OmegaSol Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 It's been about a year and I'm not sure if it's the realization that its the holidays and I'm still alone again or what but it's been an entire year and I still can't get over my ex. At times I really want to get over her and move on and others I just wanna dive first into depression and give up on everything. I thought she was the one and blah blah the same story we've all heard a million times. I just can't find a suitable date or ones that are suitable happen to have some strange factor like they just happen to be moving, or joining the military. I'm 25 BTW
AZGarnethawk Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Simply put you are looking to hard for the perfect person. You thought she was perfect, but if she was she would not have left. And no a yr is not to long. Some people don't date again or take yrs because the pain was to much for them to deal with. Instead of trying to find perfect try finding something to smile about in little things. You cannot expect to move on if you are holding everyone to the standard of your ex. You have to remove her from the pedistole and move away from that line of thinking. I always say try something new. Do something you never would have with that person like jumping out of a plane find a reason for living and stop looking for the perfect person. When they find you, you will know.
Author OmegaSol Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 I understand. I think I'm more upset at myself that I felt the same exact way an entire year ago, I would love to find someone new. I feel like I want to move one, I'm motivated to, but get caught up in random traps where I feel the same all over again.
112233 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I'm 25 BTW You're 25 and in Vegas, and you can't get over a 2 year relationship in a year. Yeah, that's not right chappy. So what seems to be the real issue, I mean, I just exited a 2 year relationship and the biggest issue is, I think, really believing its done. If you are strong enough to come to grips with that, everything else seems to fall into line. You're young and in sin city, move on. You're in a great place in your life, go for it.
SithLord Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 It takes time. After my ex left me, married and got pregnant in a matter of 5 months, it took me over 2 years to recover and until this day i still suffer once and blue residue effects.
fiat500 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 it took me a year and some change to get over a 2 year relationship. it just depends. but you should move into the stage where you "resent" them because it makes things a lot easier from there. I agree. Take your ex off her pedestal for god's sake. Did she dump you? If she did, you have no reason to be worshipping her. My most recent ex held his last ex on a f##king pedestal even though she dumped him and clearly didn't give two sh*ts about him. He loved her so much that he also dumped me the same way that she dumped him. Pretty awesome stuff.
Author OmegaSol Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 What does being in Vegas have to do with anything. If anything it makes it much more difficult to find a secure relationship. Most girls just want a quick fling and I'm just not into that
112233 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 What does being in Vegas have to do with anything. If anything it makes it much more difficult to find a secure relationship. Most girls just want a quick fling and I'm just not into that You're 25 an a guy. Don't be a sap, fling away. You'll thank me later.
Author OmegaSol Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 You're 25 an a guy. Don't be a sap, fling away. You'll thank me later. I'm sorry, I just don't agree with that lifestyle choice.
112233 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I'm sorry, I just don't agree with that lifestyle choice. You're 25, it's not a lifestyle choice it's medicinal and you really need help from the Dr.
Gossamer Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 112233 Comments like that you need meds and a doctor are garbage, as well as extremely immature and hostile, revealing more about this poster's inability to chill. I don't even know if this person is real on here as their "gender" field is blank...hahaha. I guess they don't know much about themselves, so consider the source of their "advice" in the whole thread as questionable. OS, you are awesome as you are. I'm a female and I can tell you that one year is not a long time, and it is *your* process, and no one should be pathologizing you like this. It's natural, totally, to feel sad/longing feelings around the holidays and other significant dates and places. Normal. Anyone who doesn't didn't really love, or is just bitter and immature and gonna have the problems in life they're projecting onto you...ie, meds and doctor. You were in love with someone for 2 years, were a trusted boyfriend, and thought you had a future. There's a "rule of thumb" that says it takes 1/2 as long as the relationship lasted for one to heal. But I tend to think it's very personal, and no one should tell you you're wrong. That's just nasty. Thank you for your honesty/openness on here. You're the kind of guy interesting, cool, and drama-free women look for, and the girls you meet who are in their 20s are maybe not so sure yet of who they are. It sux, but Trust me, your intelligence and sensitivity will serve you well over the course of your life. These are qualities that are extremely attractive to women. You're a romantic, and be proud of that. Just look at the young/hot leading dudes in film who have your romantic qualities and portray men who are good boyfriend material and who'd go to the ends of the earth for the women they love: Orlando Bloom (yumm), Leonardo DiCaprio (drool). The (mainly) guys on here who will tell you otherwise are projecting their bitterness and damage onto you, and are probably resentful that you can be a lot more open and emotionally mature for authentically sharing, than they can beat this time in their development. I assure you, as a female, I would choose you any day over someone I wouldn't be able to talk to or relate to. I completely agree with you about Vegas being a breeding ground for hookups. But maybe there are transplants there for purposes other than the gambling industry--ie, school, work. I'm not sure if you can PM me, but I have some suggestions for you about meeting people there. Best and xoxoxox. /Gossamer You're 25, it's not a lifestyle choice it's medicinal and you really need help from the Dr.
112233 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 112233 Comments like that you need meds and a doctor are garbage ... Learn to read.
Gossamer Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Learn to read what? Your poor grammar and spelling? a) Contribute intelligent and helpful advice. c) Doln't bash the OP. Read your rude comments throughout. Hostile much? The OP is a good guy. What's your problem with his honesty? Come to the forums with real advice and compassion. Maybe you need to learn to read. Learn to read.
112233 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Learn to read what? What I wrote. It's part of an ongoing conversation, in Internet terms, a thread. I opined that he was in the prime of his life in a great city to be 25, and that he needed to get out, meet some girls, and have some fun. That was my prescription, and he should listen to the Dr and take the medicine. You owe me an apology really.
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