northern_sky Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 This is something I've done since I was a child when I have an unrequited crush. Late at night, lying in bed, I will play music on my computer and let my imagine run with it. I don't do it as much as I once did, because I realize it is unproductive, but still I have my moments. I would be curious to hear other people's fantasies as well. It's pretty trite, ridiculous and embarrassing, so I'd appreciate it if people didn't rip me apart. I probably over-share on here given the climate of this place, but whatever. My most common fantasy is to imagine that I have written a spectacular musical, very loosely based on my own life, with my crush as inspiration for one of the characters. I am also starring in the musical, naturally , and during the climactic scene I break out in song about my feelings for the crush-inspired character. To accompany this fantasy, I will put on a song I really love, and close my eyes. I imagine my crush sitting in the audience. Usually he is some guy who is kind of cold, but my song breaks through his walls for the first time. I see it in his eyes. Another, slightly less common fantasy is that it is the end of the world in a few days/weeks/months, and for this reason my crush is willing to let go of his hangups and be with me. Also totally unrealistic. Does anybody else ever do this?
Cee Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I started fantasizing when I was very young. I was teased and ostracized as a child so I had a fantasy that I had friends and we'd go on adventures and fight off super villains. Usually, there was an element of supernatural fantasy because I had read the Lord of the Rings trilogy and was really into that. I know that sounds pretty geeky, but it got me through a lonely childhood. I still fantasize when I'm bored, lonely, or horny. I never share my current fantasies with anyone, so you'll have to use your imagination.
paleblue Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 not so much anymore. i used to like fantasy stuff when i was a kid more so than now. i think it helped get me thru a very difficult child hood. i would also draw a lot. now i will just watch a movie here and there. i will watch Avatar or something like that. thats about it! not into sci-fi or aliens or vampires. i did like lord of the rings tho. altho sometimes i day dream about living on another planet, like Avatar, except this world is about 100,000 times the size of Earth, teeming with life and filled with all kinds of weird stuff. and some kind of weird force like magic, that balances everything so people can not over run the world and ruin everything. the only other fantasies i have involve Taylor Swift ;)
Feelin Frisky Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 (edited) I have fantasies and entertain them liberally. I do not however have a ritual about it that I repeat or feature any one love interest in them. I just don't block the ones that happen. I wish I could experience more "lucid dreams"--dreams which continue after we've started switching over into consciousness from sleep which, for a short period, we can actually direct. I had one about a year ago that was so unbelievavble that I wonder how much we really experience every day in our dreams that we just don't get to remember. It was sooooooooooooo sexy. I started to wake up just as I got the girl and was going down on her and remember pleading with the dream crew in my head to open up the female genetalia module for me for just a little longer. They agreed and I was able to get it all. Thanks fellas. Edited December 24, 2010 by Feelin Frisky
OceanGirl Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I did a lot when I had unrequited crushes and when I was younger. Once I started multi-dating - not so much as a lot of the romance is happening "live" even if it's with guys that I am not entirely into. My favorite fantasy nowadays involves winning an award for my research and sticking it up my boss's a$$ (in a non-sexual way!) Feeling Frisky, I went through a period where I have been able to have lucid dreams for a while. They are much better than fantasy because you feel like they are REALLY happening.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 ...Feeling Frisky, I went through a period where I have been able to have lucid dreams for a while. They are much better than fantasy because you feel like they are REALLY happening. Yeah. And not all of that experience is "dreams" in the usual sense. I've had experiences like being able to see fully-rendered classical art works in paint on canvas appearing in my mind one after the other after the other without end in sight. Each one was unique and something I'm sure I had never seen before. They had the textures of Christian religious art but weren't depictions of familar "holy scenes". Each one was replaced within fractions of a second. I thought: wow, if I only had a brain camera I could shoot all of these and then try to paint them myself. I would be the most prolific painter the world has ever seen. This is just a small hint of the power of our minds which is usually kept from us by consciouness. The power and the dimensions are astounding. If we could have this happen on cue somehow, we'd be a different world and have a much greater respect for the potential in each of us. I'd totally want to se what someone else was experiencing and look forward to some technology that might some day let us. OP, I definitely associate certain songs with loves gone unfulfilled. And there are songs that I recall when I think about the ones who for crappy reasons just couldn't work out. It's a good thing even though sometimes it's sad.
NoLongerSad Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 All my really intense fantasies, in recent years, revolve around money, not sex.
Woggle Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I know this sounds sick but my ex and I used to watch Natural Born Killer and we would pretend it was us. Sometimes when I watch shows like Pawn Stars and American Pickers it makes me want to get into antiques.
Pyro Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I've fantasized many times about what could've happened had I stuck with playing baseball throughout my youth, High school, and college. I've always thought about being drafted, signing a lucrative contract, playing for my favorite team, and the excitement of playing in the playoffs. I've imagined what I would do with the money I made: where I would go, where I would live, and the custom made home that I would have. I've also fantasized about what I would do if I had mutant powers like the X-Men. OK I have admitted enough for tonight.
Titania22 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Yes all the time, even more when I was a kid. When I was a kid it was all about being popular, talented and doing cool things, having people like me, and only a tiny bit about cute guys. Now I am always younger, they are just as creative, often to do with having superpowers or being a very different situation, and very much about getting the cute guy (in a romantic true love sort of way).
OceanGirl Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 When I was a kid, I had imaginary friends. Seriously. I would "play" with an imaginary friend and imagine what it would be like to be popular. It was probably about 50/50 in my teens between being popular and cute guys. Funnily enough, later on I became pretty popular for a period of time. It was basically when I learned to spin my negativity and eccentricities into humor....mostly by putting myself down. I often wondered if those people were only my friends because they enjoyed feeling superior. Anyhow, I digress.
eerie_reverie Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Oh God. As a kid, my fantasizing was so bad, I was barely ever present in the real world. In my fantasies, I was usually a different person, with a different family, friends, looks, and personality. There were a couple of made-up people I liked to be: a popular girl with a huge family and a group of friends reminiscent of the babysitters club, a girl with an identical twin living in a beach town being raised by a single mother, a enslaved girl in a magical land plotting her escape. I made myself snap out of making up these stories in my head at some point in high school. But the fantasizing didnt stop. Now in my twenties, I have recently gotten out of what was essentially a long-term fantasy relationship with my boss. Id come home to an empty apartment every day for a year and pretend he was with me, that we were cooking dinner together, chilling on the couch, taking a shower, cuddling up in bed. Come to think of it, thats pretty creepy.
dispatch3d Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I used to participate in a lot of fantasy stuff when I was really young. Pretending to be a ninja, etc. etc. Anyhow, when I got older I guess I put more energy into other things. Still fantasy related, mind you. This usually entailed some kind of "addiction" but not a hardcore you-have-a-problem deal. I got good at poker, won like 40k over 2 years and probably 1.5 million hands (winrate per hand not so good haha). The swings of poker, and the intense thought it took to get good at it is probably what attracted me. Now I try to just focus on life stuff, and not deal as much with anything drama/fantasy related. I guess they are one and the same for me now.
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