mgene15 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 So how many of you begged and pleaded for your ex to get back together with you? how many of you made yourself look desperate and stupid and probably pushed your ex away even further when you got dumped? I no I did, back in septmeber the first weeks of getting dumped I called, texted her alot and basically tried everything to get her back...Then I intiated NC in october and have been NC ever since, just wish I could have started it much sooner.
poorguy Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Everyones done that at some point. I haowever didn't with my most recent ex-I went NC fairly quickly
tobydog Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 yes I begged and pleaded for weeks....more fool me. He wasn't about to take any notice of me then or now...............
alwayshoping Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I did too. For 2 weeks, I asked her to reconsider but also told her I hated her for cheating. She said no because I would never forgive or forget. I agreed and started poring my heart out on fb until my friend after 3 days told me to deactivate it. I did and have been NC ever since! The heartless cow has just left me to it, but I forgive her for everything and am glad I know who she really is. The next girl I get with will be treated so well and my ex and I will hopefully be friends when she has grown up into a non cheating cow who respects me x
shocked_confused Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I cried and asked "why, why, why" the day he dumped me. We had very little contact for about a week after the break up and went completely NC after that. Been broken up for almost 7 weeks and NC for over 5 weeks. I feel a lot better, but I've been thinking about him a little more these past couple days because of Christmas. However there is absolutely noooo way i'm breaking NC to say "merry christmas". So i'll just have to soldier it through the holidays! Thank God i'll be super busy.
SithLord Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Ladies and Gentlemen, take the time and focus of yourself. NC is sole focus is to get "YOU" back, trust me we all been there, my X left me, got married and had kids. I GOT LEAD on, fighting for her to be with me, nothing work. I went into no contact for 3 years before i reach out to her, she was afraid to contact me because she knew i HATED her and she thought about me everyday. She was still in love with me until this day. My recent X I dump off, nc for a month, try going back to her 3 times and didnt work. I went into nc FOR ALmost 2 months focus and improving on myself, and she contact me 2 days ago. Sometimes you have to give people time and space. They have to see that the grass isnt greener on the other side.
Breakupguy12 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I did this before, and it was one of the most embarrassing things I've ever done. It was the first time in my life that I truly fell head over heals in love. Problem was, I was a rebound guy, and she was going through a divorce, so after a 5 month relationship with myself, she kicked me to the curb. The beauty is that I learned so much from that relationship (she stressed communication), that I wouldn't have the successful marriage that I have today if it wasn't for that experience. I still have some of the emails that I sent her begging her to get back with me back in the day, and it's downright painful and embarrassing to look at how lame I must've looked.
Gt.ooh Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Yep, sure did for about 2.5 weeks. Looking back now it was ridiculous...made me look so selfish and needy. It'll be quite some time before we can initiate a proper conversation. Been NC for about 2 months....nothing over the christmas season is my goal.. Had to make brief contact 2 days ago..(for the condo) and that's it. Point here... Just save yourself a lot of trouble by initiating NC.
Breakupguy12 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Yep, sure did for about 2.5 weeks. Looking back now it was ridiculous...made me look so selfish and needy. It'll be quite some time before we can initiate a proper conversation. Been NC for about 2 months....nothing over the christmas season is my goal.. Had to make brief contact 2 days ago..(for the condo) and that's it. Point here... Just save yourself a lot of trouble by initiating NC. *high five's Gt.ooh* Glad I'm not the only one. I made a complete ass of myself. LOL
Gt.ooh Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Indeed you're not the only one breakupguy...there are plenty of us out there and more to join the site yet lol. The way I look at it now, as you've mentioned...is it's nice to not be the only one because that makes it easier to live with now. It's needy and selfish but at the same time when we're in that state there's nothing we can do to stop it because our minds tell us it's what we need to do even though IT'S definitely not ..
strangeways Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Me too. Only 2 days (thank God) then went to NC.
vandelay Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Oh hell yeah, I was such a pathetic prick. I think that in the long run, the embarrassment I brought onto myself during those 2 1/2 weeks will be much harder to deal with than the pain I went through in our 2 1/2 year relationship.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I never pleaded. I did sorta beg for us not to break up over one silly issue. But I shouldn't have because it was over anyway. I dumped her. I had one who left me after 5 years. I didn't want her to go and I don't consider it being dumped. It just had to be. She had children to raise that weren't mine and hid it from me until we were way past getting acquainted. Complicated.
SimonSerenade Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 6 weeks of begging and pleading and it got me nowhere, I made a complete ass out of myself and came across as a very weak fragile being, I wish I had gone no contact a long time ago as I realised the moment I went no contact that there was nothing I could do to prevent what might happen now this relationship has ended and it has to be her decision to come back and not mine. Thankfully I'm feeling miles better now than I was back then
GreenPolicy Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 I never called, texted, emailed, IM'd, showed up in person at work or home. I did send flowers. All the card said was "I love you. I miss you. My heart aches for you." Then I wrote her a letter about 2 weeks after the b/u - not a begging/pleading letter, but just basically saying I respected her decision, I was willing to go to couples counseling to work together to save the relationship, but if she didn't want to do that, then we couldn't stay friends and couldn't stay in touch.
Author mgene15 Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 LOL so it looks like alot of us did "it" ... I look back at it now and laugh, at how dumb,selfish and immature I had acted after the breakup...O well... It is what it is..the important thing is that it ended... at one point or another I just hit the edge and stopped..thank u lord.. because that is the time frame were the hurt is at it's strongest.
make me feel better Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 i did it all. IM,email,call, and everything. nothing worked. didn't even say a word to me after her good bye. this was someone i've known for several years.
Nivasi Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Weeks? Try 8 months! LOL I don't see it as pathetic. Our break-up was due to finances and career (long story) and I know that neither of us stopped loving the other. Depression caused by the economy, his losing his job, feeling inadequate as a man because of those issues, were a huge factor. I thought if he'd just "get over" being depressed and wait out the current economic storm, everything would go back to normal. I was convinced that Love conquers All, if you just stay together and work on the issues as a couple. Promises should not be broken. If you make a Sacred Vow before God to Love, Honor, Cherish, you Keep it....through financial trouble, separations due to factors you can't control, and asteroids hitting the earth and destroying all life as we know it. It wasn't as if we abused each other, were alcoholics, criminals, addicts, neither cheated...we had financial trouble. It's not something you get a divorce over. He didn't see it that way. I'm not embarrassed by the late night calls, the letters, the emails, yes, the drunken rages and crying and pleading. I can walk away now saying, I did everything humanly possible to save my marriage. He was the one who walked away, who broke his Vows....and within months found a woman whose career didn't "emasculate" him. He's the one who has no "sticky power", who, when the going got tough, he got Going, and took the Easy Path, rather than the honorable one. And the irony is, the Economy in my current city is Booming. You'd never know there was a Recession here. If he had come with me, stuck with me through thick and thin, none of this would have been necessary. Instead, he's living at home with Mummy, struggling to pay his bills. But regret? Embarrassment? No, not at all. I have a clear conscious.
BlindRage Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 So how many of you begged and pleaded for your ex to get back together with you? how many of you made yourself look desperate and stupid and probably pushed your ex away even further when you got dumped? I no I did, back in septmeber the first weeks of getting dumped I called, texted her alot and basically tried everything to get her back...Then I intiated NC in october and have been NC ever since, just wish I could have started it much sooner. Hahah I did, she told me how pathetic I was being and that she didn't love me nor cared about me anymore. I wish I had the will power earlier to stop talking to her but now I guess It's time to NC. This will be a long road for me but one step at a time is how I'll tackle it.
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