Sonolumino Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 My birthday is on the 28th and I'm having a party, inviting a few of my ex's friends as they are my mutual friends as well. I guess I'm hoping my ex contacts me, even a simple text saying happy birthday, but I don't think it will happen. For the past 4 years I've had her at my side and we always used to do very creative things to celebrate each other's birthdays and Christmas, and this year it won't be that way. That sense of loss is pretty evident when you have specific traditions with someone that no longer hold any value. Ah well, nothing to do but enjoy that day as much as possible. Sorry for the rant.
january2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 It will feel like that for every special event that holds fond memories for the two of you. That's why it's important to plan ahead and make new ones. Do what you can to surround yourself with more new people. If you're just with mutual friends, you're more likely to feel the loss coming from the empty slot that your ex once filled. That's because with everyone else there, the only who is missing is her - it's like pointing a huge neon sign at the empty place.
Author Sonolumino Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 Yeah you're right, it's just hard to completely turn my back on my friends, as I've been friends with them for years. It may highlight the loss, but it's on my mind anyway.
january2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 You don't need to completely turn your back on your friends but you do need to add some new ones to your life.
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