td1122 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Hello I was recently in a 5 year relationship and was dumped back in April. I loved this girl and pretty much felt like i would marry her someday so I tried my hardest to get her to come back to me, but it didn't work then so I left her alone. After nearly 7 months go by, a few weeks ago she starts calling me and texting me again. I ignored her at first cuz I didn't know what to do and I wanted to see if she would be persistent with calling me which she was. So I eventually called her and she seemed rather excited to hear from me and she even suggested that we have dinner in the near future. I agreed and we made plans for next week. I dont know what is in this for her and I dont understand why she wants to see me all of sudden after not talking to me for a long time. Since I always felt that there was unfinished business, I'm gonna try my hardest to get her back and I was hoping to get some tips on how to correctly handle this situation. Ever since I talked to her the other day I've been wanting to call her all the time and talk but I've held myself back because I don't wanna ruin the slim chance that ive been given. Any sort of guidance would be greatly appreciated.
PowerOfOne Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Caution, caution, caution. You'll have to play it like you are completly indifferent to getting back together. Chances are it's just to catchup as friends. Can you handle a 'i don't want to get back together' or 'i'm seeing someone'? I'm not convinced from your post that you can. Sounds like it would be a bit of a setback. (i know it would for me but it's only been a month). She walked out on you remember. Unless you're no longer a drunk or an addict then there is a very good chance the same issues will come up a second time around. So if you think you can handle a rejection then go for it. If not, i'd be staying away. If by some fortune she is keen on getting back together then i'd say again - Caution, Caution, Caution.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 She is most likely hanging with you because the guy she dumped you for dumped her and she needs attention, or the guy she dumped you for isnt giving her enough attention and she knows you will waste your time with her. Its only been 7 months, so she hasnt forgotten why she dumped you. Whatever reasons she dumped you for, make sure you dont do them. Also you cant act like you want to get back with her. That is a major turn off. You have to act like this date is nothing to you and you dont care about her. She needs to know that you dont need her or you will send her running. You have to at least act like life has been better the moment she left. It will be hard, rehearse it if you have to...act like she isnt attractive to you anymore, and end the date early. You have to remember she is only using you as a buddy, she isnt looking to get back in a relationship with you, so treat her like she is a girl you arent attracted to. If youre going to get into this, you might as well up the game past her expectations. BTW dont tell her ANY of your new business. Treat her like she doesnt deserve to know anything about you. (because she doesnt) Trust me. I will type this again though, she doesnt want you back.
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