paleblue Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 It's almost a New Year! Now is the perfect time to expel toxic people from your life. You know the ones who have cheated on you, who are making your life miserable day in and day out with no end in site. Those who play games with your heart, while they are out having the time of their lives with someone new. The ones who still want to be "friends" to relieve their own guilty feelings. These people don't really care about you anymore. They did, now they don't. Plain & simple. There is no rhym or reason. It just happens. There is nothing you are going to be able to do to reconcile back to the way things were. And even if you could, would you reallly want too knowing what they did to you? If your dignity has not been completely destroyed, your answer is no, because they will just do it again. Start out the New Year right! Delete them off your FB, your IM, your Yahoo, delete their emails. Go complete NC. Put all their junk and pictures in a box out of site. Remove any traces of them from your life for awhile. Then look at it this summer and see how you feel. Give yourself permission to take a break from all the craziness these people are putting you thru. Live your life. Find something to do that makes you happy for a change. Try something new. Out with the old, in with the New! Remember if someone loves and respects you they aren't going to run behind your back and cheat. If they do, it's over.
wrencn Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Well, I'm going LC on my future ex husband. We were being buddies but now that he is with the girl he had an emotional far with, and ruined our marriage, that's over. So LC for him and that'll be easy. What will be hard is my rebound boyfriend. He's so toxic, but he's like a drug, he makes me feel so high when I'm with him. The come down is a b*tch!
SimonSerenade Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 It's posts like this that give me the strength to feel good enough about myself to rise above the temptation to get back in contact with her because she simply don't deserve it from me, I gave her all I could and gave her all the love in my heart and she still turned her back on me anyway, At least I can live with myself knowing I fought to save the love we shared and had the decency to be a nice respectable person towards her and help her out still when she needed it. I can probably say I was a fool but I was a fool in love, I did everything I could and she proved to me that she isn't the person I was once over the moon in love with, She'll one day regret what she's done I really do have faith in that, I was such a great guy to her and she'll never find another like me and no matter what she does or who she see's, It will never compare and I hope one day that kills her but what I hope kills her most is having to live with her self for the hell she created cause there's no going back for me, Not now not ever. I'm going to make a real go at moving on after new year, Forgetting her and having somebody new stand where she stood will be hard, Will even rip my heart out but I have to start somewhere, I know now that she's gone and she's never coming back and I'm not gonna pay big time for her mistake anymore, As far as I'm concerned she ended it, Her problem not mine.
Cee Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I left my ex husband and moved out on December 30, 2003. And I didn't look back (ah, maybe a few hundred times). There's something special about ending it with someone toxic over the New Year. But I admit that it's not fun and there's months of agony to follow. Although there is pain in ending a bad relationship, the rewards do come in time. I'm celebrating 7 years of being out of the nightmare relationship by taking a trip to Europe. I'm going alone, but I am going to be hosted by some people I have been talking to online. I never could have done this if I stayed married. He had sucked my bank account and my self-esteem dry. I can't believe how great my life has become ever since I decided never to be a man's door mat again.
vandelay Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Over the course of my relationship I realized that ALL of my friends were toxic. Immature, selfish, unkind. So I just got rid of them. My best friends that I have known for 20 years. I decided that I wouldn't live the rest of my life with friends I couldn't trust and who were just so damn immature. That's great. So now, I'm dumped, and I have noone. My four best friends....gone. Gone by my choice. I don't want them back. I'm all alone. It really sucks. I was doing pretty well building new friendships, but it was all in tandem with my girlfriend. It would be near impossible to take those friendships any further without keeping her in my life in a big way. I am having a hard time understanding how I can build solid friendships with new people now that I'm 38 years old. When I was young it wasn't so hard to find connections. Now I just feel like people my age all have lives, they are all involved with longtime friends and family, and I don't know how to navigate this world. Sorry to be such a downer in your positive thread. Getting rid of toxic people is fantastic and it has been one of the most empowering choices I've ever made. Just sucks that it turned out EVERYONE was toxic.
january2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I'm listening to this right now: This part resonates with me at the moment: I don't understand, Why do I stress the man, When there's so many bigger things at hand, We could a never had it all, We had to hit a wall, So this is inevitable withdrawal. Even if I stop wanting you, A perspective pushes through, I'll be some next man's other woman soon. I shouldn't play myself again, I should just be my own best friend, Not **** myself in the head with stupid men.
goldenrainbow Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I have just kicked a toxic person out of my life although I still love him madly. But for my own sake, after being threatened at my own door and after a year of a controlling, obsessive, jealous and possessive man, this was the only way out. 2 weeks without him, and although I am suffering from withdrawal symptoms (that's whatt it is after all), I feel a better person. New year, new me. thanks for your post!
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