The less smart the man, the harder he pursues

[OceanGirl]

This may sound strange but I have noticed this pattern.

 

Men that come across as not that smart will often think nothing of sending multiple texts or other attempts at contact without response. They will also be a lot more open with their feelings and blurt out how much they like you/love you early on.

 

In some ways, they say exactly what they think without censoring themselves at all. Basically, they are less likely to play games but they come across as desperate/clingy.

 

Anyone else noticed this?

[Ariadne]

Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Seamless74]

smart guys dont pursue period...

[january2010]

Book smarts? Street smarts? Social smarts?

 

Methinks there's a backhanded compliment lurking somewhere.

[mo mo]

So what is there to be said about women who give out their numbers but choose to ignore guys who want to talk to them instead of telling them what is on their mind?

[OceanGirl]

Hmm not sure. I meant smart/intelligent in a general sense.

[OceanGirl]

So what is there to be said about women who give out their numbers but choose to ignore guys who want to talk to them instead of telling them what is on their mind?

 

IF someone doesn't respond to you, there is no sense in sending messages every few minutes. I am speaking in the cases where people are basically strangers.

 

I understand it is different if the have some relationship history.

[january2010]

Ah, in which case, my experience has been different. So one of our datapoints might be an anomaly.

[mo mo]

IF someone doesn't respond to you, there is no sense in sending messages every few minutes. I am speaking in the cases where people are basically strangers.

 

I understand it is different if the have some relationship history.

 

Every few minutes? Wow, ok, that is weird

[NoLongerSad]

Persistence = stupidity?

 

OK if you say so.

[OceanGirl]

Persistence = stupidity?

 

OK if you say so.

 

 

I don't say so. I am just asking to see if others have had similar experiences...

[mo mo]

IF someone doesn't respond to you, there is no sense in sending messages every few minutes. I am speaking in the cases where people are basically strangers.

 

I understand it is different if the have some relationship history.

 

Still though, you could just say "I'm not interested, leave me alone"

[mo mo]

You see, this thread is funny to me because while I do agree that it is pathetic that a guy keeps persisting after so many non-responses, I think it is equally pathetic that some women choose to avoid guys that they actually had good times with.

 

I've been in situations where I go out with a woman a few times, and its pretty obvious we get along great, and then she just vanishes. There were no deep feelings expressed, and there was no pressure applied, just simple chatter and maybe an "I'd love to see you again"

 

WHYYY is it so hard to get back to people?

[musemaj11]

What a no brainer question.

 

The more intelligent an animal is, the less likely that animal to act on its impulse alone.

Edited December 24, 2010 by musemaj11

[crosswordfiend]

You've just described people who are emotional insensitive - can't pick up on social cues and signals. So yes, they are less smart in a sense.

[joeLove]

Do you change your opinion on man, the more desperate he acts? I understand the need to be persistent ... but, when does persistence starts to become desperate? Maybe that's where the difference really lies.

For some people, asking someone twice ... is already a sign of despair ...for others, it is just being persistent ...

[AD1980]

Cant blame some guys when some women say they like the chase and want to be purused allot as they play hard to get..

 

If a women doesnt call or text me back i take that as shes not interested in taking it any further..

 

I dont undertsand guys who say F my dignity even if she doesnt respond ill annoy her till she does..

Edited December 24, 2010 by AD1980

[Surrealist]

Yes I have noticed this.

 

Wtf?!

 

Well, I've had a couple of guys on my FB friends list over the years, I tend to look at their preferences before adding them these days.

 

Anyway one guy just wouldn't 'get it'. Annoyed me so I just blocked him.

 

Had another guy who recently posted a message on my wall who was also gay and I just ignored it and he ended up no longer on my friend's list, so he must of got it.

[zengirl]

If a guy is acting like that when we're strangers, I cannot imagine I'll get to know him well enough to know how smart he is.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I think that persistence is a personality trait and not related to IQ at all.

[OceanGirl]

If a guy is acting like that when we're strangers, I cannot imagine I'll get to know him well enough to know how smart he is.

 

You can have some idea by:

 

How he has written his online profile.

What/how he writes in his e-mails and messages.

[deebeechrisyo]

This is great to hear, I must be a genius then!

[waynebrady]

Ok, so if that's true then I guess women want men to be as stupid as possible right?

 

If a man has to chase the woman, then it means the woman isn't that into him. Smart men realise that. I wouldn't wanna be in a relationship where I like the woman more than she likes me.

[Els]

I do agree.

 

I think it's due to a number of factors (assuming you're talking about the conventional logical/analytical type of smart); the main one I have found being that hyperintelligent men are generally less open with showing their emotions or putting themselves out on a limb like that.

[musemaj11]

There is a difference between smart and intelligent I think. Smart people are the academic kinds, while intelligent people are more of the critical thinking types.