought I would have. I just panicked! I was so excited when I closed my door but I also felt like I acted like a scaredy cat! I totally fumbled! Do I need to do anything to fix this? Or let it be? Am I being crazy? What happens now? Do I wait for him to contact me? Should I do something to make sure my interest is really known? Thanks in advance for your patience, help and ideas, and Merry Christmas!
ecm Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 you sound like me. Trust me>>leave it. It's fine. If you did seem uninterested, it probably turned him on. I am great at giving advice, but horrible at taking it. so, don't mess it up like I always do Leave it. See what happens
runner Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 His eyes were twinkling. But he's really handsome so maybe they always twinkle. Do I need to do anything to fix this? Or let it be? Am I being crazy? What happens now? Do I wait for him to contact me? Should I do something to make sure my interest is really known? Thanks in advance for your patience, help and ideas, and Merry Christmas! 1. no. 2. let it be. 3. judging from this one post, more like 'paranoid'; crazy is a strong word. 4. enjoy the anticipation of seeing him again. 5. assuming he's interested, he won't make you wait long. 6. on your next date, yes. happy christmas, yourself
Author love_actually Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 Thank you, ecm and runner. I sent him a Merry Christmas text and he responded right away returning the well wishes. I wanted to leave no doubt of my interest so I then stuck myself out on a limb and said Santa must not have made himself to my house yet because he (the guy) was not here. He quickly responded and said it was the sweetest thing he had ever heard and added a winky smiley face. I know I probably did too much already. I'll leave it for now. I just don't know how these holidays and his trip this week might confuse things.
Star Gazer Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 I just don't know how these holidays and his trip this week might confuse things. This is what makes it difficult. It's such a busy time of year. As far as NYE goes, he may ask you out in the next few days, but I'd still make alternative plans. BTW, your texts on Christmas sound cute. I received a similar message and it kinda melted me.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 I think the OP is just overanalyzing something that is fun to analyze.
runner Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 I think the OP is just overanalyzing something that is fun to analyze. yea, ya know, happens to the best of us. just how "love actually is."
Author love_actually Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 Thank, SincereOnlineGuy. I usually have fun analyzing these things with friends when they're the ones experiencing it. But now that it's my turn I don't think it's as fun. I'm feeling a little worried. I haven't heard from him since he responded to my text yesterday. I was hoping for a hello or something.
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