jonesec Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I have been in a committed relationship for 5 years, and I feel like not only am I growing into a different person, but we are growing apart. The main point of conflict is out age difference, him being 31, me 22. I knew it might come to mean something, and it has. He has a career, desires to get married, a family, and I am simply not ready for that. For about three months, I have felt unhappy with our chemistry, our connection, our lack of physical contact. I main fear is what is going to happen when we go our separate ways. I have never known anything but life with him. I am worried about finances, about a place to live, and about handling things on my own. I guess that is the main reason I need to do this in the first place- I have no idea how to take care of myself. I am mostly looking for advice on ending a long term relationship, and on coping with suddenly entering the world without any help. That is the first part of my dilemma. The second part is only a few weeks old, and it involves very strong feelings for another man. I cannot believe how strongly I feel for this other guy, who I feel is more of who I picture myself with now. I met my boyfriend five years ago, I was a teenager. I liked him for very different reasons that aren't really relevant as I get older. I cannot believe how confusing it is to feel so strong for someone, while I'm so scared to not be with someone else.
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