livelife Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 So let me start off by apologizing for how long this note will probably be. I feel like it will help some of you though. I'll share my story Me and this guy started dating December 5th of last year. Only a 4 month relationship but that was my first relationship and it was amazing, we fell for eachother and he was my first. We had so much fun he was one of my best friends. I couldnt go a day without thinking about him. Out of the blue, he breaks up with me. I was his longest relationship yet so I think he got scared. I have never felt more hurt, then again he was my first boyfriend so I didnt really know how bad I was. I cried and cried for days, couldnt eat much so I got skinny. (not that im not but noticably lost weight) Prom was just around the corner and he was my date, so prom was alot of fun. He was going to ask me out-didnt. Going to ask me otu again on my birthday in June- didnt. ( Prom was in May) I finally called quits in June, told him I couldnt be friends, or anything. We lost contact over the summer and he got a girlfriend. Turns out she was crazy. Multiple times she would text me from his phone, and other girls too. Over the past semester he would come to me each time he lost a girl he was dating. About a month ago more girls were texting me rude things from his phone, so I finally had enough. I blocked his number, Blocked his fb so there was NO WAY he could contact me. **For those thinking about doing NC..DO IT. It really does make them miss you!!!!!!!!!! Just a couple days ago my ex was drinking and calling my 2 best friends non stop trying to get in contact with me, saying really nice stuff how I was the best girlfriend hes ever had and how none of the other girls hes dated have compared to me. He really really missed me. His best friend called me and I laughed and said that was a joke and hung up. The next day my ex talks to my best friend had says all of that was true ( in the end drunken words are sober thoughts!) He even mentioned how he wanted me back. he wanted to start talking to me again and hanging out with me and seeing what would happen. my friend told me to unblock him ( and thats alot for her to say she hates him, but she knew he was being real) SO I did, little conversation here and there, it seems like we are both holding back and hes trying to " play it cool" Anyways, What im trying to say is that you DO get better. It does seem like the end of the world but day by day you start to not thinking about them as much. It does take time, I know. It's taken me since Kinda march/kinda June. And once I show that im not interested, he comes running back. NC DOES work!!!!!!!!! Your absent self will make them think about you and want to contact you. Show that you don't want them anymore and they will want you back. Take the situation very calmy and dont over do yourself. I've done that before too. Just like he is doing, play it cool. I hope everyone feels better:) Have a safe and merry christmas to those celebrating it!!! Happy new year!!
january2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Thanks for coming back to post this. It's always heartening for those still 'fresh' to hear from people who are further along the NC process, whether it results in a second chance or not.
Mayquena Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t258257/ This is the link to my story. Please tell me I can do it and it will work the same way you do. I understand that it will be better if I can skip to the point where whether he will come back or not, I will be fine. But again, I want him to feel that he loses me and thinks of me how I was always there pleasing him But your story inspires me a lot. I hope I can do it and get the same results ! Thanks for sharing
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