Questionable1 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Dating this guy for 7 weeks now and due to our schedules at the moment, we generally only have time to meet up in the evening. Because of that, my ideas for dates are really limited and I'm running out of ideas. We're both active people so we generally try to avoid the mundane restaurant + movie theater dates. We're also not bars/clubs kind of people. This is what we've done so far: Worked out at the gym Played a couple of sports outside in the evening where there was overhead light Cooked dinner together Walked around in art museums Walked/jogged outside Rollerskated, rollerbladed, and ice skated There were a couple of times when we watched movies at each other's places and ate dinner at restaurants Like I said, I'm running out of ideas. I don't know if it's okay to start repeating things or what. I've looked around on the local citysearch.com but it's not producing any new ideas that I haven't thought of. I just don't want to be boring. It seems like there is a good handful of physically active and athletic people at LS so I wanted to know if any of you have some other ideas. Oh by the way, it doesn't snow where we live so snow sports are out of the question. Thanks!
runner Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 mini golf.bowling (with the whole disco lights thing).if you have a dave & busters, or gameworks nearby...play some dance dance revolution.
runner Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 wait a minute...no mention of the obvious ??? geez i hardly get bored of that one ! ...i mean- it's been seven weeks. just sayin.
Author Questionable1 Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 wait a minute...no mention of the obvious ??? geez i hardly get bored of that one ! ...i mean- it's been seven weeks. just sayin. Oh haha, we have that covered
joeLove Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Is it really about "what you do"? Isn't it about enjoying each other's company? Can't you both watch the stars together at night and talk and dream?
zengirl Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 That's quite the list, certainly you could do some things again, too. However, if you're looking for more, here are some 'active' things my SO and I do together: *Rock-climbing (the indoor kind). It's a wee bit expensive, so not all the time, but it's really fun. *Bike riding. We bike ride a lot together, a lot to like brunch or something in a nice neighborhood nearby. Well, when it's not snowy! *Hiking, though it's January, and it depends where you are. Can't here right now. We also play Wii sports, because we both like video games. And some of them are pretty good for moving around a bit, too. And, of course, the aforementioned bowling and mini golf. Or, if you like playing sports, why not go to a local indoor center and play a game of racquetball or something.
runner Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 dancing ? ...swing, salsa, ballroom; always some kind of dance event in my area that i go to once in a while. perhpas a new martial art you two can learn together- kickboxing, etc.
creighton0123 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 At the seven week mark, wouldn't you start settling out of the expensive/consuming dates mindset? I mean, yeah - do something fun every once in a while. By that time, however, you should be perfectly content just hanging out at home, cooking dinner, having sex, and going to bed. You didn't mention the obvious: physically active people CAN go to the movies. You CAN go to a coffee shop. You CAN go to a lounge (not a club or bar, really). You don't have weekend mornings/afternoons off? Still, the point needs to be made. After almost 2 months, things should start to settle down to the point where you two start doing together what you would otherwise do if you were single (laundry still needs doing, groceries still need buying, dishes still need washing, etc. etc. etc.).
Author Questionable1 Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 At the seven week mark, wouldn't you start settling out of the expensive/consuming dates mindset? I mean, yeah - do something fun every once in a while. By that time, however, you should be perfectly content just hanging out at home, cooking dinner, having sex, and going to bed. Still, the point needs to be made. After almost 2 months, things should start to settle down to the point where you two start doing together what you would otherwise do if you were single (laundry still needs doing, groceries still need buying, dishes still need washing, etc. etc. etc.).I understand exactly what you're saying and that raises another question of mine: when exactly can you start doing those more comfortable routine sort of activities? The reason why I'm still in that mindset is because although we are exclusive, we're not "officially" in a relationship. I have the philosophy that we will not do those sort of activities until we are in a relationship. But maybe I'm wrong?
zengirl Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 I understand exactly what you're saying and that raises another question of mine: when exactly can you start doing those more comfortable routine sort of activities? The reason why I'm still in that mindset is because although we are exclusive, we're not "officially" in a relationship. I have the philosophy that we will not do those sort of activities until we are in a relationship. But maybe I'm wrong? I think you're right. Getting comfortable before you're official---or want to be---would be weird. Why aren't you officially together yet if you're exclusive?
Author Questionable1 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 I think you're right. Getting comfortable before you're official---or want to be---would be weird. Why aren't you officially together yet if you're exclusive?Hard to explain. I just don't equate exclusivity with relationship. Perhaps I place too much emphasis on the status of claiming that you're in a relationship. A few years ago, I dated a guy for a a month and once we decided to be exclusive, we also decided to become bf/gf. Well, in the course of the few weeks after that I realized we weren't as compatible as I would have liked. But I tried to work through it because we were in a relationship. Had we not been official, I would have just dropped him due to the incompatibility. Anyway, I'm just hoping I avoid that this time around. The guy I'm dating right now says he's comfortable taking things slowly with the whole status thing. I don't know, is this weird? Am I being too guarded?
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