xileana Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I've been madly in love with my boyfriend of over four years. He is a perfect boyfriend, and perfectly compatible with me. We get along really well and I could easily see myself spending my life with him, though we're not at the "commitment" stage yet. There's just one problem, and it's really taking a toll. I can't have sex with him. I can get easily aroused, but when it comes to actual sex my libido evaporates and I just don't want to. I never had this problem with anyone else, and didn't have it at the beginning of our relationship. I believe this is because of my ex-boyfriend. Whenever it comes to sex with my current boyfriend, I think about my ex. We still see each other regularly, so I tried to stop seeing him, hoping my feelings would go away. Well, no matter how hard I tried, after two months of being away from my ex and forcing myself to think of other things, I got physically sick from missing him. We have a very strong bond because we were together for a very long time and we've helped other through many hard times over the past 10 years. I'm still very attracted to him, but I would never cheat on my boyfriend. I broke up with my ex for practical reasons, not because of our relationship, but this was a while ago, and I am truly in love with my current boyfriend. I don't know what to think! Please help.
Cracker Jack Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Not trying to be mean, but you need to learn how to stay away from your ex. Constantly seeing him while you're in a relationship with someone else is wrong--whether there's anything going on or not. I'm sure you wouldn't feel good if your current boyfriend was doing the same to you.
Darren Steez Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Sounds like a load of hooey to me, broke up for "Practical Reasons", yet you profess to have a "strong bond", you think of him when you're having sex, you still see him blah blah blah. It seems to me you tried the cold calculating decision making, maybe even you like your practical and nice boyfriend, maybe you even fooled yourself into thinking you love him but you're still making excuses to be with your ex and it only takes one fight or argument before you're making excuses to run back to your ex and he warms your frozen libido. Maybe you better break up with your boyfriend for practical reasons...and save him the heartache that will inevitably follow.
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