frustration beyond a measuring stick, URGENT !!!!!!!

[Wheresthecorporal]

Ey all,

New here, so i'll just give the 410,

Me and my girlfreind have been dating for 9 months,

Where both 15, goto the same school etc,

We both have come to the conclusion we love each other,

Yes i know where young all the ussuall **** parents lecture us on,

I'm the cadet commander of my ACU (Army Cadet Unit) at school,

I have been described as the "trophy" of boyfreinds, CadetCommander, commisioned officer, good grades, tho i'm not great looking, the regulation haircut and uniform makes me look like the other cadets, so i'm not fussed by that,

So I asked her out at the start of the year, I'de had a crush on her for a while, she accepted, not reluctantly, but not too enthusiastically either, but anyway, 2 months into our relationship, she kissed me, I didn't push the affection thing too much, coz she had only had 1 boyfreind before, which she hadn't even hugged,

then 4 months in she told me she loved me, I made clear to her that as much as i did like her, i wasn't ready to quite say I love her, she wasn't mad or anytihng about it, 6 months and i fell for her, we where so close then, random messages just say how much we ment to each other, but after 6 months it started dying down, not many messages any more, stopped texting me, we never got tot talk on the phone or nothing, claiming she had no credit, some time through the relationship, we had a fight, she said i was ignoring her, but in truth i wasn't, I was taking time off the drill team to hang out with her, lengtihng curfew hours on the cadets so i could talk to her (Not supposed to do that), yet she was the one always turning down weekends i said we could spend to gether, so in the fight she was ignoring me, not talking to me, so I asked her best freind (who previously had a huge mother of a crush on me) to help, she got her to talk, she was saying that it felt like i was cheating on her, I got pissed,

I'm a drill instructor, so i can ussually deliver controlled anger, but i lost it completely,

My rational thought was gone,

SHE NEVER WANTED TO SPEND WEEKENDS WITH ME!,

IGNORES MYM MESSAGES, DID NOT CARE LESS HOW MUCH TIME I GAVE UP FOR HER!

She previously had guys posting notes on her photos on facebook going

"damn babe, ure so hot, any gut be lucky to have you"

And she though i was cheating on her?!

So i was beyond angry, we eventually sorted it out, but she wouldn't drop her pride.

and about a week after the fight on her wall,

"hey babe, what u doin tommorow sexy?, We can go out for lunch?"

She replyed

"Sure thing!"

His name was blane, and had a unfortunate encounter with the stock of my drill rifle when he came up and said "Hey solja boy, me nd beccy!, we a couple now, so u go back to where u came from baby killer, where u from anyway sar!?"

"that depends" I answered,

"On what"

"how many teeth u wanna lose!"

She didn't really care tho,

apparently she did go out wif him that weekend as well, i had asked her out to lunch to, when i raised the point, she replied "you never said we where exclusive!" so why wasn't I allowed to see other people and she was?

So we went pretty well for a while, until one day, a (ex) good freind of mine told her a heap of bull**** about me lying to her, and to of her good guy freinds started a fight, and the ran into a whole Battalion full of fit, angry and pround cadets, last i heard one of them had to have a knee replacement, and Sergeant Colmen, who looks upto me, was thrown out school for it, (felt so bad)

We made up in the end and she asked "no more secrets"

so the relationship was going well, other than she still wouldn't see me outside of school,

then we had a long conversation on facey one night, about the trust issues we have, and she was so angry at me, prehaps it was rightfully so, becuase I wanted to know why she wouldn't trust me anymore,

so anyway we made up after that fight again,

a month later, there was a rumor going around that she was cheating on me,i knew she was keeping secrets from me, but I do love her, and i put my trust into her, but she refuses to trust me back, then i managed to get her to open upto me on something that was bothering her, she liked another guy, my favorite corporal of the battalion, of course he liked her back (figures), we sorted it out,

then last night she all of the sudden got angry at me, i'm yet to find out what, but we made up an hour ago, and she said she'd talk to me newyears about it when she has finally agreed to see me, but she has started talkn dirty to me now, saying she'll sleep with me next chance she gets (but in much less flattering terms) and saying about the new lingerie she just bought and all sortsa other filth, of course being 15, i have no objections to any of that, but I can that I don't quite think i'm ready for that,

I don;t know whato to do tho, i got everyone in the battalion, all my other freinds teling me that i deserve better, but i dont want any better, i want her, i dnt no why i do, but i do, and i dnt know if i'm just lining myself upto more heart break, my best freind who has never lied to me ever that she's been sleeping round Foxtrot Squad (the drill team) but i keep track of there curphew hours, only 2 have been caught out of bunks on firewatch, and it was to take a piss, so i know that my so called best freind is full of ****, now i don;t know what to believe, or what to do, ii know i'm a jelous person, and thats how i am, prehaps i'm over reacting, but i need some help,

some immediate help would be appreciated,

 

Cheers,

[Woman In Blue]

Kids your age change girlfriends/boyfriends like people change socks. What seems "earth-shattering" to you today will be nothing but a mere memory a few months from now.

 

I know you're only a teenager, but knock it off with the juvenile swearing in your posts. You don't look "cool" tothe grownups, it just makes you look like a fool.

[Wheresthecorporal]

I'm not attempting to look cool here, I feel no need to impress any of you, knowing this forum is built mostly of adults, I didn't come here to get told I'm juvenile, I came here for help,

I just want to know what to do.

[Eddie Edirol]

Dont fret young buck.... This girl of yours wants to experience other guys, her hormones are raging. Youre not really supposed to stick to one girl at your age anyway, youre supposed to play the field and check out different personalities.

 

Sometimes there will be girls out there that say they love you but dont really mean it.

Sometimes there will be girls that like to chase until you say "I love you". Then they know they gotcha and theyre not interested anymore. Challenge is over.

Sometimes a girl will accuse you of cheating as a smokescreen to hide their cheating. It worked on you this time, dont let it happen again.

 

I would hazard a guess that this girl is all three. Let her go, dont talk to her again. She isnt interested in you anymore. Once women walk out on you for another guy, you cant get them back. Most of the time, thats how women work. She knows you and isnt attracted to who you are anymore, so theres nothing you can do about it. Right now, she knows you will do anything for her, and she will see you as a wuss when she doesnt feel the same way. She also doesnt respect you because you havent told her to Screw off when she treated you like this. Do yourself a favor, and if theres another girl that you know likes you, jump on her now.