m2s Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 if your ex wants to get reconcile with you? I dont think mine will (although I wish he would, i miss him so much, and the family that we had together) But just wondering. What are the signs?
PowerOfOne Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I don't think my experience is anything to go by but my ex ex literally threw herself at me. She would call at least 4 or 5 times a week to which i all ignored. Then she just turned up at my door on a friday night and pounced on me haha. As i say, i don't think that will help you at all.
aerogurl87 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 If they want you back they will tell you. This past week my ex told me point blank he wants us to "work things out" and apologized profusely for the past. If your ex really wants you back there won't be any games, they'll just tell you they want you back and will do anything to get back with you.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Signs they want you back are pretty hard to miss sometimes.. Even if they are hinting around at it int here own way unless they come out and say it your always just going to be wondering unless you don't talk at all. If they do leave the communication door open say they want to be friends or they want to keep you in there life its a sign they aren't ready to let you go. Dosen't really mean they want you back either though. Somtimes its hard to do that remain friends or continue to speak to them but alot of the time its the best way to get that second chance. If they are contacting you alot initiating the conversations asking about what your up to and how your doing. If they want to hang out with you. All that is a good thing.. It can definetly lead to a second chance. On the down side it can also further hurt you int he end if they don't end up coming back.. Its a risk some people just aren't willing to take. Contact is defiently the most important first sign..
aerogurl87 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Signs they want you back are pretty hard to miss sometimes.. Even if they are hinting around at it int here own way unless they come out and say it your always just going to be wondering unless you don't talk at all. If they do leave the communication door open say they want to be friends or they want to keep you in there life its a sign they aren't ready to let you go. Dosen't really mean they want you back either though. Somtimes its hard to do that remain friends or continue to speak to them but alot of the time its the best way to get that second chance. If they are contacting you alot initiating the conversations asking about what your up to and how your doing. If they want to hang out with you. All that is a good thing.. It can definetly lead to a second chance. On the down side it can also further hurt you int he end if they don't end up coming back.. Its a risk some people just aren't willing to take. Contact is defiently the most important first sign.. I agree, contact is the most important sign initially. But after contact comes commitment, commitment to working through past issues and getting back on track so you can have a healthy relationship. If they're not willing to work to get you back then move on. My ex is pissed that I'm leaving the country to be with my boyfriend because he thinks I should "just live my life and do nothing yet" relationship wise. It's all just a smoke screen for "I want you here as my back up plan" and no one deserves to be second to anyone when it comes to being in a relationship. So unless they tell you they want you back AND put in the effort to get you back, then move on.
IfiKnewThen Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 look, to me if they contact you, that's a good sign. . but sometimes people play games and they don't contact you. or they are afraid to come back tail between their legs, that if they had a problem with you in the past....coming back might make YOU not correct that problem. so they dont want to make a promising move because they dont want to be back to square one with you. they want you to see yourself and l;earn from it...etc. so they dont call or act romantically interested anymore. sooooo, you dont know. that's why you cant be complacent and you have to be proactive in your life and love life. if YOU still LOVE them....YOU make the contact after a while..dont wait long. (sorry folks thats how i feel) just make the contact proportionate to their response. if they are not engaged and married yet...GO for it. some people can get back and FIX their problems. just let them know you want to fix your end of it and hope they will fix theirs someday soon. you have to find out what was bugging them. but first try to beocme friends again so they trust and want to talk to you. but if you LOVE someone i say try until its flat out obvious they dont want you again or wouldnt consider in the future. dont stalk etc. again, i now feel life is too short. if you were dying what would you do? if they were sick, what would you do? if they were getting married what would you wish you would have done? maybe we need to think more like that. we always think we have tomorrow and do NOTHING . we let fear rule us. i mean its natural, we were devastatingly rejected when we thought we were safe. we didnt see the break up coming most of us or were in denial. but there were problems in the relationship usually with both parties to blame. if you can become REAL friends again...and get to THAT place and THEN work on the romantic issues you had or whatever...i think anything is possible and would rather risk knowing then wishing i had tried. so the question is how do you know. to me the answer is you cant be too certain unless they are saying flat out its not possible or avoding you COMPLTELY like the plague. but sometimes they avoid you because they are not ready to be forced into something. thats why i sa be friends if you love them. swallow your pride (if they were abusive and they are worth it) and find out what was bugging them and ask how you can fix it. tell them they matter. with first time YOUNG loves sometimes they just move on because they are young and want to explore.
IfiKnewThen Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 i made a few ypos up there. try to figure out what i am saying. i meant if they are NOTTTTTT abusive and i meant...if they are NOT married yet
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